As women, we struggle to feel like we’re good enough because we are bombarded daily with messages that whisper, “Who you are is not okay.”
We live in a world that tells us we have to look a certain way, live a certain lifestyle, have husbands who fit a certain mold, and have children that excel in every area of their lives.
And rather than thrive in the life we have, we strive to create an existence that impresses others.
This impossible treadmill leaves us with deep discontentment and a joyless existence.
God doesn’t apologize for how He created us. And while we’re always being molded by our Creator, it’s only to shape us for the calling on our life—not so we can fit into a world we were never meant to:
“Do not allow this world to mold you in its own image. Instead, be transformed from the inside out by renewing your mind. As a result, you will be able to discern what God wills and whatever God finds good, pleasing, and complete. Love others well, and don’t hide behind a mask; love authentically” (Romans 12:2, 9).
What if we had the confidence to shed our fears and be who God created us to be—stumbles, fumbles, and all—relishing who we are rather than conforming to the world? Using an acrostic for the word AUTHENTIC, author Carey Scott unpacks 9 ways we can find the confidence we need to shine with fearless authenticity:
1. Accept Your Awesomeness
2. Unearth the Untruths
3. Try Loving Everyone
4. Hold on to Hope
5. Extend Forgiveness
6. Never Shrink Back
7. Trample the Negatives
8. Invest in Community
9. Camp in the Word of God
Let’s link arms and commit to living authentic lives. . .together. Are you ready?
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About the Author
Carey Scott is an author, speaker, and certified Biblical Life Coach who's honest about her walk with the Lordstumbles, fumbles, and all. She challenges women to be realnot perfecteven when it’s messy. Through her ministry, she encourages women to stop living a mediocre, risk-free life and instead step onto the battlefield of life and engage!
For over twelve years, Carey’s had an active ministry geared toward women. She speaks to women's groups and writes an online devotional designed to help women be who God created them to be.
Carey lives in Colorado with her husband and two kids, who give her plenty of material for writing and speaking. She’s surrounded by a wonderful family and group of friends who keep her motivated, real, and humble.
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The Case for Fake
One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.
— Shannon L. Alder
All the money is gone. This was the final answer at the end of a long line of questions.
This trio of sisters had been sharing responsibility for their dad ever since their mom died, leaving the details of his finances and medical care in their hands. The sisters weren't exactly tight, but they each played a part in their father's care. It wasn't easy as two of them were out-of-state, and many times I had sat with my friend as she cried over the frustrations that came with this arrangement. But it was working. And this father was one of the sweetest people I'd ever known. I loved him like he was part of my own family. He was kind and loving.
Eventually my friend saw some red flags — a few areas that seemed concerning — from the sister handling all the finances. She'd also received tips from concerned family members that things weren't adding up. She struggled to imagine how her Spidey senses and the whistle-blowers' accusations could be true, and when she confronted the sister in question, her explanations seemed solid. Life went back to normal.
These sisters had grown up together, had spent countless holidays together, had shared big family vacations together, and had connected often through phone and email. I knew this family, and I had seen throughout the years how important family was to each of them. So when my friend felt certain these allegations couldn't possibly be true, I believed that too. But soon more red flags began to wave.
I walked through those painfully revealing days with my friend. I watched well-crafted stories unravel. I was there when this family began to uncover the horrible truth that had been going on for years. And I wept when the sister's lies were exposed. She had been living anything but an authentic life.
They discovered a tangled web of lies, counterfeit living that had marked most of her adult life. This was the sister who had graduated from seminary, led youth groups, and spoken from a stage. She was a favorite among the nieces and nephews. This one ran in well-known circles. And she had stolen every bit of money her father had — every last penny. New credit cards had been opened. Debt had piled up. Medical insurance had been canceled. Savings had been spent. Investments had been drained. It was all gone.
In this sister's mind, she justified being inauthentic with those she claimed to love. She made up reasons for lying to those who trusted her the most. And somehow she decided living fake felt safer than being honest about financial troubles. Living fake felt better than admitting failure. Living fake felt easier than finding the courage to be honest and upright and selfless. She bought into the case for fake. And it eventually cost this sister her life.
My friend graciously allowed me to share this part of her story with you, and out of respect for the continued heartache and healing of her family, I won't go into more detail. But you know what? I have my own whack-a-doo stories about family members choosing to live fake. I'm learning that these kinds of stories aren't that rare. Chances are someone in your own family tree has chosen counterfeit living instead of standing brave for truth.
