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We Should Hang Out Sometime: Embarrassingly, a True Story

We Should Hang Out Sometime: Embarrassingly, a True Story

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by Josh Sundquist

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When I was twenty-five years old, it came to my attention that I had never had a girlfriend. At the time, I was actually under the impression that I was in a relationship, so this bit of news came as something of a shock.

Why was Josh still single? To find out, he tracked down each of the girls he had tried to date since middle school and asked them


When I was twenty-five years old, it came to my attention that I had never had a girlfriend. At the time, I was actually under the impression that I was in a relationship, so this bit of news came as something of a shock.

Why was Josh still single? To find out, he tracked down each of the girls he had tried to date since middle school and asked them straight up: What went wrong?

The results of Josh's semiscientific investigation are in your hands. From a disastrous Putt-Putt date involving a backward prosthetic foot, to his introduction to CFD (Close Fast Dancing), and a misguided "grand gesture" at a Miss America pageant, this story is about looking for love—or at least a girlfriend—in all the wrong places.

Poignant, relatable, and totally hilarious, this memoir is for anyone who has ever wondered, "Is there something wrong with me?"

(Spoiler Alert: the answer is no.)

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
In an autobiographical account that’s equal parts hilarious and cringe-inducing, Sundquist—a Paralympic ski racer, cancer survivor, and motivational speaker—uses scientific methodology, complete with hypotheses and graphs, to analyze his not-so-successful history with women. Having an amputated leg never stopped Josh from attempting to date girls while he was growing up, but his insecurities and misinterpretations led to some awkward (and funny) moments. For example, there was the time he fell down on a golf date and ended up with his artificial foot pointing the wrong way (“You can’t imagine the horror on the faces of the other golfers as they stared at a leg apparently so severely fractured that the foot was now capable of rotating 180 degrees”). From Josh’s first “relationship” in middle school (which lasted 23 hours) to later ones in college, romance never had time to blossom. While his recent interviews and meetings with the girls from his past are often just as uncomfortable as their dates were, they also lead to answers as genuine as his narrative. Ages 12–up. Agent: Lucy Carson, Friedrich Agency. (Dec.)
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Praise for We Should Hang Out Sometime:
An Amazon.ca Best Books of December 2014 for Children and Teens SelectionA YALSA 2015 Teens Top Ten Nominee
"You should read this book sometime. I loved it so much."—Justine Ezarik, New York Times bestselling author of I, Justine: An Analog Memoir"

Sundquist is a storyteller-flawed, wry, laid-back and sympathetic. Anyone who's felt awkward will alternately (or simultaneously) wince and burst out laughing at his earnest misadventures with stalkers, "Close Fast Dancing" and flow charts... but above all, they'll be rooting for Sundquist to hang out with a girl. Funny, sympathetic and poignant, Sundquist's memoir has a high probability of success."—Kirkus Reviews"

An autobiographical account that's equal parts hilarious and cringe-inducing...While his recent interviews and meetings with the girls from his past are often just as uncomfortable as their dates were, they also lead to answers as genuine as his narrative."—Publishers Weekly"

[A] laugh-out-loud memoir...This is a unique, earnest, and funny coming-of-age story about Sundquist's experiences. Readers will appreciate the humorous and often embarrassingly accurate tales depicted in the pages of this book."—SLJ"

Josh's voice is engaging and conversational, and readers will relate as they laugh along at his misadventures. From a disastrous putt-putt date to just general, suffusing awkwardness, Josh (who grew up to be a Paralympic ski racer) discovers that revisiting the past can be both embarrassing and enlightening. Irresistible fun."—Booklist"

[Sundquist's] findings are illuminating for anyone who has experienced social awkwardness in the field of attraction...and his gift for encouragement shines forcefully from his final chapters, where he assesses what went wrong and relates how he has used his new self-awareness to find love. Readers familiar with Sundquist's website and YouTube channel will be a natural audience for this."—The Bulletin "

