Every day, another Millennial becomes an adult. For many young people, the transition is a bumpy one, fraught with opportunities to make mistakes and bad choices. The clear expectations they had at home or in school are gone, and they may feel unprepared to face what comes next.
But sometimes we make it harder than it has to be. Combining entertaining stories from his own experience, insights from the Bible, and compelling evidence from research, "JP" Pokluda lays out a roadmap for how to navigate life as an adult, addressing topics like
- friendships and dating
- career and money management
- interpersonal conflict
- controlling anxiety
- recovering from addiction
- and discovering your purpose on this earth
Anyone struggling to find a footing in the world of adult life will welcome this witty, non-patronizing guide.
|Publisher:||Baker Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Jonathan "JP" Pokluda is teaching pastor at Watermark Community Church, with an average weekly attendance of 12,000 people, and leader of The Porch, an influential gathering of thousands of young adults who come hear the gospel and get equipped for Kingdom purposes. Pokluda came to understand the grace of the Gospel in his early twenties after being involved in different denominational churches his entire life. This ignited a desire in him to reach people in their twenties and thirties for Christ. He lives with his wife, Monica, and their three children.
Kevin McConaghy works as a copywriter for a marketing agency in Dallas, Texas. He's been involved with The Porch since the day it first launched, and served in a variety of roles there for over a decade. As an editor and contributor to The Porch blog, he's collaborated with JP on writing projects for a number of years. He and his wife, Juliana, have one daughter, Clara, and another child on the way.
Table of Contents
Section 1 Adulting with Purpose
1 Life: Don't Miss It 15
2 Purpose: The Reason You're Here 25
Section 2 Adulting Like a Boss
3 Authority: Who's in Charge Here? 39
4 Work: Career Counseling 55
5 Money: It's Not All about the Benjamins 71
Section 3 Adulting with Friends
6 Community: Your Playmates and Playgrounds 93
7 Conflict: The Right Way to Be Wrong (and Vice Versa) 111
8 Dating: Happily Ever After? 125
Section 4 Adulting Fearlessly
9 Worry: The Only Thing We Have to Fear… 159
10 Recovery: Leaving the Past Behind 173
Section 5 Adulting Forever
11 Eternity: Life in Perspective 191
About the Author 221
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
So So So good for Adults and those who need to become one. READ THIS BOOK!
If you are entering adulthood, you need to read this book! Jonathan “JP” Podluka has written a great guide on what it means to be an adult in the 21st century. Adulting is full of exciting things like responsibilities and mortgage payments, but JP reminds readers that there is more to life than simply getting married and finding a good job. Your purpose defines how you live your life, and for the Christian, your purpose is defined by the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus. This book is divided into 5 sections: purpose, work, relationships, fears, and eternity. If you are looking for a book that dives deep into one passage and one topic for 200 pages, this book is not for you. Rather, Welcome to Adulting is a summary of the basic challenges that 20-somethings face and how the Bible responds to each situation. As a 20-something, I felt like each topic was relevant and pushed me to a greater biblical understanding. This book is simple to understand and hard to put down (My roommate read the entire thing in a day… before I was even able to get to it. Not bitter.). For me, sections 3 and 4 were the best part of the book. Knowing how to biblically deal with conflict will change how you interact with others, and if done in the right way, it really does bring glory to God. I didn’t think I was a big worrier, but I was convicted of areas where I wanted control over my life rather than releasing it to God. JP weaves stories from his life in and out of these pages to remind you that this is not a book from a superior to an inferior, rather it’s from someone who has been there and wants what’s best for you. It’s raw, blunt at times (in a good way), and always looks to challenge you to something greater. Overall, this book is full of God’s truth and will point you back to the gospel over and over again. Any book that is able to remind me of my need for Jesus and points me to a greater relationship with my Savior is worth the price of admission. I recommend this book for any young adult, especially recent graduates (high school or college). As someone who works in student ministry, this will be the new book we give to high school seniors as they graduate. Highly recommended.
Really well written with tons of helpful experiences and stories within. I really appreciated its close connection with faith and how to navigate through life!
This book should be read by every young adult at the age of 17 and then at 21! It has so very many important truths that it is a treasure chest needing to be unpacked. The author acknowledges upfront that he made a plethora of mistakes as a young man and he wants to use his knowledge gained the hard way to help others not make the same mistakes. He has broken the short, easy-to-digest book into eleven chapters. Life and Purpose are the first two, followed by Authority, Work, Money, Community, Conflict, and Dating and finishing with Worry, Recovery and Eternity. Each chapter ends with a few discussion/reflection questions. Pokluda pulls in quotes from others, such as from a friend of his who says, “So whether it’s mothering, medicine, CEO, sales, teaching, ministry, writing or so on…it is important to remember toil in work was part of the curse and it is difficult and you do the things you don’t like because it’s RIGHT and OBEDIENT and HOLY. And on the days work is fun, smile and celebrate, and on the days work isn’t fun, don’t rethink your whole life. Do the work.” He also uses studies and statistics such as, “…people who have premarital sex are more prone to divorce later on. In fact, having even just one premarital sexual partner makes you about four times more likely to divorce within the first five years of marriage, and having multiple partners results in a divorce rate five to six times higher.” His own personal examples are also sprinkled throughout – and he is a great story teller! This is such a powerful tool to help young adults as they transition from teenagers under mom and dad’s roof to adults navigating the world themselves. I cannot recommend it highly enough! I am grateful to the publisher for giving me a copy of this book. I am freely writing a review - all thoughts and opinions are my own.