But even worse, I can think of times I've lived fake — times I've been too ashamed or afraid of being myself. I have been in relationships where I didn't think my genuine feelings and thoughts mattered, so I hid them. I've wanted to speak out for an injustice but was too scared of criticism. Instead, I went along with the groupthink.
I think of seasons in my life when I was dying inside, battling demons from some childhood abuse, but I didn't ask for help. I grinned and bore it alone. Or times I felt overwhelmed and underwater but acted like everything was fine. And I can remember times I sat in silence or even joined into conversations with women being mean-spirited in their gossip. Even though I felt the Holy Spirit's prompting to speak up or walk away, I was afraid of ridicule.
I've acted more important than I really am. I've let others think I was more together than was true. I've pretended instead of being honest. I've been hypocritical rather than genuine. I've been dishonest rather than risk my reputation. And that's just scratching the surface.
If you've read my other two books — Untangled and Uncommon — you'll know I'm pretty transparent with my life and my story. I believe there's power in testimony, so I'm an advocate for authenticity. Oh yes, I love diving into the deep waters of intimacy with conversations that reveal the heart. And from the stage, I try to challenge women to be real with themselves, others, and God. I haven't always been that way.
The Lord and I have done some work over the past several years — work that has given me the courage and confidence to be okay with who I am. This is a new way of living, and it has taken grit and grace to walk it out. Most of my life, it felt safer to live fake. In my insecurities, I chose to be phony. Fear told me to be deceptive, hiding the truth of who I really was instead of shining. But with each baby step out of the shadows of counterfeit living, I've seen the beauty of imperfection.
We need to cover one big reality now, because it will help us answer the "why" when we struggle to live authentic, not fake. I don't know about you, but I'm all in until things get crunchy. I'm sold out until the straight path begins to wind and point uphill. Those are the times I want to quit and go back to the status quo — back to hiding the real me from the world. It's when I end up asking myself, Why am I advocating for authenticity?
So let me start by stating the obvious. Ready?
Living fake is so much easier than living authentic. (Mic drop) Here's why. To live the authentic life means we choose to believe we are who God says we are, not who we've been told we should be by other people or cultural standards. It means our words and actions mirror our beliefs and values. We're going to unpack this in detail in the next chapter, but can we agree here and now that being real is hard to do?
And chances are you're presenting a counterfeit you right now and don't even realize it. It's not always a choice we consciously make, you know. Sometimes it's a defense mechanism to keep the hurt away. It's a habit we've picked up courtesy of the school of hard knocks. Other times it's what we were modeled growing up and it became our normal. It can also be part of our God-given temperament, especially when we're introverted or shy. And for many of us, we learned a long time ago that opening up and letting someone in sets us up for heartache, so we've chosen to present a more controlled exterior that rarely reflects our interior.
Let's think about it. How many times has someone asked how you are, and you've quickly responded, "I'm fine," or "Everything's great." Your marriage may be falling apart, but at Bible study you smile and act like life is just dandy. When you meet a friend for coffee, you talk recipes and Black Friday shopping strategies instead of sharing the deep fears you have about parenting. You might be drowning in debt, but no one has any idea you're in over your head. As far as anyone else can tell, your life couldn't get any better even if you tried.
Somewhere along the way, you decided not to share the real you with the world. You thought to yourself, It's just easier this way. It spares my feelings. It cuts down on drama. And I don't have to justify or defend myself. Maybe you think you're not worth knowing, and rather than let your insecurities get all tangled up, you bailed on authentic living. Maybe fear of criticism or judgment got in the way. Maybe you have a long memory of times you opened up and it didn't go so well. Oh my gosh, I get it. Fake feels safer and easier. Yes and amen. And you know what? Sometimes it just might be wisdom.
It's not realistic to think we should be ready and willing to verbally vomit our innermost pain all over someone when they ask how we're doing. We may be a hot mess, but there is a time and place to open up and share. We don't have to walk around in tears every day when we're in a tough season. Sometimes we just have to put on our lipstick and mascara and find a way to adult. Right? Again, there is a time and place. And we don't always have to call someone out or get all heated up the moment our feelings get hurt. For Pete's sake, we don't have to attend every fight we're invited to. We can choose to extend grace or approach the other party in honesty once we've calmed down.
