Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Makeby Sherrie Eldridge
Adoptees working through the issues surrounding their birth can face grief, anger, and questions about their identity. Drawing on the stories of more than 70 adoptees, Sherrie Eldridge shows adoptees how to discover their unique life purpose and worth. The 20 life-transforming choices for adoptees discussed in this book can change your life. They’ll help you discover answers about issues such as:
- Why do I feel angry or ashamed whenever I think about my birth parents?
- Why can’t I verbalize the painful aspects of adoption?
- Where can I gain an unshakable sense of self-esteem?
Meet the Author
SHERRIE ELDRIDGE is a reunited adoptee, an internationally known speaker, and the author of four adoption workbooks as well as the highly acclaimed Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Sherrie and her husband, Bob, live in Fishers, Indiana, and have two married daughters and six grandchildren.
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I am an Adult Adoptee from Hong Kong, and was abandoned on the street and lived in an orphanage for the first 2 years of my life. I was very lucky to be adopted into the US by my Caucasian American parents, whom I love very deeply. Nonetheless, the repressed pain of abandonement and rejection has recently surfaced. I had bought other books on adoption, but they were so clinical and sterile, I lost interest in them. I never finished reading those books. But Sherrie's book IS AMAZING. I could not put it down!!! It is very well written, deeply personal and very emotional. I needed to read EVERY WORD she WROTE. When she expressed her thoughts and feelings, she articulated unspoken thoughts I had always felt, but never could define. She has alot of clinical information in her book, which is important for me, since I am a Ph.D. student in Neurophysiology. Being trained as a scientist, I do need to have studies to back up hypothesis or suppositions. Sherrie's book has helped me alot to grieve and cry. Her book was hard for me to get through, b/c it triggered alot of violent volcanic emotions that had been deeply repressed. But I know that grieving and forgiveness is the key to true freedom. It is just very hard work to do. But once done, I felt 10 lbs lighter and 10 years younger!! Sherrie's book is leading us to our divinity, wholeness, self-healing, and self-awareness... which is a painful but exhilarating journey. I am an SGI-USA Buddhist and chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo as my form of prayer to the Universal Power. This has helped me enormously. Sherrie also lists many helpful Adoptee organizations in the Appendix of her book. I hope to join an Adult Adoptee Support Group to continue my journey to wholeness. Sherrie's book is a powerful guiding light in this deeply mis-understood topic of the pain that Adult Adoptees endure. Sherrie speaks for all of us in her book, and this book has saved my life. If you want answers, comfort, empathy, sympathy, love, support, healing and hope in dealing with being an Adoptee, GET THIS BOOK!!! YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY!!!
I am an adoptee as well. I lived a wonderful life with my adopted parents. I always new I was adopted, it was never a secret. I found this book well after I found my biological mother. I wished I had it before. The emotions you go through are unbelievable or I should say indescribeable and NO ONE can understand unless they too are adopted. My search and reunion was happy and well received. My biological was part of my life for nine years until she passed. As I read Sherrie's book I still cried because it was so profound and hit every emotion I had during my life and the search for my mother. It reassured me it was okay to feel those questionable feelings and emotions. I keep the book very close and refer to it often. I have given it as a gift to several friends and coworkers who are adopted just to support them through their search journey. Thank you Sherrie for this gift.
Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make by Sherrie Eldridge offers understanding and help.