This book was amazing, unique writing and compelling to read with also had a good story to everyone specially for a young adult that can not find yourself in their life, looking for direction that you are facing in the real world. This book will provide you to a sort of a map to discovery and challenging us to following a basic of God plan that he had for our life and to do so this will be unlock from the pain from all mistake walking out of the darkest to the light with God has already make clear for us. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Baker Books Bloggers for this review”.
“Welcome to Adulting” is a book I wish I had in my early adulting years. If you are in your late teens or twenties, you need to pick up a copy of this book. The author Jonathan Pokluda gives a fresh perspective on what it means to be a young adult in a world where sex, fame, money, power and material possessions are the driving force. Adulthood brings with it major responsibilities but it is also filled with many exciting moments. Looking back at my early adulting years, while I wanted Jesus to return, I silently hoped he would delay so I would have the opportunity to get married, finally visit Paris or some other exotic destination. Jonathan reminds reader that worldly accomplishments are all temporary. Instead of finding our identity in earthly things, we should embrace our true identity, after all eternity is at stake. The book is divided into five sections, these include: knowing your purpose, work, relationships, fear and eternity. The author starts off the book recounting his story and sharing with us raw truths of his journey into adulthood. Jonathan also discusses the challenges he encounters while entering adulthood, he recounts situations that 20 somethings can most likely identify with – think one night stands, drinking and a world of other wrongs. While he appeared to be more of a playboy than an actual church kid, he finally came to grips that all the happiness he was aiming for was all temporary. As fate would have it, a one night encounter changed the trajectory of his life. What I really liked about the book was how the author laid out each chapter. He weaved his own personal stories with each topic that was discussed as well as provided a biblical perspective. The way the book was laid out made the concepts pretty easy to understand. It is also easy to identify with the author. It is evident that he has “been there done that” and he knows what he is talking about. While reading, there were quite a few golden gems mentioned that I had to whip out my note pad to record all those golden concepts. One of the more impactful ones for me, was this quote from the book, ” If you are more concerned about what people think of you than what God thinks of you, then the approval of others is an idol to you.” This is really deep and oh so true. I feel as though this quote was perfectly crafted just for me. I will leave you to simmer on that quote for a while. Go get the book. Topics such as “Adulting like a Boss” where he spoke about money and it not being all about the Benjamin’s had me hooked. I also enjoyed the chapter on knowing your purpose where he delves into a helpful acrostic that covers five different areas to help you learn more about how you have been uniquely created. Welcome to Adulting by Jonathan Pokluda comes highly recommended. This is a must read for every young adult. It is certainly one of the better adulting books that I have read thus far and yes I have read quite a few. I would encourage every parent to snag a copy of this book for their child or as a gift for a friend. This would also make a perfect graduation gift for high school seniors.
I have had the privilege of getting to listen to JP preach on Tuesdays and Sundays for a year and a half now, and this book has been a culmination of all of what God has used him for during that time. I share a lot of JP's similar past, so to get to read things from his point of view paired and backed through the worldview of Biblical Truth was extremely encouraging and transformational for me. What JP is sharing with us here isn't rocket science, it's something way more complex, yet so simple. Jesus is after us, y'all. God used JP in this book to discuss the things the world thinks are either normal, or things that we should be ashamed of. JP uses God's word to shed a light on things the world would LOVE to keep in the darkness. From pride to porn addiction to financial woes to people pleasing and all of the above, Jesus is bigger than all of these things. Adulting can be extremely scary, but it doesn't have to be. The jobs, the money, the relationships, etc; none of it matters as much as our relationship with Christ and I think that JP does a great job of capturing that and challenging us in the most appropriate ways possible. Thank ya JP, love you!
Incredible resource!!! I am so grateful JP wrote this book. It talks about money, careers, dating, anxiety, and all things #adulting. Could not recommend it enough!!
This book is a must read for all adults, whether you are already adulting or preparing to adult. JP has so much wisdom and life experience and he was able to put it all in a book. This book prepares you for adulting and guides you according to God's plan!
My reciew below was supposed to have 5 stars, not 4! Normally I wouldn’t care to change it or make an edit, but this book is amazing and deserves a 5 rating!
My husband and I have been going through this book together and we’ve been so blessed by it already! We love discussing the questions after each chapter and talking about how we can apply what we learned into our life, together and individually. If you’re twenty, thirty, married, single, or just looking for ways to grow your relationship with the Lord, we HIGHLY recommend reading this book!
This book is a compelling read for anyone who is searching for how to honor God through the stage of adulting. There are so many cultural expectations or pressures thrown at young adults, that sometimes we get caught up in searching for identity in money, a job, or a desired future. JP explains how God desires for us to live a life that is full of purpose and fulfillment through seeking to honor Him. Some of my favorite topics included in the book are the importance of trusting that God's in control so there's no need to worry, how to navigate glorifying God in the work place, and how to date in a way that honors God. This is easy to read as JP includes many relatable stories and his writing is very down-to-earth. This book would be perfect to read on your own, but also you might get more benefit from reading it with a group. There are great, thought-provoking questions at the end of every chapter. Highly recommend this book to all young adults!!!