The truth is many of us may need a big dose of discernment so we know when sharing our true thoughts and feelings is a good thing. We must navigate a balance. But here's where the problem lies. Many of us never seem to find the right time or motivation to open up and reveal the true us. (Geez, I didn't for years.) Instead, we keep our authentic selves locked away and live our socially acceptable selves instead. We settle for fake because it's easier and safer.
I remember opening up to a friend about something that had hurt my feelings deep down. It was the knock-me-to-my-knees kind of hurt, and I was still trying to catch my breath from it. I hadn't really shared what happened with anyone until I did with her because I was still processing it. And as I unpacked the details of the event, I wept. I really let my friend peek inside my heart. It felt so vulnerable and a little scary, but my protective walls had come down, and I didn't have the wherewithal to pull myself together at that point. It was an uglycry moment.
And then she said, "If God brought you to it, He'll bring you through it." Can I be honest? I almost punched her. Seriously, people. We have to stop using these kinds of Christian platitudes on each other. They may look great on a social media graphic, but few things will shut down authenticity faster. Same with quoting scripture. These platitudes do not often work well in those honest moments, girls. And this was one of those moments.
Now, I love God's Word and encouraging phrases as much as the next person, but here is some advice: When someone gives you the privilege of seeing the depth of their heart, consider it sacred ground. They usually aren't looking for guidance or for you to minimize their hurt with cute sayings or slogans. They need someone to listen as they purge their heart. They need a cry buddy or someone to give a hug when they need it the most.
You've just been invited into a beautiful moment of authenticity. Embrace it, because when you offer someone room to be messy and real without judgment or fix-it answers, that's one of the greatest gifts you can ever offer another human being. And it can be a touchstone memory of why they don't have to live fake.
Well I didn't punch my friend, nor did I tell her she handled it all wrong. But I'll be honest, that experience will make me think twice before opening up to her again. Her intention might have been good, but her response to my honesty was an authenticity killer. It encouraged the real me to stay tucked away without even meaning to. And worse, hers was the kind of response that helps make the case for fake.
But you know what just might be one of the most compelling reasons counterfeit living seems like a viable option? Shame.
Shame keeps us from being authentic because it says who we are is not okay. Deep down, we believe the real us is unacceptable, so we present another version — one that looks less messy and more put together. Shame weaves its way into our self-worth, reminding us of all the times we put ourselves out there and didn't measure up. Shame makes us remember moments we've shared the depths of our heart and were met with ridicule or judgment. It sucks the life out of us. Shame makes a strong case for fake living.
You know what else? Shame gives us an honesty hangover. Do you know what I mean? It's the feeling we shared too much ... we looked too messy or too needy ... we didn't sound gracious enough ... we were unfair with our words ... we sounded too full of ourselves ... we talked too much. Shame hits us hard after we open up with our honest feelings and whispers, "You are ridiculous." Yep, shame has a way of telling us we're either not enough or too much.
When shame tangles me, I usually tuck away. I hide from community because I'm embarrassed by what I've done or who I am. Sometimes shame makes me feel like a scared little cat backed into a corner, and I come out attacking like a lion. Yeah, that's not pretty. But mostly I sit and ruminate over my failures and shortcomings. This creates self-doubt and knocks my confidence, but I try to look unshaken. And as I'm curled up in bed nursing my wounded heart, I watch one of my favorite chick flicks and cry for the hundredth time.
Now it's your turn. How does shame discourage authentic living for you? Write it out here:
Shame is real, it's powerful, and it has stolen so much, yet God is ready to remove it so you can live authentic. He wants to heal anything keeping you from being you. Your Father is ready to free you up to be who He created you to be, because He's not for counterfeit living. His plan was never for you to live tucked away, hiding in your I'm not good enough feelings. God wants you to stand in His truth, living authentic and unwilling to conform to the world's unreasonable standards.
Be comforted in knowing you're not alone when it comes to fighting fear about being yourself. We're all in this together. Even back in Bible times, living without shame was a struggle — a challenge with only one answer. "But Lord, you are my shield, my glory, and my only hope. You alone can lift my head, now bowed in shame" (Psalm 3:3 TLB, emphasis mine).