Sundquist has written a compelling memoir, to which teens will be able to relate, as it probes the universal insecurities of teen dating."—School Library Connection "

Often hilarious, occasionally awkward, and always hopeful, Josh's quest for love will have readers rooting for him all the way."—Jennifer E. Smith, author of The Statistical Probability of Love at First Sight and The Geography of You and Me"

Josh Sundquist has written a sharp, funny memoir without an ounce of self-pity about how the fear of rejection can be far more crippling than any disease. A hilarious, heartfelt reminder that finding the courage to accept love is an inside job."—Aaron Hartzler, author of Rapture Practice

VOYA, February 2015 (Vol. 37, No. 6) - Mary Ann Darby
When Josh turns twenty-five, he realizes that he has never had a girlfriend. Being an intelligent and analytical sort of person, he decides to go back and examine his failed relationships with girls, including follow-up interviews with each of the girls he had pursued, starting with Sarah Stevens in eighth grade. Factors that he considers significant include his serious bout with cancer as a child that leaves him with only one leg; conservative Christian parents whose conviction that public schools are cesspools of evil have Josh home-schooled until he starts high school; and his parents’ refusal to allow him to date until he is sixteen. From eighth-grade Sarah through a young woman he meets when he is a motivational speaker after college, Josh walks through each of six failed relationships recounting his impressions, hand-drawing amusing graphs of “data,” and summarizing a years-later conversation with each. His research shows him that through all of his failed relationships, it was he who had been too fixated on his disability, which he had been sure must have been dooming relationships. He finally realizes that this is not the case at all. Pegged as being a “wholly hilarious” story, this seems to be a story for graduates of the Wimpy Kid series, as it is not well written, nor, to this reviewer, funny. Josh’s description of his incredibly conservative parents, who are quite sure dances are only good for girls to become pregnant, seems sad. His stories feel like perpetrations of stereotypes rather than humorous. The author has a following, both as a video blogger and as a motivational speaker, so his followers will no doubt welcome this book with open arms. But for junior and high school libraries with budget considerations, this book does not need to be on the high-priority list. Reviewer: Mary Ann Darby; Ages 12 to 18.
School Library Journal
Gr 9 Up—Sundquist, a motivational speaker, author, and Paralympic ski racer (he lost his left leg to Ewing's sarcoma at age nine), has had terrible luck with the ladies. In this laugh-out-loud memoir, he attempts to figure out why he can't catch a break, exploring the matter scientifically by analyzing and hypothesizing about each of his failed relationships, starting with his first girlfriend in the eighth grade. Sundquist tracks down the various women he's dated and interviews them to test his hypotheses. Each section of the book is dedicated to a different girlfriend and time period in Josh's life. His various theories are often illustrated through hilarious charts and graphs, adding to the lab report feel of the book. This is a unique, earnest, and funny coming-of-age story about Sundquist's experiences as a cancer survivor, amputee, Paralympic ski racer, and motivational speaker. Readers will appreciate the humorous and often embarrassingly accurate tales depicted in the pages of this book.—Annalise Ammer, City of Rochester Public Libraries, NY
Kirkus Reviews
A fondness for math plus a self-deprecating sense of humor equals Sundquist's memoir of dating and self-acceptance. Who says you won't use math and science later in life? Reflecting on spending 25 years without a girlfriend, Paralympic skier Sundquist quirkily applies the scientific method to his attempts at dating from eighth grade to college. Was he rejected because he studied SAT words for fun? Or maybe because he accidentally chopped down a tree with his prosthesis? To test his hypotheses, he interviews each girl and reaches a startling, surprisingly emotional conclusion that gives new meaning to the phrase "It's not you, it's me." This is no dry dissection, however; as Sundquist notes, "fighting emotion with logic is like bringing a calculator to a knife fight." Nor does it fall into an overtly inspirational, relentlessly cheerful tone. Sundquist is a storyteller—flawed, wry, laid-back and sympathetic. Anyone who's felt awkward will alternately (or simultaneously) wince and burst out laughing at his earnest misadventures with stalkers, "Close Fast Dancing" and flow charts. Readers will learn about love, self-esteem and even Venn diagrams thanks to tongue-in-cheek visual aids ribbing everything from Sundquist's limb count to bad pickup lines, but above all, they'll be rooting for Sundquist to hang out with a girl. Funny, sympathetic and poignant, Sundquist's memoir has a high probability of success. (Memoir. 13 & up)
Children's Literature - Justina Engebreston
Poets often romanticize about young love, while writers weave tales of happily ever after. In reality, however, affairs of the heart are often one gigantic awkward mess of rejections, misunderstandings, unspoken words, and unanswered questions; and no one seems to understand this more than Josh. At twenty-five, Josh realizes that he has never really had a girlfriend, though definitely not due to a lack of interest or a number of possible candidates. Being the analytical guy that he is, Josh sets out on a semi-scientific investigation to discover what doomed all of his potential relationships, going all the way back to middle school and his first almost-girlfriend. In a narrative, autobiographical fashion, Josh presents the findings of his research in this young adult novel, providing the background details of his history with each girl, his hypothesis of what went wrong, and the results of his interviews with said girl. With its unusually fresh and candid approach to dating relationships, this book will delight and entertain its young adult audience. Josh is a character and writer that readers will instantly feel connected to due to his personal story, honesty, and humorous wit. Though mostly a light hearted read, the overarching theme of this true story is the great life lesson that personal fears or insecurities are often the greatest obstacles to overcome. Overall, this book will largely appeal to anyone who has ever wondered what went wrong or what might have been but never was. Reviewer: Justina Engebreston; Ages 14 up.

