Walking Over Eggshells is an autobiography that tells the story of a mentally abused child, who married a "Walter Mitty" clone who took her to live in many different countries.
They moved from England to Kenya, from Libya to Botswana and on again to South Africa. It took all her courage to survive in situations that were at times dangerous, sometimes humorous, but always nerve wracking.
She had a variety of jobs, different types of homes, and was both a millionairess and totally broke.
At one end of the scale she met royalty, hosted ambassadors, and won numerous awards for her writing and for her television programmes.
At the other end, she climbed over garbage dumps, fended off the bailiffs, and coped with being abandoned in the African bush with a seven week old baby, no money and no resources.
She admits to being the biggest coward in the world, but her survival instincts kicked in and she lived to tell her story.
This book will make you laugh and cry, but also it also explains the damage being brought up by a mother with a personality disorder can inflict on a child.
However, it is not all doom and gloom, and hopefully it will inspire others who did not have the best start in life either.
All names have been changed to protect both the guilty and the innocent - and that includes the author as well!
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About the Author
So she dutifully trained as a teacher, and has taught in seven different countries - from primary school infants to lecturing adults in Technical College.
After suffering a mentally abusive childhood, Lucinda had little defense against the Walter Mitty aspirations of the man she married. They moved from country to country, usually one step ahead of the creditors.
Eventually Lucinda found the courage to leave him and began to write and write and write. She graduated from radio, to television and then ran her own video production company, winning over 20 awards along the way.
She has known great wealth and dire poverty, and has learned many valuable lessons, but what saved her sanity, was an unquenchable sense of humour, and lots and lots of hard work.
After more than 30 years in Africa, she now lives in Spain with her second husband, her children at a safe distance and no animals at all.
She writes a satirical column for a local publication and gives talks to special interest groups, particularly on history which is her second love - her husband comes first of course!
She is still working on getting into the Cruise Ship Industry as a speaker, as she can't afford to pay the full price for exotic holidays.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Walking Over Eggshells: Surviving Mental Abuse by Lucinda Clarke is an autobiography where she has changed all the names to protect the innocent and guilty. The novel is about Lucinda’s life and how she survived growing up and living with mental abuse. Lucinda’s mom had narcissistic personality disorder, and this impacted her entire life. She uses this novel to show that despite growing up with this abuse she still lived a life full of adventure, had a family and eventually had a successful career. You will laugh at some of the stories, cry at others, and be outright shocked by many and wonder how this girl survived to write this. Through it all Lucinda was able to grow and keep up with the times, she was born in the 1950’s and has had to adapt with a drastically changing society while continuing to endure the mental abuse of her mother at every turn even into her adult years. The beginning chapters of the book tell of how Lucinda’s parents met and the eventual death of her father when she was only two. From there we are introduced to the never-ending criticism, punishments, and agony that Lucinda as a child endured. It is heartbreaking reading her words begging for a cuddle or a word of love and compassion from the women that called herself her mother. As a teen, the typical back and forth arguments continued, the younger generation is ungrateful, they need to do their part, so selfish, these are common themes even today we hear about the millennials. With Lucinda though, it is deeper, her mother really did expect her to do everything for her, and even when she did it was never good enough. The emotional struggle and need for love and acceptance is one that many readers can relate to, those that live with constant mental abuse will relate to Lucinda and see how she coped with the abuse while understanding why she continues to have a relationship with her mother. Once Lucinda meets and marries Jeremy her life adventures take off. They never stay in one place long, always moving from one job to the next, involving everything from traveling encyclopedia sales to sketchy engineering jobs in South Africa. In a way Lucinda traded one form of abuse for another, she loves Jeremy but he takes advantage of her and plays on her need to be loved. This is the part of the story where you read and think ‘is this real?’ how can one person put up with so much? That, I think, is the real story behind this book. You can survive though mental abuse even when that abuse spans the majority of your life. Throughout the book, Lucinda finds a way to make the best of her situation. She is willing to work be it animal breeding, filling, cleaning hotel rooms or writing. She never gave up no matter where she lived or what was going on with her and Jeremy, or her children, or her mother, she pushed forward and didn’t just survive the abuse, she made something of her life that she is proud of and even enjoyed at times. It is emotional, and at times hard to read; but Lucinda will make you believe anything is possible to overcome with the right mindset.
Reviewed by Jessyca Garcia for Readers' Favorite I thought Walking Over Eggshells by Lucinda E. Clarke was an interesting book. In her memoir, Clarke shares a huge part of her life. She has written about her adventures living in different places, her relationship with her verbally abusive mother, and her family life. Clarke has certainly led an interesting life. While reading Walking Over Eggshells, I had mixed feelings. I went back and forth from being sympathetic to what Clarke was going through to wondering what other people’s points of view on situations that occurred were. I hated Clarke’s mother and did not understand why Clarke kept trying to please her. I also did not understand why people would believe Clarke’s mother’s side of things unless she had some type of proof. A few times in the book Clarke reminded me of her mother. What went on between her and her children may be part of the story but I do not think that it should have been written about. If my mother wrote about the issues in our relationship I would not be happy. This is eerily similar to Clarke’s mother showing off Clarke’s letters to people. Towards the end of the book I wanted to stand up and cheer because I felt that Clarke finally made a good decision about her home life. After so many years putting up with someone, it took guts to do what she did in South Africa. I do, however, still have some unanswered questions about some things that happened in the book. I am honestly glad that Clarke was finally able to achieve something that she wanted in her life. In the beginning of the book I did not ever think that she would live such an adventurous life. I am glad that I read Walking Over Eggshells because I consider Clarke a strong female role model.
Walking Over Eggshells is a well-written poignant memoir about a woman's struggle to hold onto her self-esteem while her narcissistic mother endlessly tries to tear it apart. Lucinda tells her story from her abusive and difficult childhood to her life with a betraying husband who leaves her poverty-stricken in a foreign country with two children. Lucinda writes with brutal honesty about her home life and what it was like to suffer emotional and verbal abuse on a daily basis. Even after Lucinda married Jeremy, a charismatic, but cheating and irresponsible husband, her mother's scoldings and put-downs never ceased. Lucinda had a painful life and even though her story is compelling and downright amazing, it is not an emotionally easy book to read. However, despite her mother's abuse and her husband's betrayal Lucinda was able to reclaim her self-worth and become quite accomplished. Kudos to Lucinda. She sends a clear message to her readers, self-blame is destructive and belongs with the abuser, not the victim. Lucinda gives hope to those who are still hurting, by sharing her life and proving that even after abuse, happiness is still possible.