Attract the Love You're Longing For
Tune into Love offers you an exciting new process for attracting the loving partner you seek. By using Vibrational Matching, you'll attract exactly the right person at the right time in your life.
McCraw, a psychotherapist who routinely helps singles find the relationship they desire, describes Vibrational Matching as the deliberate intention to energize your desires by vibrating at a level equal to them. In other words, once you get the good vibes flowing, you truly can make your dreams a reality.
McCraw shows you how to sidestep the self-imposed roadblocks that hold you back from fulfillment. She offers four essential steps for focusing your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs:
- Create "feel-good" moments
- Identify your desires
- Activate your intentions
- Release the outcome
The best part: not only does Tune into Love tell you how to attract the partner of your dreams, but following these steps will help keep your relationship strong, loving, and vital for years to come.
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Tune Into Love
Attract Romance Through the Power of Vibrational Matching
By Margaret McCraw
Hampton Roads Publishing Company, Inc.Copyright © 2005 Margaret McCraw, Ph.D.
All rights reserved.
Attract through Vibration
Expand in consciousness—be ready to accept anything now, at any time.
What Are Vibrations?
For a brief moment, visualize yourself in a spaceship far out in the Universe, looking at all the planets and stars that surround you. You see patterns of energy moving in wave formations similar to patterns in the ocean. This movement of energy in wave formations is called vibrations. Each "space wave" consists of particles that vibrate at the same level. The rate of movement of these particles is known as frequency.
Particles within you project waves of energy. That energy expands outward from you in a cosmic dance, attracting and responding to frequencies of the same level in the Universe. All of life is a harmonious interaction with energy.
We all engage in this powerful process of transmitting and receiving vibrations, every moment of our lives. This energy exchange reflects back to us in the form of people and circumstances that we attract and allow into our life experiences—impacting finances, health, career, and our relationships.
You are perceived by the Universe as a vibration. Your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions make up your consciousness, which is interpreted by everything in the Universe as energy.
At one time it was believed that matter and energy were separate entities, but quantum physics has revealed that all matter, including human beings, pulsates with energy. Even the smallest particles of matter are not solid, but are actually compressed vibrating energy. In fact, everything vibrates at its own unique frequency, creating what we perceive as light, color, heat, solid matter, sound, and electromagnetic fields.
Sound waves cover a wide range of frequencies and are often undetected by our ears as well as being invisible to the human eye. Children can often hear higher frequencies than adults. Cats, dogs, and even dolphins have the ability to hear at a much greater range than humans. Even though humans cannot hear as wide a range of sounds as some animals, these frequencies are detected by our bodies, connecting us with energy that matches our own rates of vibration.
Our bodies have an electrical system that responds to other vibrational frequencies. For example, when two frequencies are attuned to each other, they are said to be in resonance with each other. In resonance, the vibratory source produces waves that impart energy to objects and other living things. If these objects, individuals, or other life-forms have the same frequency, they will be set in motion too. Resonance is the fundamental principle of the Law of Attraction, or "like attracts like," which is universal and affects everything we attract.
In fact, when you strike the C string of a harp or violin, all the other octave strings of C begin to vibrate even though untouched by your hand. While other strings also absorb the energy of the plucked string, only those with the same frequency are set in motion.
The Physical Chemistry of Romance
During the early phase of romantic attraction, our bodies respond chemically by releasing neurotransmitters, which create a bright perspective on life, higher levels of energy, a fast pulse, and a sharper perception. "The brain increases its production of endorphins and enkephalins, natural narcotics, enhancing a person's sense of security and comfort." In the release of these powerful natural chemicals, romantic love is an intense physical experience that can truly be intoxicating.
The Psychological Chemistry of Romance
Each of us offers a distinct vibration for every desire we have. Our dominant vibration is what magnetizes our experiences, and is determined by the combined frequency of our thoughts, beliefs, and feelings regarding a particular desire. Romantic chemistry occurs because the dominant vibrational frequencies of two individuals are in resonance.
Most of us think that romantic chemistry is a mystery, but this is not true. When two individuals are in resonance, whatever they think, feel, and believe about themselves will be reflected back to them through each other. For instance, if you truly love yourself, you will feel a strong magnetic attraction to someone who can offer you genuine love. However, if you think you are unworthy of love, you will feel a strong magnetic attraction to someone who affirms this belief. If you think you are unattractive, you will resonate with someone who reinforces this belief. The stronger the resonance between two people, the stronger will be the chemistry or magnetic attraction.
Most of us are not conscious of the type of person with whom we resonate. For example, Renee met Lewis at a singles dance. She was very attracted to him the moment she saw him across the room, even though he did not match her usual preference for a tall, slender, and dark-haired man. Her heart immediately started palpitating as she began thinking of ways she could introduce herself. Once Renee struck up a conversation with Lewis, he was immediately captivated with her bubbly personality.
