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"If your little girl has suddenly turned into one big eye roll, then Arden Greenspan-Goldberg's What Do You Expect? She's a Teenager! is for you. It's the ultimate how-to guidebook that will not only teach you how to survive your daughter's teen years, but how to enjoy them along the way, too."
-Jen Singer, author of You're a Good Mom (and Your Kids Aren't So Bad Either)
In a straightforward, user friendly, and totally accessible way, What Do You Expect? She's a Teenager! overflows with the skills and techniques every mother needs for navigating the precarious yet thrilling road of raising a teenage daughter. Arden Greenspan-Goldberg covers every facet of your ride of a lifetime: sex, drugs, bullying, friends, and more... expertly steering you into realistic expectations that both prepare and equip you for your journey."
-Dr. Jane Greer, marriage and family therapist, author, What About Me?: Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, radio host, Huffington Post contributor
"Thank goodness, a liberating, refreshingly helpful and therapeutically credible road map along the free-falling journey of motherhood. We all win with less 'losing it' around conflict. The personal stories definitely made me feel less alone and empowered to stay open!"
-Emme, TV personality, supermodel, women's body image advocate, and mom
Bullying. Body Image. Drugs. Alcohol. Sex. Stress.
You know your daughter has a lot to deal with. But short of being with her 24/7, how can you help?
The ultimate preparation manual and survival guide for moms with tween or teen girls, What Do You Expect? She's a Teenager! is a portable problem-solver, a manual for surviving and thriving with your daughter. Written by Arden Greenspan-Goldberg, a nationally known family and marriage psychotherapist specializing in teen and young adult issues, this book offers you a way to step back from the chaos, manage your worries, and cultivate a more open and less volatile relationship with your daughter.
Filled with advice on how to handle the most serious topics, from bullying, sex, and drugs to eating disorders and friends, as well as other typical hot-button scenarios-including the desire for piercings or tattoos, posting racy photos online, sexting, and many more issues-this is a must-have for any mom coping with a teenage daughter.
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About the Author
Arden Greenspan-Goldberg, M.S.W., L.C.S.W., B.C.D., is a nationally known family and marriage psychotherapist who has specialized in teen issues for more than 30 years. She currently practices in New City, New York, and New York City. Visit askarden.com
Read an Excerpt
Introduction to Aerial Parenting
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
You thought your husband or partner could push your buttons, but that was before you had her. Daughters, particularly teenage daughters, are gifted in the art of the comeback, the shoulder shrug, the eye roll. And what's really amazing is the way it affects you. Think about how your face gets so hot after your daughter says "You ruin everything!" or "You don't know what you're talking about!"
Perhaps your daughter reminds you of yourself when you were her age and all the growing pains you experienced. Maybe you see yourself in her, your good points as well as your not-so-good ones. Or maybe you feel you don't have anything in common with your daughter and can't relate to her. No wonder the relationships between mothers and daughters can be so emotionally charged. Being the mother of a teenage daughter can be downright alarming. Consider these bald facts:
It's a minefield out there, and if you're a mother of a tween or teen daughter, it's enough to make you want to scream and hide. Well, screaming might help to release some of the tension, but you can't really hide. Wherever you go, whatever you do, you're still a mom, and a mom to a daughter between the ages of eleven and nineteen at that. Much of the time it's all we can do to simply react to what's going on and try to keep up with everything that's happening around us. So what's a stressed-out, overworked, underappreciated, woefully-unprepared-for-all-this mom supposed to do?
As a nationally known family and marriage psychotherapist specializing in teen and young adult issues, I have helped countless moms step back from the chaos, manage their worries, and cultivate more open and less volatile relationships with their daughters. This book is that help wrapped into a portable package just for you.
HOW THIS BOOK CAN HELP
This book is the ultimate preparation manual and survival guide for mothers with tween or teen girls ages eleven to nineteen. It's a tool of prevention. We'll discuss all manner of scenarios on the most hot-button topics, from bullying to sex to drugs to eating disorders to stress and depression. We'll also cover everyday confrontations, from her wanting to get piercings where the sun doesn't shine, to her posting racy pictures online, to you trying to get her to talk to you about what's going on in her life and listen to what you have to say in return.
You'll read through real questions that moms typically wonder about, followed by ideas on how to handle the situation calmly and effectively, as well as the relevant info moms need to make good parenting decisions. The questions are based on dilemmas I've encountered as a therapist in my practice, and from questions and emails I get through my website, www.askarden.com. In addition, you'll read some exclusive interviews I've conducted especially for this book with noted experts in their respective fields. These incredible women, many of them mothers themselves, all offer their expertise and insights to Mom to further her understanding and strengthen her connection to her daughter. I also share memories and lessons learned from parenting and guiding my own daughter, Samara, although there were definitely days when it seemed
Samara was teaching me how to be a better parent. I share the collective wisdom of all of these experiences, thorns and all.
Why are we covering so many situations? The idea is that the more scenarios you've thought through, the better able you'll be to handle things as they arise.
Because we obviously can't anticipate everything that might happen in your daughter's life, the book will also include general strategies for being a responsive parent, which can help moms with things like how to keep from taking your daughter's outbursts too personally, how to talk to her without escalating the argument, how to stay focused on what's important, and how to be a positive and effective influence on her life. The book includes lots of clearly marked boxes and sections highlighting important facts and advice to make it easy for moms to navigate. That means you can dip into this book wherever and whenever you want to in order to find help dealing with the issue of the moment. But I also hope that you will read this book as a guidebook, a manual for surviving and thriving during the oft-dreaded teenage years, before you end up facing their fears and frustrations in real life.
The book is divided into fifteen chapters. This chapter will introduce you to the parenting philosophy that I call "aerial parenting" and give you some guidelines for your overall relationship with your daughter. Chapter 2 explores the main issue, which is that tween and teen girls tend to be volatile creatures in their own right. On top of that, the mother-daughter relationship can be full of change and emotion. But a volatile parent is not a good parent, so how does Mom handle all this and turn turbulent situations into positive outcomes? It's not easy, but this first section will set moms on the right track by arming them with the proper perspective and general parenting strategies. I'll explain where girls are developmentally as they age from tweens to teens, so that moms can have a better idea of what to expect from them. I'll also help moms access their own parenting styles so they can better understand the part they play in creating the dynamic between themselves and their daughters.
The rest of the chapters deal with the most common and feared issues mothers of teen daughters face, from sex and drugs to family fallouts and getting into college. The purpose of my advice is to bring Mom closer to her daughter, to make their relationship more open, more trusting, and even more fun. There will be plenty of sidebars and statistics throughout the chapters to emphasize both the practical and inspirational aspects of this book, along with scripts and conversation starters in case you're not sure what to say. (You'll find conversation starters and scripts bolded throughout.)
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Introduction to Aerial Parenting 1
Chapter 2 Why Is She Like That? 21
Chapter 3 Technology 37
Chapter 4 Independence 67
Chapter 5 Family Dynamics 91
Chapter 6 School 111
Chapter 7 Peers 133
Chapter 8 Bullying 147
Chapter 9 Dating 173
Chapter 10 Sex 199
Chapter 11 Body Image, Health, and Personal Identity 235
Chapter 12 Alcohol and Drugs 259
Chapter 13 Mental Health 283
Chapter 14 Special Needs 305
Chapter 15 How to Choose a Therapist 321
About the Author 333
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I greatly enjoyed this book and recommend it to anyone with a teenage daughter. The kids even enjoy the book. A mainstay of our home.
I havent read it and am not planning on it!! This book is very insulting for teens girls. Will NOT reccomend. From, A teen