Toughness: Developing True Strength On and Off the Court

Toughness: Developing True Strength On and Off the Court


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ESPN basketball analyst and former Duke player Jay Bilas looks at the true meaning of toughness in this New York Times bestselling book that features stories from basketball legends.

If anyone knows tough, it’s Jay Bilas. A four-year starter at Duke, he learned a strong work ethic under Coach Mike Krzyzewski. After playing professionally overseas, he returned to Duke, where he served as Krzyzewski’s assistant coach for three seasons, helping to guide the Blue Devils to two national championships. He has since become one of basketball’s most recognizable faces through his insightful analysis on ESPN’s SportsCenter and College GameDay.

Through his ups and downs on and off the court, Bilas learned the true meaning of toughness from coaches, teammates, and colleagues. Now, in Toughness, he examines this misunderstood—yet vital—attribute and how it contributes to winning in sports and in life. Featuring never-before-heard stories and personal philosophies on toughness from top players and coaches, including Coach K, Bob Knight, Grant Hill, Mia Hamm, Jon Gruden, Tom Izzo, Roy Williams, Bill Self, Curtis Strange, and many others—Bilas redefines what it takes to succeed.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780451414670
Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date: 03/05/2013
Pages: 272
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.20(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Jay Bilas is one of the most widely recognized voices in sports. He is a regular analyst and color commentator on SportsCenter, ESPN game broadcasts, the wildly popular College GameDay, and coverage of the NCAA Final Four and NBA Draft. He was a four-year starter at Duke and helped lead the team to the Final Four. He played three seasons in Europe before signing on as assistant coach to Coach K from 1990-1992, during which time Duke won back-to-back national titles. He is currently a partner at the law firm Moore and Van Allen.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Foreword xiii

Introduction: Toughness Defined 1

Chapter 1 Trust 21

Chapter 2 Preparation 51

Chapter 3 Courage 83

Chapter 4 Communication 101

Chapter 5 Persistence 119

Chapter 6 Next Play 151

Chapter 7 Commitment 161

Chapter 8 Acceptance 183

Chapter 9 Resilience 207

Chapter 10 Self-evaluation 223

Epilogue: Hope 233

Defining Toughness in College Hoops 245

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“Honest and inspiring, Jay Bilas explores the many tenets of toughness and shares personal stories and interviews with some of the best athletes and coaches. Toughness is critical to gaining an edge in sports and life, and this book provides lessons to help you succeed from a well-respected expert.”—Jim Nantz

“If you want the true definition of toughness as it relates to sports and life, this is a must read. Jay Bilas has acquired a wealth of knowledge from his basketball career as a player, coach, and analyst. Jay’s descriptions and illustrations are ‘Awesome, Baby’ with a capital A!”—Dick Vitale, ESPN

“Jay Bilas gives meaning to one of the most overused words in sports. Bilas explains the complexity of acquiring and utilizing all aspects of toughness, be it mental or physical, both on and off the playing field. It is a great description of a concept and value we all need in our lives.”—Hall of Fame coach Jim Calhoun

Tough it out. Be tough. Stay tough. How often do we hear that in sports and life? It’s the go-to answer for any problem. We all want toughness. Jay Bilas take this intangible concept and gives it concrete meaning. The inspiring and humbling stories of truly tough people are written artfully and show that being tough isn’t just a catchall cliché. It’s a transforming personal value. Jay does a brilliant job illustrating why toughness is a quality I want to cultivate in my life every day.”—Rece Davis, ESPN

“Make sure you are holding a yellow highlighter when you read this book. There is an incredible amount of wit and wisdom in these pages, thanks to the dedication, hard work, and—yes—toughness Jay Bilas demonstrated by talking to all of these people. Reading this book won’t make you tough, but it will teach you how to get there.”—Seth Davis, Sports Illustrated and CBS Sports