When they first started dating, Lewis was kind, considerate, and open to sharing intimate feelings. Renee was ecstatic about having attracted someone who seemed so different from men she had dated previously.
However, within six months of dating, things started to change rapidly. Lewis's thoughtfulness and openness became almost nonexistent. He wanted to stay home most evenings and watch television rather than spend time with Renee. He would promise that Saturday nights were "theirs" to do whatever they wanted, and then would decide at the last moment to rent a video of his choice, inviting Renee to watch it with him.
When Renee tried to talk with Lewis about her concerns, he would turn and walk away, leaving her more frustrated than ever. She started pressuring him persistently about spending more time together, which turned Lewis off and pushed him further away.
Renee has a long history of attracting men who are inconsistent in their ability to follow through with promises and in openly sharing their feelings with her. On the other hand, Renee is different from the type of man she usually attracts. She has a high degree of integrity; she is an excellent communicator and enjoys having intimate and in-depth conversations with a partner. However, her vibration is aligned with someone who lacks integrity and is emotionally unavailable, because she focuses attention on her fear of attracting someone who does not have the attributes she desires.
For years since Renee's divorce, she has gone out to dinner with her friends each week and complained about her frustrations with men. By focusing attention on the things she does not want in a relationship, Renee has unconsciously aligned her vibration to magnetically attract a man who mirrors her frustrations. She is, in fact, a perfect vibrational match for what she fears, rather than what she desires.
Conversely, it was not surprising that Lewis attracted Renee. He had ended a marriage a few years earlier, and was angry and disheartened. It was not a coincidence that he and Renee were magnetized to each other, for it was their dominant vibration of fear, anger, and discontent in their previous relationships that brought them together.
Persistent thoughts and beliefs about ourselves, in conjunction with strong emotion, become the dominate vibration that magnetizes romance.
The stronger and more positive our dominant vibration is about a particular desire, the more quickly we will become a vibrational match to it. There are three components to creating our dominant vibration.
a. the frequency or intensity of the desire
b. the frequency or feeling tone associated with the desire
c. the frequency or strength of our belief associated with the desire
Clarity in conjunction with the level of enthusiasm for the desire represents the intensity of the desire. For example, how important is it to you that you attract a relationship?
The feeling tone, which can be positive or negative, is the intensity of the passion associated with a particular desire. For example, a positive feeling tone could be expressed as, "I am so excited that Paul and I are dating. I really like him a lot."
Belief is a factor in whether or not the feeling tone is positive or negative. If our belief is strong, then the feeling tone is more likely to be positive. If our belief is weak, then our feeling tone is more likely to be negative. For example, Sue told her best friend, "I'll never find someone who has the qualities I am looking for in a mate." In this example the feeling tone is negative and reflects a weak belief, which translates into a dominate vibration with a low frequency.
When we are not aware of our persistent thoughts and what we are giving attention to, we unconsciously create our dominant vibration, attracting our relationships. When we are aware of our thoughts, beliefs, and corresponding emotions with regard to ourselves and our romantic desires, we consciously create our dominant vibration, attracting our relationships.
Part 2 of this book teaches you how to consciously attract a romantic relationship by creating a vibration that magnetizes your desires. Becoming aware of your thoughts, beliefs, and corresponding emotions—as you correlate them with the relationships and experiences you are attracting—is a prerequisite for consciously creating what you desire.
While psychotherapy is not a prerequisite to becoming self-aware, it can be very helpful if the therapist understands vibrational alignment and helps you to: 1) identify your dominate vibration; 2) create resonance with your desires; and 3) reinforce your wholeness.
Thoughts and Emotions Are Living Things
You might be asking yourself, how can my unspoken thoughts and hidden emotions affect the type of person I attract into my experience? Following are some examples of research on the power of thoughts and emotions.
Dr. Masaru Emoto, author of The Hidden Message in Water, discovered from his worldwide research that vibrational energy in the form of thoughts, words, ideas, and music affects the molecular structure of water. Positive thoughts such as love and gratitude, as well as prayer, organized the water into a configuration resembling a snowflake, whereas negative thoughts created a chaotic pattern.
Dr. Emoto's photographs demonstrate that water is alive with energy, and highly responsive to our emotions and thoughts. This research has strong implications for humans, since our physical bodies are composed of at least 65 percent water. Humans and other living things, like water, absorb the vibrations projected onto them and respond accordingly by creating healthy or unhealthy patterns. The patterns we create are within our control.
Dr. David Hawkins, well-known psychiatrist and physician, used kinesiology, the study of muscles, to research highand low-energy attractor fields to calibrate human consciousness. Hawkins demonstrated the ability of all human beings to influence the vibration of others through their thoughts. His research, spanning more than 20 years, is outlined in his book Power vs. Force.
