Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

by Susan Forward
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Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.

When you were a child...

Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless?

Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?

Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?

Were you frightened of your parents?

Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?

Now that you are an adult...

Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?

Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?

Do your parents control you with threats or guilt?

Do they manipulate you with money?

Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents?

In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780307575326
Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
Publication date: 12/16/2009
Sold by: Random House
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 59,600
File size: 2 MB

About the Author

Susan Forward, Ph.D., is an internationally renowned therapist, lecturer, and author of the number one New York Times bestsellers Toxic Parents and Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them, as well as Betrayal of Innocence: Incest and Its Devastation, Money Demons, Emotional Blackmail, When Your Lover Is a Liar, and Toxic In-Laws.

In addition to her private practice, for five years she hosted a daily ABC talk-radio program. She has also served widely as a group therapist, instructor, and consultant in many southern California medical and psychiatric facilities, and she formed the first private sexual abuse treatment center in California. She lives in Los Angeles and has two grown children.

Dr. Forward maintains offices in Sherman Oaks, California. For further information, call (818) 986-1161.

Craig Buck, a film and television writer and producer, has also written extensively on human behavior for many national magazines and newspapers. He is the co-author, with Susan Forward, of Toxic Parents, Betrayal of Innocence, and Money Demons. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and daughter.

From the Trade Paperback edition.