It's so human to be afraid of living authentic. It's scary to unbelieve the messages shame has whispered into your soul. It takes real grit to be honest about who you are and what you think. It takes guts to stand up and speak out for what you believe. And it takes grace to navigate it all. But I want you to know it matters, and God sees every choice you make to be real in a world that glorifies the fake. He alone will be your shield, your victory, and your hope.
In John 8, we meet a woman whose story can speak directly to this truth. My heart can barely handle the amount of embarrassment she must have felt. I hurt for her. I'm humiliated on her behalf. I can only imagine how uncomfortable she must have been in that moment. And honestly, the way she was treated makes me so angry. Let me set the stage.
Waking up early, Jesus left the Mount of Olives and made His way to the temple in Jerusalem. As He arrived and attracted a crowd, He sat down and started teaching. Can we stop here for a minute? I am so in awe of Jesus' willingness to shift gears. He was heading for the temple and allowed the needs of the people to distract Him. Soak that in for a sec. Girls, I am graceless pre-coffee, so this act of kindness blows me away — especially so early in the morning.
Now visualize this impromptu church service. Can you see the crowd sitting and standing around Jesus, hanging on His every word? Can you imagine how quiet it was as they listened with intensity to what Jesus was sharing? What a beautiful moment in time, right? And then that sacred space was interrupted.
I'm sure the crowd was caught off guard at the commotion coming their way. Within moments, a woman was standing in front of Jesus. The scribes and Pharisees had dragged her from the adulterous bed, and there she stood, facing the Messiah. We don't know what she was wearing or how presentable she was, but we can assume she was not at her best.
I'm also sure she was scared, knowing she had committed a crime. She had to be sad, knowing this was how her life had turned out. She may have been angry that the man sharing her bed was assigned no blame in this situation. But I can guarantee you she was covered in shame, embarrassed about who she was.
I want to have coffee with this woman in heaven. I want to hug her neck and tell her how much I appreciate her story. Shame kept me living fake for so long, and her story of redemption has been an encouragement. She wasn't living as her authentic self — no one is born with the desire to have extramarital affairs — and it was an encounter with Jesus that gave her courage to be real. Those words stand true for us today.
Now let's grab our front-row seat and watch this powerful exchange unfold between Jesus, her accusers, and this embarrassed-beyond-belief woman scared straight out of her mind. You can find her story documented in John 8:4–11 (VOICE).
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1 The Case for Fake 9
Chapter 2 This Is Authentic Living 25
Chapter 3 It All Starts with Identity 43
Chapter 4 Accept Your Awesomeness 59
Chapter 5 Unearth the Untruths 79
Chapter 6 Try Loving Everyone 101
Chapter 7 Hold on to Hope 121
Chapter 8 Extend and Embrace Forgiveness 141
Chapter 9 Never Shrink Back 167
Chapter 10 Trample the Negatives 187
Chapter 11 Invest in Community 211
Chapter 12 Camp in the Word of God 231
Chapter 13 Be Unafraid 249
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This is such a positive book it helps you to realize what a wonderful, authentic person you can be I love how the author has written this boik like you are talking with your best friend I highly recommend this book
This is not a book to breeze through quickly. I'm a fast reader but it took me quite awhile to get through it because...it is packed full of good things! Scott is honest and upfront about life and our struggles and encourages all to step out in boldness, with "grit and grace" and live an authentic life. I truly enjoyed it and will go back through it again to underline and pull some key phrases and thoughts for further study. I would highly recommend this book to other women. Excellent read! I received a complimentary copy of this book by Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
The book un-afraid by Carey Scott is an amazing book. I received a copy of this book at a time I was trying to find good books on how to handle fear and anxiety. I can heartily recommend this book. Carey Scott is a Biblical life coach who willingly shares her experiences as she teaches us to be more authentic. I have struggled personally for many years with feelings of not being good enough. Carey reminds us that we do not need to fit the mold of the world. God created us unique and we do not need to live behind a façade to conform. Carey uses an acrostic…authentic…to help us dig deeper into the Word of God to be able to live unafraid, fearlessly setting aside conformity to embrace the will of God for our life. She asks tough questions in each chapter (finding the grit) and leads us to find the grace. To be honest, Carey had my interest at the table of contents and set the hook firmly with the first chapter. I pick up the book again and again to reread parts that especially apply to me. This is NOT a wishy washy book that is designed to smooth things over just to make you feel better. It IS a practical book with real help in discovering how to live authentically. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obgligation to post a review.
