Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life

Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781623156428
Publisher: Callisto Media
Publication date: 02/09/2016
Pages: 186
Sales rank: 171,265
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Mark Ettensohn is a clinical psychologist in Sacramento, California. He specializes in treating narcissism and providing psychotherapy for chronic emotional, psychological, and relational distress. He has authored and contributed to several articles on narcissism for both the non-professional and medical communities. Learn more by visiting www.DrEttensohn.com.

Manhattan-based psychiatrist Jane Simon, M.D. is a graduate of Barnard College and Temple Medical School. The Huffington Post has syndicated her biweekly blog, www.drsimonsays.blogspot.com.

Table of Contents

Foreword 7

Introduction: More than a Myth 10

Part 1 The Grandiose Dimension 33

1 A Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance 36

2 Personal Exceptionalism 44

3 Arrogant, Haughty Behaviors and Attitudes 53

4 Dealing with Grandiose Behavior 62

Part 2 The Self-Serving Dimension 73

5 A Strong Sense of Entitlement 76

6 Lacks Empathy 85

7 Is Exploitative of Others 95

8 Dealing with Self-Serving Behavior 106

Part 3 The Vanity Dimension 121

9 Preoccupation with Fantasies 124

10 Requires Excessive Admiration 135

11 Feelings of Envy 145

12 Dealing with Vanity 153

Conclusion 164

References 170

Resources 176

About the Author 177

Index 178

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This book helps the reader to see that through compassion, understanding, empathy, and limit setting, we can take steps to attain the lives and relationships that we deserve.

In working with clients on any topic its important to navigate between educating about the issue, teaching new skills to help resolve the discomfort of the situation, and reinforcing the clients ability to act and make successful change. In Unmasking Narcissism, Dr. Ettensohn has combined all three with a style, grace, and beauty that reflects his immense talent. Not only is his description of narcissism spot on, but he is able to provide analogies that represent and enhance understanding of the diagnosis that are often difficult to put into words. His compassion toward all parties involved in navigating the ups and downs of narcissism is a main step in helping each individual understand and cope with such a difficult situation.

Further, Dr. Ettensohn combines aspects or interventions from multiple theoretical backgrounds including ACT, CBT, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Psychodynamic, and Humanistic. This book is a wealth of information and should be read by everyone who has an interest in or who has a lived experience with a narcissistic individual. Dr. Ettensohn reminds us that at our core we are all human and react to fears of rejection and needs for intimacy in different ways.—Chelsea Bagias, PsyD, Licensed Psychologist, Kaiser Permanente, Thought Disorder Team

Unlike most academic texts and self-help literature, this book does not label narcissistic individuals as evil, broken, or bad, and does not recommend triumphantly exposing them or diligently providing constant soothing and reassurance to protect their frailty. Also, Dr. Ettensohn does not depict individuals in relationships with narcissists as powerless victims or as needy collaborators. Rather, demonstrating the mindful, non-judgmental acceptance that he continually advocates, he describes narcissism as a developmental behavioral pattern, detailing its etiology, its trajectory, and its prognosis.

Using a clear yet vivid narrative, Dr. Ettensohn seamlessly introduces, explains, and interweaves core concepts in psychological wellness and effectiveness: attachment, assertiveness, emotional regulation, and boundaries. Of particular note, he discusses the under-looked aspect of vulnerable narcissism, which is common in psychiatric settings but difficult to recognize and treat. And most importantly, he firmly acknowledges the lack of control that we have over other people's behaviors, and emphasizes the importance of clearly communicating, setting and maintaining our own boundaries, and making conscious and responsive decisions that reflect our own values.—Kilianne Kimball, Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist

I love this book. Dr. Ettensohn has masterfully translated his extensive knowledge and expertise into a compelling, easy-to-read guidebook for non-professionals. He exposes the often-misconceived underbelly of the narcissist, promoting a deeper understanding of both the person and the relationship at hand. He provides illuminating scenarios and helpful tips, allowing for more constructive possibility both within the relationship and within the reader’s self. Unmasking Narcissism is a must read for anyone struggling to navigate this provocative and daunting relational experience.—Nancy Kernick, Psy.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist

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