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Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 36 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
After reading this book, I had a new understanding of why people behave the way they do and how they rationalize. It helps to understand not only parents, but people in our everyday lives. Being a victim of abuse myself, The book helped me towards my next step with tools in hand...Therapy. The tools I still carry today! I had to read one chapter at a time and rest between chapters because what is described could have been written about me, I soon found myself dogearring the pages and writing comments. No longer the victim- this book was my first step towards recovery and I highly recommend it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
In a perfect world we all would of had something like Ward & June Cleaver for parents. Unfortunately for many of us we had parents that did things to us that are difficult for us to even talk about. Either they drank all the time, constantly put us down, beat us, or even sexually assaulted us. Traditional info said things like 'spare the rod, spoil the child'. We have come a long way since then, and know better. Mis-information like that only encouraged and justified child beating. Also, you may have been brought up to 'honor your father and mother' with the implication that you dont question anything or ever confront them about anything. There is good reason why Susan Forward's book, Toxic Parents spent some time as #1 on the NY Times bestseller list. She tells you about many people who have come to her for therapy. They came to her due to things like gross neglect, verbal abuse, physical abuse, and sexual assault they received from their parents. Susan shows you how some people have been helped by her after experiences like those. What is especially interesting in this book is Susan's recommendation of confrontation in the healing process. The book is filled with examples of people who have confronted their parents about the years of abuse they had to endure. Susan emphasizes that it is important for those who have suffered from abusive parents to realize that they are not the ones who are guilty for what their parents have done to them. The book isn't intended to replace going to therapy, instead it is meant to educate the reader that therapy can and does work for those who suffered as innocent children by the people who should have been loving, caring and protective to them...their parents!
Alterboy More than 1 year ago
As with many other "toxic parent" books, no coverage is given to the issue of strong dogmatic parental religiosity and the "hand off" of the child to an abusive religious educational system (mainstream or cult). The issue of overly religious parents who use dogmatic religious beliefs to give authority to their abuse seems to be a minefield authors avoid. Dr Forward too, hides from mention of this type of psychological abuse. After the adult child of toxic parents confronts those parents, how are they then supposed to confront the angry, over bearing, all powerful god figure who was in league with the parents and may be no more real than Santa Claus or the Boogie Man?
Guest More than 1 year ago
When this was recommended to me, I thought only one parent would fall into the 'toxic' categories. I realized that the other is a factor in what had happened. Unfortunately, my circumstances will not change, but I can now try to work on moving forward for ME.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I applaud the book - I kept reading it thinking 'How does she know my family.' This was the best written book I have found on seeing the bigger picture for toxic family dynamics. I think I would change the title, so it doesn't sound so blaming - for this is a pattern passed on from generation to generation. Reading this book helped me see the patterns in general, guilt, favoritism... which helped me seperate myself from these dynamics. Knowing that there are alot more families like mine-helped me to better understand my parents - and find forgiveness. It is helpful to see that the toxic behavior is about them and not about you.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I first read this book after checking it out from the library. I knew that I had to have my own copy to help me work on my history of emotional and physical abuse. I am still using it, and refer to it whenever I feel the need to or when I need to work on my recovery. It is easy to understand and helps you locate your problem areas and provides potential solutions to help you work on your treatment and recovery.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book clarified all the things unsaid in AA, Al-Anon, CoDa and by my expensive psychologist! I wish I had read this in 1961. It is nice that maybe my children and the rest of my family can be spared a lot of pain.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is a good first step to understanding how much parents' treatment of their children has effects on the children all the way into adulthood. If you're struggling with your relationship with a parent, a spouse, or others, this book sheds light on how a lot of 'baggage' you bring to relationships is carried with you since childhood. You'll probably read a lot in this book that doesn't apply to you, but there will be plenty of passages that you'll read and say 'hey, that's me (or my mom, dad, etc)'. The book helps put words to the 'stuff' rattling around in your head, and makes things look clearer. It's something that the parents should read, as well, because they probably have their own 'baggage' that they never dealt with.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book changed my life. It was one of the most healing books I have ever read. My former therapist recommended this to me while I was in counseling. This book spoke to me and I followed its recommendations. It was incredibly healing. I wholeheartedly recommend this book.
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brighterfuture More than 1 year ago
verbally abused since six this book has made realize one i am Not alone and all the steps that i am taking to move on and accept mom for who she is and accept who she will ever be . i highly recomment this book
PMStorer1977 More than 1 year ago
This book gave me insight on others that were abused as children. Adults that had no idea, how the abuse in their childhoods affected them in their adult lives. In there careers, relationships, with the raising of their own children, and decision making. Even with the parents being passed away, it showed how they seemed to control the adult. After Reading this book, I had a new understanding on how to deal with others in my life. I learned to let people go, that were Toxic and hurt me all the time, that were not willing to change, who would drink and do illicent drugs around me and my children and were abusive, physically and phsychologically towards me and my children (this sadly included immediate family members, such as my siblings). I hoped for years they would change, but they saw nothing wrong with themselves, and blamed and saw everything wrong with me, just like my mother did as I was growing up. I felt the world lift off my shoulders as I began to let this go and start the steps to healing while teaching myself and my children to have healthy relationships. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK..AND HAVE TOLD MANY OTHERS ABOUT IT..I AM NO LONGER A VICITM..I AM A SURVIVOR..I AM WRITING A BOOK MYSELF NOW ABOUT MY CHILDHOOD, SO THAT OTHERS CAN OVER COME AND CONQUER THEIR DEMONS AS WELL!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Thank You for allowing the "world" to see into a perfect world where just because one wasn't spanked or abused in the conventional ways and should be grateful for the wonderful life they were given somehow the damage has led them down a path of destruction. This book is a catalyst for those of us born into a wealthy southern family, wanted for nothing, yet somehow we are broken because we were the one's that hid our mother's secrets from the world like good southern women do, and then we hid ours also. We take on the role of protector, confidante, best friend, at an early age, and then find ourselves in relationships we have no business being in and being blamed for our stupidity...."How could we throw our wonderful lives away like that?" Now we watch our daughters follow suit because of our low self esteem and the saga continues from the "The Stepford 50's Syndrome" So thank you, and I hope knowledge is power....eventually... Yours Truly, Stepford
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DSDJ More than 1 year ago
I believe it's a good book, considering the difficult topic. If you feel identified with the questions on the back cover, you probably need to read the book. It's really helpful and I felt liike if Dr. Forward knows me and my situation. HOWEVER, I believe that one must take the book as a good piece of advice which should be thoroughly thought before acting.
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