This is the first book that I have read by this author and it's overflowing with powerful wisdom. The author addresses the fact that far too often we cover up our faults, 'messes' and pretend that our life is perfect. What if we chose to see ourselves as the special and unique creation that God sees in us? What if we were our true selves to other people? Those are the type of challenges set before us in this book. Following each chapter is a section on how to apply what has just been read. I truly enjoyed this well written and easy to read book and will be reading more of Carey Scott's writings. This is also a book that I anticipate reading again as I'm sure that more knowledge can be gained with each time it's revisited. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
God has NOT given us fear but He has given us power, His love, and sound minds. Carey Scott encourages women to be authentic and stop listening to the devil's lies about us. The first couple of chapters went a little slow and I wasn't sure what I thought about the book or author but I ended up appreciating the book and Carey's insights into living the way God wants: Unafraid! One of my favorite quotes from the book is "When God thought you up, it delighted Him. He wasn't in a bad mood when He made you. God didn't form you because He need to fill space on the earth. Friend, you're an intentional creation, and He put time and effort into your design. You really are fearfully and wonderfully made, just like we're told in Psalm 139:14." I recommend this encouraging book to others. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Carey Scott has written an interesting and inspiring new book for 'Jesus-girls' like you and me. She encourages readers to be their authentic self, and to have the courage to be the woman God created her to be. Women often fear to be her real self and let others see who she really is, instead putting on a mask and hiding behind fear. For those who are afraid to let down their guard and don't feel as if they are 'good enough', Ms. Scott helps the reader gain confidence through her words and Scripture and allow her true self to come to the light, resulting in freedom to enjoy life as we truly are and not as we think the world expects us to live. Ms. Scott uses examples from her own life, that of people she knows and also Biblical men and women, to show we are not alone. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Carey Scott has become a favorite author of mine when it comes to non-fiction. She is always raw, real, and authentic. Which is exactly what her newest book, Unafraid, is all about. Somewhere along the way, our society has become known for hiding the messiness of life instead of embracing it. Carey Scott challenges her readers to be their authentic selves. She speaks from the heart so it comes across as a caring and loving friend who has been through it. She gets it. While I read it from cover to cover, there were entire sections where I just had to stop and evaluate myself and reread some of the chapters. There were sections where I was encouraged, then there were chapters where I felt like I had been punched in the gut. The book is raw and it will challenge you and encourage you all at the same time. If you want to grow and be reminded of what the Bible says you are, then this is the book for you. Although it is geared towards women, we all struggle with confidence at one time or another. This book is a keeper for my bookshelf as I plan to refer back to it. It is one that I highly recommend whether you choose to do it on your own, as a group, or as therapy with a counselor. There are questions provided at the end of each chapter that takes the book deeper and even more personal. Highly recommended! Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from the author for my honest review, which I have given. I was not required to write a positive review and have not been compensated for it in any way. All opinions expressed are my own.
I have been impressed with each book Carey has written in this one-word-title series. Uncommon, Untangled and now UnAfraid have all hit a core need in women, and Carey does an excellent job of defining and developing answers that help and impact that need. In Unafraid, Carey focuses on being authentic, understanding identity, digging into truth and untruth as well as forgiveness and fighting negativity. I love the frank yet sympathetic way in which she develops her discussion. Fear is crippling, and it impacts every area of our lives, from our times alone with God to our friendships and our desire to live abundantly. Carey Scott takes the thought processes that we have allowed to impact and imprison, and she helps us see the key to living freely. You will find yourself underlining, highlighting and taking notes. There is so much in this book. If you are looking for someone to help you dig into the nitty-gritty of your life and rethink who you are in the power of your relationship with God, then you I highly recommend this book. You will not be disappointed. It is like sitting with a friend who understands where you are because she has been there too. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review
So many are living today with various degrees of fakeness in their lives. Why? Because it is easier to live that way. Is that the way God intended for us to live? Absolutely not! Reading this book will help you to unpack a better way to live more authentically, with grit and grace. I underlined so very many passages in this book. The author encourages us to look for glimpses of God while going through our messes. I don't want to live any other way! I love the word hope. The author challenged me to be a hope hunter and then to share what hope I have found with others. As I read and absorbed each chapter, I kept saying to myself, that was my favorite chapter. However, reading Chapter 10 during a recent health scare and diagnosis was nothing short of a divine appointment. My tough season has a divine purpose. I am so grateful to the author for her bravery and her willingness to follow God's leading to write this book. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Dare to be Authentic Carey Scott has written a study book on becoming authentic in a world that encourages putting on a fake façade. She uses biblical examples and personal examples to challenge the reader to discover all that God intended each individual to become. Each person is someone unique and awesome in God’s eyes. But we have been taught to go along with the crowd and conform. Each chapter in the book is designed to help the reader uncover the uniqueness of their creation and ultimately be able to face life in the fullness that God intended. It is not a once read then accomplished book, but one that requires slow processing. It is a challenge to become “unafraid” but is worth the journey. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
We live in a world where people like to present a false narrative or hide their problems behind happy and cheerful Facebook posts. This book is a great source of inspiration to live authentically by having the bravery to put our true selves out there flaws and all. Scott writes with honesty and rawness and shows her struggles through personal stories and examples in scripture. I read a chapter a night and found this to be inspiring and uplifting at the end of the day. When we all work so hard to keep all the balls in the air, it’s nice to know that everyone is doing the same dance, and when the balls fall, we can stand bravely in our truth without judgment. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Carey Scott's book is one of the most helpful books I've read on being "Un-afraid", to being myself. It is much more extensive than that however, which she explains and shares personal stories how and why we tend to not be ourselves with others especially. The title includes: Be you. Be authentic. Find the grit and grace to shine. I love this because it captures what the book is about. I believe this book is my favorite of hers since I needed this right now in my life. Too many times I can recall of trying to be like someone else, not the real me. I found Carey's wisdom and hope and faith so helpful. Excellent reading, so worthwhile especially for women like me. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
I love Carey's style of writing. She writes as if she were having a conversation with a friend. She is real and personable. I could relate to so much of what she said. As a "self' help kind of book, it wasn't a list of does and don'ts. It was more a friend, sharing her journey and wanting to help you on yours. It's a matter of seeking truth over feelings. Carey uses Scripture to support everything she shares. She challenges the read to be real; to use grit and grace. "....it's hard to be real in a world that promotes fake." Be prepared to take a long look at yourself, your motives, your feelings, your actions. Allow God to walk you through the process of becoming un-afraid to live out the real you.
Unafraid by Carey Scott is the first book I have read by this author and I really enjoyed it and look forward to reading more of her work. The author has written a book that is filled with thought-provoking nuggets of truth regarding living an authentic life rather than being a fake. Although written in an easy-to-read manner as a friend to a friend, the Biblical truths that are shared require the reader to stop and examine her own life and think about how to implement the ideas presented. Scott gives clear-cut suggestions on how to live unafraid and it begins with knowing who one is and not just one's role or responsibilities in life. Having set the foundation of who one is as God's creation, the author takes the next nine chapters to 'unpack' ways to live authentically with oneself, others, and with God, using an acrostic for the word 'authentic'. One of the takeaways for me is as women we crave validation (that is so true for me) and the importance of finding that validation in a relationship with a tender God, knowing He sees our worth. Another thought that resonated with me was the fact of the internal dialogue of lies that we often have with ourselves and how to counteract those with the truth of God's Word. At the end of each of these nine chapters, the author guides readers to personalize what she has presented with questions under the heading of Finding the Grit and a prayer under Finding the Grace heading and a reminder of the authentic acrostic under Live. Unafraid is a wonderful book, full of truths based on God's Word -- a book to be read and reflected on--a book for one's own library and for sharing with other women who want to live a confident and courageous life. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Carey Scott presents a strong support for individual authenticity. Early challenges in her life led her to write DIY books to help women to overcome negatives and frustrations in their lives. It is true that a very negative response to heavy challenges in our lives can cause sloth and shut downs towards friends or strangers. The contemporary language of the book can be understood from 15 to 85 years old and invites the reader to feel similar to the author in responses to issues of anguish. Carey draws the reader in by phrases like...”Maybe you can relate...” Cary speaks of being a Child of God with gifts and creative graces and abilities the give us a strong knowledge of our identity. Her concern about authenticity possibly has been instilled with her own grappling with identity. At any rate in sharing herself so willingly, Carry has encouraged the reader to seek out the words of Our Matchless Lord in the Bible that strengthen and secure a strong approach to life. In reading this book, I have enjoyed the familiar Bible verses that bring awareness of ‘God With Us.’ I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
This book has some great points. As a social worker I have spent years mentoring women and helping them through dark times in their lives, and just helping them figure out how to fight Satan’s lies. The point of the book is that we need to be authentic – not just to those around us, but most importantly, to God. He already knows if we are. We can’t really fool Him. But, I believe our relationship with Him will be enhanced if we are truthful. I do like the acrostic the author used and feel like this is helpful in remembering those things that women often forget. The devil is alive and well, and we need something that reminds us to focus on God, not rely on humans. I also like that a lot of scripture is used. This is also helpful especially if memorized so we can call on God’s word quickly in the up/down moment. I would recommend this book. It is good to look at ourselves in a soul searching way and everyone will probably find some area of their life that needs a little tuning. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing Company and was under no obligation to post a review.