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Meet the Author

Josh Sundquist is a Paralympic ski racer, cancer survivor, popular YouTube vlogger, motivational speaker, and Halloween enthusiast. Every Tuesday, Josh releases a new video to 200,000-plus subscribers on his YouTube channel. He is the author of We Should Hang Out Sometime and the bestselling Just Don't Fall. As a motivational speaker, Josh speaks to schools, conventions, and corporations across the world. He invites you to visit him online at joshsundquist.com or follow him at @JoshSundquist.

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We Should Hang Out Sometime: Embarrassingly, a true story 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 35 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed this book. It was so incredibly funny. I recommend this book to anyone having a serious book hangover or is in a reading slump. It is such a good read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Loved it!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A brilliant take on the meandering quest to meaningful love. Josh brings his viewers on a romantical, mathematical journey to find out why he's experienced such bad luck with the ladies. Josh's writing style is quick, leaving you wanting to rewind his thoughts for a second listen. He is honest about others and about himself - you'll enjoy rooting for Josh as he reaches into the past to interview former love interests and looks to the future to meet his own love story waiting to happen.
MorrisMorgan More than 1 year ago
All I really want to write about “We Should Hang Out Sometime” is a bunch of keyboard slamming with “EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS NOW” at the end of it.  Oh, and a whole bunch of “lols”.   It really is that good, and Josh Sundquist is a master storyteller. The book is a somewhat scientific exploration of all of the author’s failed relationships and an attempt to find out where, exactly, they went wrong.  He is a Christian homeschooled amputee with a nerdy side, making him atypical in many ways, but I dare anyone not to find parts of the story that they feel do not come straight out of their own lives.  This is where Sundquist’s genius comes in: He can make us all relate to him, and therefore learn from him.  I, by the way, fell (and still do) solidly in the “let me make a flowchart to minimize the pain of rejection during a social interaction” category.  But I digress. There are a lot of laughs in “We Should Hang Out Sometime”, including some of those uncomfortable “should I be laughing at this?” moments.  My advice is to go with it, because trying to keep it in will hurt.  It isn’t only words.  There are hand-drawn charts graphs that are worthy of being made into posters illustrating many key points. By the end of the book, the Josh Sundquist has shown remarkable growth as a person and managed to teach us some very good inspirational life lessons.  An excellent, and important, read for middle readers through adults. So, in closing:  Mr. Sundquist, we should hang out sometime.  (But not in that way.) This review is based upon a complimentary copy provided by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was so cute, especially the ending. I adored the book and even more so due to it being a true story. I would certianly reccomend this book to any age. :)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read the book and I loved it!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is hilarious from the very beging. I have never laughed so much before when i've reead a book!
valercrazy More than 1 year ago
Humans, I really have to stop declaring that I KNOW that I'm going to love a book because I've been striking out lately. I KNEW that We Should Hang Out Sometime would be awesome and hilarious but instead it was one dimensional and repetitive. I read the synopsis of this book a few months ago and I was SOLD, it was gonna be like that Adam Brody movie Some Girl(s) but this book wasn't for me. We meet Josh I think in the eighth grade and I get it, eighth graders are weird and scared of rejection, but then that's how he was at 14, then 16, then 17, throw in college, and he is still this way in his late twenties. WHAT? That doesn't sound like any change to me, oh wait, there wasn't. It was the exact same story over and over again, and none of it made sense! I just, this book wasn't for me.  The main problem I had with this book was that his entire goal in life was to have a girlfriend; he even said that he wanted to kiss any willing girl. HAVE BETTER GOALS! I get that this book was about his lack of girlfriends but I wish that we could have focused on anything else.  I did like that he drew a lot of graphs and charts to help illustrate his point and I like the cover. It wrapped up nice enough, I guess, though by the end I didn't care at all.  Listen, I know that people really like this and I don't want to deter others, this just wasn't a book for me.  
