What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman

What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman

by Danielle Crittenden
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What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman 3.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 8 reviews.
sunshine897 More than 1 year ago
This is one of the most honest books about modern women that I have ever read. The author takes things that I've always known (in my gut) but were afraid to say aloud, and boldly tackles them one by one. Even my mother who was fiercely independent, took 3 years off from work to stay home when she had me. It's refreshing to read an author who sees that the modern day feminists are incredulously ignorant of how female biology impacts decisions we women must make.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I couldn't believe some of her ideas! The sexist way she talks about men in Chapter 1, like NONE of them ever want to get into a serious relationship so women need to hold off on sex to 'catch' him. Where is she coming from? Many guys I know are more interested in serious relationships then the girls I know. The guys that she is refers to is not the majority, and it is insulting to men that she believes that. I must emphasize that it is mainly HER experiences and opinions in this book. I found few real facts in here. She exaggerates problems and reduces real feminist issues to petty indiscretions. She even ridiculed 'Take Back the Night' marches! How can you find anything wrong with those? I guess those women who got raped should just stop complaining. Her opinion on date rape was HILARIOUS. She is so out of whack that I can't help but laugh at her stupidity. Although it is sad to think that there are people still out there that believe this....stuff.
Neeq79 More than 1 year ago
I absolutely love this book! I am 33 years old, college educated, yet to be married or a mother. Her book absolutely speaks to me and what I've seen from other women and those younger than me. Some of the issues she addresses are common sense and what I've always thought such as the reversal of the role of a stay at home mom. Society looks down upon these women as if they are ignorant or defective, while working women try to balance work and being a good mother wishing they had more time with their children...Sex, many women whether my age or in their teens live in a society where anything goes sexually, we want to be equal with men right? But then wonder why the guy won't call, or why their feelings inevitably crept in with a casual "friends with benefits" relationship. Feminism in the past has helped us acheive the same work and educational opportunities, like their should be, but on the downside it has tried to get rid of what makes women, women. Feminism is like Marxism, in theory looks wonderful, but in reality it does not take into the consideration the human condition. This book is a must read for women, whether you agree with the author or not.
Inkasi888 More than 1 year ago
I thought this book was very well written and had interesting content. It had a lot of comments that I hadn't thought of before and has really opened my eyes to my own decisions in life. It is great for women of all ages, however, I must warn that hard-core feminists may not appreciate a lot of what the author has to say! Fascinating topic for the rest of us.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I believe in the concept of 'getting to know your enemy'. I feel it is imperative for feminists of the 21st Century to empower themselves with knowledge. And that includes reading, interacting, and researching ALL aspects & viewpoints regarding women, no matter how loathsome that knowledge can be at times. BUT......I was absolutely FUMING as I was reading Chapter One, About Sex. How DARE she minimize men's responsibility regarding sex! She needs to focus on empowering women to CONFRONT & DISCUSS a disappointing sexual encounter. NOT perpetuate feelings of guilt reinforced by women like HER that RAISE boys who find themselves in 'uncomfortable' sexual situations, to ignore & blame the woman! To paraphrase, 'boys will be boys'! Furthermore, how DARE she OVER maximize women's responsibility! How DARE she tell me that the 'poor (white patriarchal executive) man' can't even comment on how pretty a woman's (his Administrative Assistant) blouse is...........AARRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!!! HER mentality is what has kept women from becoming EQUALS! What was glaringly WRONG about her assumptions, was just THAT. Her book was based on HER assumptions and very FEW FACTS. She quotes the EEOC only once, and NEVER gleaned information or statistics from Catalyst, personal interviews, discussion groups, etc. She just reads a lot of magazines!? God help us if she is raising her kids to think this way!
Guest More than 1 year ago
As I read this book, I kept on saying to myself, 'yeah, I AGREE!!' Her beliefs are radical compared to the lifestyles of many women of today. I was so glad to know that someone out there believes in what I'm doing. I stay at home with my son, take care of the house, and take care of my husband as he works full-time and goes to school full-time. Don't worry, I got my B.A. already. Anyway, Crittenden lifted my spirits because I always felt what I was doing was right, but mostly everyone else asked me, 'When are going to get a 'real' job?' So, that kind of hurts sometimes. She advocates women's happiness and also the happiness of our children. I couldn't agree more that it is MOMMY who is best-suited to care for the baby. I think Daycare is a very poor substitute for tender loving care from mom or dad. And I can completely see the strong bond between mother and child and how difficult it would be for me to be separated from my baby for 8 hours a day at a job. I'd think of him the whole time. I miss him even when I am only gone for a little while. It's so unfortunate that the mother-child bond is being broken by this intense pressure for all women to be out in the workforce. It hurts relationships between moms and their kids: it tells them that it's more important that I work than I spend time with you. And Crittenden spells that out in the chapter about aging. When the independent woman is old and gray and divorced or widowed, why should her kids care to spend time with her when she didn't care to spend time with them when she could have? It sounds pretty logical to me. Thank you, Ms. Crittenden for having the courage to write the truth. You hit so many nails right on the head!
Guest More than 1 year ago
For some women,casual sex is a playful part of their lives,and they can live with it,but I could not and now I understand why.Most women want love and marriage but when we lose the respect of men we are less likely to achieve our goals. It still hold true that men don't want used goods and won't stay with a milk cow that has been milked too often.Men want a woman who has saved herself for him and a woman who respects her feminine dignity and won't allow men to turn her into the town tramp. Men have radar for the town tramp and ladies he will never want to marry you,because you give yourself to every man and he knows why you do,for love. Some women are sexual and don't give,but others give and give for love,and these are the most vunerable women,because they develope a reputation of giving it to get love. This book opens up the truth about roles in society and while some think double standards are unfair,others feel that women need the double standards to protect them and differentiate themselves from harlots. Men don't love harlots,they love good women with values and self respect,this is what the book is driving at and makes a great point. Men give love to get sex,and women give sex to get love,and men know this a the man will just walk away from women that are easy
Guest More than 1 year ago
The author is a feminist, as in PRO-WOMAN. A delightful, witty read that will have you laughing out loud every other page. Wonderfully observant. I am constantly disappointed at how terrified and insecure men are -- you know why? Because they've had the living daylights scared out of them by sexual harassment LAWSUITS and all this equality nonsense. They don't know how to act around us! And we're confused by their not knowing how to! And what equality? Can they give birth? Show off a buffed pedicure? And we -- Can we pretend we honestly say we'd rather litigate the government for the right to enter military combat than to have a quiet non-testosteronous life with a pretty house and a loving husband? We can still keep our jobs where we are paid half the salary for twice the garbage (while still looking beautiful and appealing)? Don't get me started. I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL ALL THIS CONFUSION that the radical feminists created BLOWS OVER! I wish I was living 40 years from now.