A book that speaks to your heart about becoming authentic instead of hiding behind the masks that we put on to be a people pleaser. “People need truth, and they also need hope.” is a wonderful quote from this book. If you are looking for a way to be more real and open and becoming the you that God intended you to be then pick up Unafraid and take the steps to be an overcomer. Find the confidence to show others the real person created in the image of God. This is a very impressive and helpful book. Written in an easy to understand and applicable way. I received a complimentary copy from Barbour Publishing. The honest review and opinions are my own and were not required.
"Unafraid" challenges you in areas that scare you. Are you afraid of being authentic in all areas of your life? Do you show the real you or do you fake it? How do you handle when people lie about you? Great practical steps and Biblical wisdom will help you navigate being "Unafraid". I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Another winner. After reading Uncommon by Carey Scott, I knew that Unafraid would be a good read. Are you living an authentic life? Or are you living a fake life? Sometimes it's hard to distinguish between the two, especially if you've been “pretending” for a long time. This book will help you to see the kind of life you are living and show you how to start being honest. The grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence, so we tend to live “on the outside” like our grass is just as green. But, is it really? And does our grass really need to be that green to be happy and live for God? We all need to be honest with ourselves, so that we can be honest with others. To not be afraid to live authentically....showing who we really are.....good enough. Once again, I applaud this author. I highly recommend this book. “I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.”
Carey Scott's book, Unafraid, touches a woman where she lives - her heart. In Unafraid we look at our self image and despite our flaws and imperfections, realize we are made in God's own image. The things we don't like about ourselves are often shaped by our society which appears to tell us what we should look like, how are families should look, even how we should think. Consequently many women find themselves on a different road than God set our feet on, chasing different pursuits than the ones He meant for us. Ms. Scott encourages us to be AUTHENTIC with a meaningful acrostic to help us remember we are God's children and are living His plan for our lives, regardless of what it looks like to the world we live in. I would recommend this book to anyone feeling "less than" by the world's standards. Carey Scott's book Unafraid will chase away the fear in your heart, replacing it with hope. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
This book will really talk to you about living your life who you really are verses what society and life push you toward. I am recommending this book to all of my friends. The chapter for extending and embracing forgiveness is so real and really makes you think about holding onto thing that drag you down. There are so many factors in today’s society that drive who we become instead of letting Christ lead our lives and being authentic. I highly recommend this book. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.
Unafraid by Carey Scott Be you. Be authentic. Find the grit and grace to shine. As women, we struggle to feel like we’re good enough because we are bombarded daily with messages that whisper, “Who you are is not okay.” We live in a world that tells us we have to look a certain way, live a certain lifestyle, have husbands who fit a certain mold, and have children that excel in every area of their lives. And rather than thrive in the life we have, we strive to create an existence that impresses others. This impossible treadmill leaves us with deep discontentment and a joyless existence. God doesn’t apologize for how He created us. And while we’re always being molded by our Creator, it’s only to shape us for the calling on our life—not so we can fit into a world we were never meant to: “Do not allow this world to mold you in its own image. Instead, be transformed from the inside out by renewing your mind. As a result, you will be able to discern what God wills and whatever God finds good, pleasing, and complete. Love others well, and don’t hide behind a mask; love authentically” (Romans 12:2, 9). What if we had the confidence to shed our fears and be who God created us to be—stumbles, fumbles, and all—relishing who we are rather than conforming to the world? Using an acrostic for the word AUTHENTIC, author Carey Scott unpacks 9 ways we can find the confidence we need to shine with fearless authenticity: 1. Accept Your Awesomeness 2. Unearth the Untruths 3. Try Loving Everyone 4. Hold on to Hope 5. Extend Forgiveness 6. Never Shrink Back 7. Trample the Negatives 8. Invest in Community 9. Camp in the Word of God Let’s link arms and commit to living authentic lives. . .together. Are you ready? I highly recommend reading. "I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review." Unafraid by Carey Scott is a wonderful well written 5 star book. more books by Carey Scott Untangled: Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life by Carey Scott Uncommon: Pursuing a Life of Passion and Purpose by Carey Scott The Second Greatest Command: Building, Maintaining, And Nurturing Good Relationships by Carey Scott and Thomas Thornhill Jr Unafraid: Be you. Be authentic. Find the grit and grace to shine. by Carey Scott Lord Help Me! 32 Ways to Pray for Your Husband by Carey Scott Raising Godly Kids: Devotions for Parents (Let's Get Real) by Carey Scott Growing In God's Grace: 2 Peter 3:18 by Carey Scott
"Un-afraid" by Carey Scott was really good. It was easy to read. I needed to read this book. Thank you. Carey is so real and honest. She's authentic. This book helps you to be you, be authentic, and to find the grit and grace to shine. I have a hard time finding the grit and grace to shine. I find myself hiding in the background, but there will be no more hiding. I am me and I am authentic. Thank you. "I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review."
“Unafraid - Be you. Be authentic. Find the grit and grace to shine.” by author Carey Scott is a delightfully encouraging book by Barbour Publishing, Inc. This 256 page paperback was filled to the brim with inspiration and words to ponder long after the book has been finished. It is a book I will keep around to share with others or read again when I need it. This is an extremely well written book. It was well thought, planned and organized. The author’s style of writing is nice and easy to read as well as understand. I felt like I was chatting with a new friend over coffee. It was lovely to read some of the thoughts and ideas shared. The author did her research and uses Biblical truths for encouragement and teaching. For me that is crucial for any Christian book, fiction and non-fiction. This book was extremely uplifting and inspired me to persevere, trust My Heavenly Father’s direction, and be the person I was created to be. Failures happen and it is best to learn from them instead of sweep them under the rug. The most important thing I took from this book was to be myself. Don't be afraid to be myself, to be authentic. If I am having a good day, share the joy. If I am having a bad day, don’t brood but don’t say everything is just fine. Practical tips and tricks that can be applied are presented. These are jewels that you will use now and want to share with friends. This is a helpful book that would make a fabulous book club read. Even if you just gather a few friends for some positive reinforcement, read this book together and discuss it. You will be enriched. I highly recommend this terrific book. Five out of five stars were gladly given for the rating. Anyone or group would benefit from the wisdom, biblical teachings, and encouragement gleaned from it. A copy was provided by Barbour Publishing for my honest review.
With the current prevalence of social media, there is an overwhelming lack of genuineness in daily life. Filters create images of people as fairies, animals, you name it, and it doesn’t stop at photos. Whether we’re talking about Facebook posts, text messages, chats, emails, or even video conferencing, the personality we project often isn’t our true self. Instead, it’s the mask that we feel the need to put on for that particular person or situation, and we’re so used to donning it that most of the time we’re not even aware of it. Juggling the myriad roles we play, the busyness of life fuels the masquerade. So how do we get off this crazy carousel of lost identity? That’s where Carey Scott’s “Unafraid: Be You. Be Authentic. Find the Grit and Grace to Shine.” comes in. This uplifting, inspirational nonfiction book is overflowing with wisdom and guidance about how to be real and authentic through embracing our identity as Christians because “when we really sink our teeth into the truth that our identity is fully rooted in our Creator, it will change everything…if you’re afraid to be real in a world that glorifies the fake, scripture will help you find the grit and grace to unabashedly be yourself.” Scott is not afraid to get down and dirty with readers, speaking truth in a very relational tone that feels like sitting down for coffee with a friend. The numerous Bible verses employed throughout are in modern translation, which I found a bit jarring at first but which actually offered a different perspective and deeper insight. Each chapter concludes with two sections: “Finding the Grit”, which presents application questions, and “Finding the Grace”, which consists of a prayer. “Unafraid” is written for women, and no matter your situation or circumstance, I guarantee that this book will speak to your heart. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing and was under no obligation to post a review.