SEAnderson More than 1 year ago
This is the funnest book I've read in a long time. Josh Sundquist's book matches the conversational tone of his youtube videos, blending engaging  stories with witty observations and fun, hand drawn graphs and charts. I highly recommend this book to fans of YA everywhere.  
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
No one cares hush up
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is written by an idiot that has the most boring life imaginable. The girls all give up on him because hes an insecure hermit.
rebecca-steighner More than 1 year ago
This book helped me realize that no one is really judging you but yourself.  It’s usually not the flaw that’s the problem; it’s your perception of that flaw. And by learning this, I have been able to accept myself a lot more.  As for the book, it was good, but a little repetitive. I get that it was supposed to be that way, but the author could have gone into detail a little bit more. At the end of the book, the author did a “results of the investigation” chapter where he talked about what I said in the paragraph above. He was basically wrapping up the book and saying what he learned. This section was very short, which I did not like. It was only a few pages and could have been so much deeper. If I were to change something about the end, I would have explained, “this idea can apply to other insecurities you might have, not just an amputated leg.” Now, I understood what he meant, but some other people might not be able to read that far into the chapter and might not fully take away what the author wanted them to. As for the writing style, I enjoyed reading it. There were multiple occasions where I laughed or felt what the author was feeling during the situation he was describing. I also loved the way he set up the chapters, with the same titled sections for each girl. I loved the use of graphs and charts, which not only helped you understand the authors point, but also added personality to the book. Generally speaking, I was entertained while reading the book and I could definitely relate to it in some ways. I would read this author again. The writing style was enjoyable and it was an all around good book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Purely innocent and entertaining, I definitely recommend.?
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So bored so righting comments
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Beth_Rodgers_Author More than 1 year ago
'We Should Hang Out Sometime: Embarrassingly, A True Story' by Josh Sundquist is a compelling memoir that reads much like a young adult novel. One could easily read this book and wonder whether the events actually happened or if they are fictional. Yet, they are all true, told from Sundquist's perspective. His enlightening tales of his own teenage angst and uncertainty ring so true, and his internal battle with the loss of his leg and how it affects the way he lives his life and his relationships adds an even more realistic layer to the storytelling. The truthful nature of the story engrosses readers from the get-go, as they learn about the girlfriends he has had - or wanted to have - and how he lost them, even though he never actually had one - and only one - for even a full 24 hours. The memoir is written like an investigative journal, as he recaps his interest in each girl, how she came to like him, at the very least as a friend, and how anything he thought was happening between them was nipped in the bud before it could even begin, for a variety of reasons that will engross readers. Even though it is clear the relationships - or lack thereof - are just not going to work out, the way he tells the story and reveals the follow-up to each is riveting. He meets with each of the girls in person or via the computer years later, while in his 20s, to get their take on the way everything occurred. He comes to some realizations and has some surprises on his journey to learn the truth, which are equally