Hawkins revealed that it is possible for individuals to make positive leaps in consciousness by choosing thoughts aligned with unconditional love. His research validates that the more we attune to a loving state of being, which is nonjudgmental and ever present, regardless of external factors, we align with the vibrational frequencies of the higher energy attractor fields.
In releasing (relinquishing) judgment, we can't help but magnetize loving energy around ourselves. Self-love— reflected in our level of confidence, sense of security, and self-esteem—is the powerful launching pad from which we attract love from others. If we feel loving toward ourselves, we attract others who feel the same way about us. If we feel unloving, fearful, or needy, we attract relationships that reinforce this vibration within us. What we vibrate becomes our reality. By cherishing and honoring ourselves, we have access to others who genuinely love us.
Thoughts are Communicated through Psychic Phenomena
Since primeval times, people across cultures have reported profound psychic experiences that demonstrate a strong interconnectedness among all people. Psychic phenomena, or what is sometimes called paranormal or psi (pronounced letter by letter: p, s, i), include telepathy, clairvoyance/remote viewing, precognition, extrasensory perception (ESP), psychokinesis, mental interactions with living organisms, and field consciousness. Related psychic phenomena include reincarnation; synchronicity; and life-after-death interactions such as clairaudience, out-of-body experiences (OBE), and near-death experiences (NDE). Table 1, located at the end of this chapter, defines specific psychic phenomena, giving examples and a brief update on current scientific research.
During the second half of the twentieth century, scientific research concluded that everything in the Universe is interconnected, demonstrated by more than a thousand experiments investigating psychic phenomena. This interconnection is an important factor in understanding how our thoughts and beliefs, coupled with emotion—hence our vibration—are the basis for attracting our experiences. It also explains, scientifically, how each individual's vibration influences the vibration of others without regard to space and time. Reviewing the examples of psychic phenomena in table 1 will help you understand how this interconnectedness of all things and all people is interwoven within our daily lives. You will also come to realize that you have probably experienced and benefited from psychic phenomena many times in your life. In a 1987 survey, 67 percent of adults in the U.S. reported they had experienced psychic phenomena.
In his book The Conscious Universe, Dean Radin tells us about Andrew Greeley, a sociologist at the University of Arizona who was curious about the psychological well-being of people reporting psychic experiences. Greeley decided to test these individuals using the Affect Balance Scale of psychological well-being, a standard psychological test used to measure healthy personality. Individuals tested received very high scores, indicating emotional/psychological health. According to the psychologist who developed the scale, there had been no other factor that had ever been found to correlate so significantly with well-being.
Studies of psychic phenomena demonstrate that human potential has been severely underestimated, that science has just begun to understand the true nature of the Universe, and that outcomes that transcend reality, often referred to as "miracles," can easily be created by human consciousness. Science has shown, without a doubt, that our mind is unlimited and that we are able to tune into a Universal consciousness that transcends our ordinary understanding of space and time. They are demonstrating, through research of psychic phenomena, the abundance of the Universe, and that we create our own reality through our vibration.
This is very exciting information and has an impact on all aspects of our life, specifically with regard to creating our dreams. No longer are we limited to thinking and believing that attracting love is by chance. No longer do we need to "buy into" the belief that there is a scarcity of eligible and desirable men and women. No longer do we need to wake up six months after we are married to discover that we attracted exactly what we did not want. We have control over our mind and our emotions, thus creating a vibration that gives us ultimate control over whom we magnetize romantically and otherwise.
As you read this book and learn to raise your vibration, you are sending a clear signal to the Universe that you are open to assistance in fulfilling your desires. Be willing to say yes to all the help that arrives, and in doing so you will access the powerful universal consciousness. Assistance will arrive in ways you have not thought possible, including meaningful coincidences, sharpened intuition, telepathy, and perhaps other psychic phenomena. It is helpful to understand that experiences with psi are simply the Universe's way of acknowledging your intentions and offering help. Examples of others who opened up to messages from the Universe are provided below to prepare you for your own interactions with the higher, faster frequencies of the entire Universe, enabling you to attract your desires.
Excerpted from Tune Into Love by Margaret McCraw. Copyright © 2005 Margaret McCraw, Ph.D.. Excerpted by permission of Hampton Roads Publishing Company, Inc..
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Table of Contents
Foreword by Alan Cohen,
Part One: Create through Consciousness,
Chapter One: Attract through Vibration,
Chapter Two: Vibrational Matching,
Chapter Three: Awaken to a Higher Guidance,
Part Two: Becoming a Vibrational Match to Your Desires,
Chapter Four: Essentials for Attracting Love,
Chapter Five: Frequency One: Create "Feel-Good" Moments,
Chapter Six: Frequency Two: Identify Your Desires,
Chapter Seven: Frequency Three: Activate Your Intentions,
Chapter Eight: Frequency Four: Release the Outcome,
Part Three: Frequently Asked Questions,
Frequently Asked Questions about Attracting a Relationship,
About the Author,
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