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A must read for anyone searching for the true meaning of toughness in athletics, business, and life. The book is filled with inspiring stories and lessons from some of the most successful individuals in their fields that clearly illustrate what it takes to be a tougher teammate, leader, or friend. The book clearly outlines how toughness is a skill that can be developed through many different components that Bilas breaks down in each chapter. It is a warm hearted read that goes by very quickly. I am really glad to have purchased this book and highly recommend it. I have and will continue to apply the lessons I learned to my everyday life. Thank you for sharing your stories and thoughts Mr. Bilas.
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I love his book it is so inspiring
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Er...I'm locked out now. For some unexplained reason. So, if anyone sees this...we're moving to "Jay Life" res whatever.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
We need to move camp
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Map:<br> Result 1&3: Main Camp<br> Result 2: Map<br> Result 4: Chatroom (There, you can be ooc and don't have to rp a cat.)<br> Result 6: Bios<br> Result 7: Fresh-Kill Pile (Whatever you hunt goes there, and if your cat is hungry, take food from there.)<br> Result 8: High-Log (The deputy will anounce daily patrols there too.)<br> Result 9: Leader's Den (Talk to the leader about problems, and who needs ceremonies, etc.)<br> Result 10: Medicine Cat's Den<br> Result 11: Nursery<br> Result 12: Apprentice's Den<br> Result 13: Warrior's Den<br> Result 14: Elder's Den<br> Result 15: The Clearing Around Camp (the map of the forest is here)<p> If your cat is going hunting, or to the medicine cat den, or to sleep, etc., make sure to actually make your cat go there. You can post in camp 'Silverstar is in her den.', but then make sure to go to the den and also post there. Additionally, if you are an apprentice, warrior, queen, kit, elder or medicine cat, you would not spend all of your time in the clearing. Make sure to hang out in the den too, again posting at camp where you are. I also worked really hard to actually make a forest, so go there too. There are different conditions in different areas, including prey, sun, and instructions for weather. I even made a twoleg area and borders. Please use them, and also go to the area that best suites your needs. Again, post at camp where you are.<p> The Warrior Code:<br> 1. Defend your Clan, even with your life. You may have friendships with cats from other clans, but your loyalty must remain to your Clan, as one day you may meet them in battle.<br> 2. Do not hunt or tresspass or other Clan's territory.<br> 3. Elders, queens and kits must be fed before apprentices and warriors. Unless they have permission, apprentoces may not eat until they have hunted to feed the elders. If any warrior or apprentice is sick or injured, they may eat while the elders, queens and kits are eating.<br> 4. Prey is only to be eaten. Give thanks to Starclan for it's life.<br> 5. A kit must be 6 moons old to become an apprentice.<br> 6. Newly appointed warriors will keep a silent vigil for one noght after receiving their warrior name.<br> 7. A cat cannot be made deputy without mentoring at least one apprentice.<br> 8. The deputy will become clan vleader when the leader dies, retires or is exiled.<br> 9. After death or retirement of the deputy, the new deputy must be choosen before moonhigh.<br> 10. A gathering of all four Clans is held at the full moon during a truce that lasts the night. There shall be no fighting amoung Clans at this time.<br> 11. Boundaries must be marked and checked daily. Challenge all tresspassing cats.<br> 12. No warrior can neglect a kit in pain or danger, even if the kit is from a different clan.<br> 13. The word of the Clan Leadee is the warrior code.<br> 14. An honorable warrior does not need to kill other cats to win his/her battles, unless they are outsode the warrior code or it is nessesary for self-defense.<br> 15. A warrior rejects the soft life of a kittypet.<br> 16. Each Clan has the right to be independent, but in times of trouble they must forget their boundaries and fight side by side to protect the four. Each clan must help the others so that no Clan will fall.<p> Jayclan follows the warrior code. We also will have weather, times of day, and seasons. The leader will post at the beginning of the day the weather for the day. Every week, it is a new season. The time is ET.<p> ~$ilverstar
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Ritch77 More than 1 year ago
It has been said often &ldquo;experience is the best teacher&rdquo; and I have often said, &ldquo;real leadership skill is forged by overcoming adversity.&rdquo; Jay Bilas dispels many myths about &ldquo;toughness&rdquo; in his excellent book, one that is especially valuable for anyone seeking success in his or her chosen career. Sports buffs, military history lovers, science reporters and middle managers everywhere take note: this volume offers numerous examples you can use in your workplace, home, church or next volunteer assignment. Whether you enjoy sports or not and whether or not you&rsquo;re a fan of Coach K, John Wooden, Jackie Robinson, Jim or John Harbaugh, Colin Powell, Jack Welch and many others who developed the required &ldquo;toughness&rdquo; to excel in life, you will nonetheless profit as I have from reading what Jay Bilas has written. Ritch K. Eich, Ph.D Author, Real Leaders Don&rsquo;t Boss (Career Press) President, Eich Associated and Captain, USNR (Ret)
Jay_Andrew More than 1 year ago
Great book about toughness, whether you are a basketball fan or not. Great advice on how to be tough in athletics as well as how to be tough at work and in life.