surprising and interesting for readers. Anyone who has liked someone and had it not work out, but has remained positive in the wake of that upset, will find Sundquist's storytelling touching and even aggravating, especially as hindsight always kicks in and people wish they could have done things differently. Reading about Sundquist's relationships brings up that same sense of worry that things may not work out, even though they tend to do so when one least expects it. The ending was worth the read, and most anyone who picks this book up will likely see a little of themselves, whether from one perspective or the other (as Sundquist or one of the girls he likes). As a true story, it hits the nail on the head about how liking someone isn't always what it's cracked up to be - but sometimes it just might live up to the expectations. Beth Rodgers, Author of 'Freshman Fourteen,' A Young Adult Novel
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I want your body
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Ill be a sex slave. Im 13. Only nook sex and make it good. To tell me yes you wsnt my body say #illfucu
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Its good
BoundWithWords More than 1 year ago
I have never read a non-fiction book before but when I saw that this book was written by Josh Sundquist (a motivational speaker who has a very funny channel on Youtube) AND it was about his "failings" on the romantic life it was a no-brainer that I wanted to read this. This book was funny, full of fun charts and totally relatable to anyone that has dated already. What I liked the most on this one was definitely to see how much Josh freak out over dates, as a girl on her 20's and single is pretty amazing to read from a point of view of a guy and see that they too have fears of putting themselves out there - rom-com always tell the story from the girl's perspective and the guys always look completely comfortable and cool with the date, yeah real life isn't like this. Josh's voice translated really good to paper, it was funny and (having seeing some of his videos) very close to his videos, there was a lot of graphics (which is common on his videos). What I especially liked was the way Josh talked about "issues topics" like the lost of his leg and dealing with that and religion, I never felt like he was... Like, preaching his ideas on the readers, he just stated them - particularly on the religion thing, I never read books too focused on it and this one wasn't but his church is a big part of Josh's life and I was surprised that it never bothered me, never, probably because the way it was told it was just something intricate with Josh. I would have liked more from the last chapter when he finally meet his girlfriend, also the realization of why he never has had a girlfriend it was so damn cliche. A little more from his family and friends wouldn't have hurt either, it was really focused just on the girlfriends and their dates and stuff, I would have liked I little bit more of Josh without the girlfriends involved. Recommended to lovers of romantic comedies, contemporary romances and people trying their first memoir who want something that reads like fiction.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Hilarious and heartwarming, this book is everything you'd need to enjoy a good story about a boy finding love.
Chancie More than 1 year ago
I was afraid maybe I wouldn't like this book at first, but I was very, very wrong. This book is an excellent read, and I kept finding myself trying to grab at it every spare second I got. I love the values it portrays about looking at yourself, what makes you special/important/unique, and taking those chances even when you're scared because something good could come from it. Also, I think this book could be important for anyone who insists they've been friend-zoned or blames the other person for not liking them back. Great book, absolutely loved it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I loved Josh's character throughout the whole book! He made it seem so real for any guy or girl who feels like they aren't good enough to have a boy/girlfriend. Overall, I would recommend this book to any teenager who feels like they don't get the attention they would like from their crush. Not only does the book hold the great message of, "patience when it comes to love," but it's absolutley hilarious! So read if you want a laugh and an inspirational message!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago