Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate

Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate

by Justin Lee


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Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate by Justin Lee

As a teenager and young man, Justin Lee felt deeply torn. Nicknamed "God Boy" by his peers, he knew that he was called to a life in the evangelical Christian ministry. But Lee harbored a secret: He also knew that he was gay. In this groundbreaking book, Lee recalls the events—his coming out to his parents, his experiences with the "ex-gay" movement, and his in-depth study of the Bible—that led him, eventually, to self-acceptance.

But more than just a memoir, TORN provides insightful, practical guidance for all committed Christians who wonder how to relate to gay friends or family members—or who struggle with their own sexuality. Convinced that "in a culture that sees gays and Christians as enemies, gay Christians are in a unique position to bring peace," Lee demonstrates that people of faith on both sides of the debate can respect, learn from, and love one another.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781455514311
Publisher: FaithWords
Publication date: 11/13/2012
Pages: 272
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

Justin Lee is the founder and executive director of The Gay Christian Network (GCN), a nonprofit, interdenominational organization working to increase dialogue between gays and Christians and support people on both sides wrestling with related issues.

A passionate Christian from a conservative evangelical background, Justin thought he knew everything there was to know about the Christian approach to homosexuality-until unexpected events turned his world upside down and forced him to reconsider everything he believed. Today, his organization works with individuals, families, and churches to stop the debate from tearing people apart.

Justin's work has garnered national attention and praise from gays and Christians from across the theological spectrum. He has been featured in numerous print, radio, and television venues including Dr. Phil, Anderson Cooper 360, the Associated Press, and a front page article in The New York Times. He is the director of the 2009 documentary Through My Eyes about the debate's impact on young Christians, and the co-host of popular long-running podcast GCN Radio. Justin lives in Raleigh, NC.

Table of Contents

Author's Note ix

Chapter 1 Battle of the Century 1

Chapter 2 God Boy 12

Chapter 3 The Struggle 19

Chapter 4 The Truth Comes Out 27

Chapter 5 Why Are People Gay? 51

Chapter 6 Justin in Exgayland 70

Chapter 7 That the Man Should Be Alone 97

Chapter 8 South Park Christians 106

Chapter 9 The Poisoned Yeast 125

Chapter 10 Faith Assassins 135

Chapter 11 The Other Side 148

Chapter 12 Back to the Bible 168

Chapter 13 Whatever Commandment There May Be 191

Chapter 14 Lightning Rod 209

Chapter 15 The Way Forward 226

Notes 255

What People are Saying About This

Rowan Williams

This book is full of three things that are not always much in evidence in our debates on sexuality—fresh air, common sense and manifest love of Christ. What makes it different is that it is not essentially about arguing a case but abut bridging the gaps of understanding and sympathy that (inside and outside the Church) have distorted or muffled the overwhelming miracle of Gods gift in Christ and in Scripture. I welcome it very warmly.

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Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 19 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This was amazing. Must read for everyone on any side of this "culture war"!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This chronicles a young man who was brought up in a very conservative Christian family and community and is, in fact, a strong believer having his own personal faith in Christ. As he comes into puberty, he realizes he is attracted only to other males and rather than females. He looks very critically and honestly into God's will for him by looking at scripture. Please read this book... it might surprise might not. But his story and resulting ministry is very powerful.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Unbelievably moving, well-written, well-researched, logical... basically perfect. Thank you, sir, for writing this. Thank you so much.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a must read for all of us! Learning my grandson was gay, i immediately wanted to help "change" him and reassure him that we loved him despite his sin. As if i didn't have any of my own. I need to apologize ASAP! This book was easily readable, full of information from "the other side". We need to let these men and women TALK and then we need to LISTEN! READ THIS BOOK!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book has been a long time coming. I will be giving this to a lot of people. The best work written on gays and the church.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Loved the way it was written to the last word.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I find it difficult to put into words how helpful this book was to me. I am a Gay Christian struggling thru life, trying to figure out who I am and how to live my life. I cannot thank Justin Lee enough for helping me to understand that I am not alone and that I can be a Christian, even though, I am gay. I would say this is a must read for any one struggling with being gay and for family and friends of a gay person.
Joelds More than 1 year ago
Well written autobiography of the author's personal struggle with his being gay and his strong religious beliefs. The book offers several pearls of spiritual wisdom which itself makes the book worth reading. The book is hard for me to summarize but it was well worth my time.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Excellent book. Everyone should read this.
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ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Brenda Ballard for Readers' Favorite Justin Lee has known God's love since childhood. He lives his Christianity and it is no secret that this is who he is. He felt the call of the Lord to work in His service and knew that was what he wanted to do with his life. He also knew he was gay, something he kept suppressed for a very long time. Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate is Mr. Lee's story of coming out, struggling with where his beliefs could be found in the Bible, dealing with how people treated him, and how many perspectives there could be in one Body of Christ. Written with the tenderness of heartache and healing, this book helps the reader understand this controversial subject and how God sees it.  It had to take a lot of guts for Justin Lee to write Torn. Anybody who has been put in the awkward situation of one Christian denying another will know how deep from the heart this experience comes. This is a very controversial subject in the church but Justin doesn't make the reader feel like they are in some struggle between wrong or right. He has managed to write his experiences with brotherly love and a passion for God. This would make a great gift for family and friends who struggle with their own or loved ones' personal choices. Libraries would benefit in areas where struggling teens can access the book without worry.
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