There are guidebooks to set a parent's expectations for pregnancy and caring for a baby, but not one step-by-step guide for the challenge of raising a child with ADHD... until now.
The contrast between expectations and genuine capability is stark but invisible with ADHD, creating challenges every moment in all aspects of life. In What to Expect When You're Not Expecting ADHD, Williams offers a 9-step plan to tame (much of) the chaos and turn (most of) the struggles into triumphs. She steers you through methodically learning about your child's behaviors, strengths, and weaknesses, and how to use that knowledge to improve life for your child with ADHD and your entire family.
Don't be fooled though -- this is not your typical book on ADHD. Williams keeps it real, providing authentic, down in the trenches, trial-by-fire advice from a momma who has lived it, figuring it out one day at a time. Whether your child's diagnosis is new or you've been struggling for years, What to Expect is your instruction manual for effectively parenting your child with ADHD.
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What People are Saying About This
Science has a lot to tell us about ADHD. This is important, but as a parent of a child with ADHD, you also want to hear from other parents who have survived and thrived despite, with, and because of their child with ADHD. Penny talks about the science, but more importantly, she talks about the lived experience of having a child with ADHD and what you can do to make all of your lives better. --Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA, author of Understand Your Brain, Get More Done: The ADHD Executive Functions Workbook
Williams offers parents, caregivers, and even health care providers a practical guide to navigate the world of ADHD. From diagnosis to the art of balancing expectations, self, and family, What to Expect leads you step-by-step through the unpredictable journey of parenting a child with ADHD, all while learning to become your child's biggest advocate and remaining positive. --Marilyn Griffin, MD, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Medical Director of the Comprehensive ADHD Clinic at University of Illinois at Chicago
In the first and only comprehensive guide to parenting kids with ADHD, Penny Williams offers overwhelmed parents the resource she longed for following her son's ADHD diagnosis, but couldn't find. Williams' 9-month plan -- a culmination of years of research, networking, and advocacy -- moves parents step by step from bewilderment to competency and confidence. --Kay Marner, Co-Editor, Easy to Love but Hard to Raise
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
After my son’s diagnosis of ASD and then later ADHD, I was overwhelmed with all of the information and resources (a good problem to have). There were so many books that talked down and threw out statistics that were either depressing or unrelated to my situation. I was looking for something relatable. I had no friends going through the special needs ride and while I wanted information, I also wanted comfort. I found that comfort and solace in Penny’s first book, “Boy Without Instructions”. As I turned the pages, I kept saying “Yes. This”. No advice or instruction, just feeling like I wasn’t alone, which I so desperately needed. Once I got out of the first stage of grief and shock, I was ready for action and help. Lucky for me, that’s right about the time that Penny’s second book came out, “What to Expect When You’re Not Expecting ADHD”. I was so frazzled by trying to just survive, that I couldn’t even begin to think about how to take proactive steps to improve my family’s quality of life. Full disclosure: I also have ADHD. So, yeah. If I have a hard time with executive function and organization, how am I supposed to help my son learn those skills and get this house running efficiently?? I say all that to say that Penny understands this. She knows what ADHD parents need: quick, to the point and non-judgmental. The worksheets are AMAZING. I am the worst with getting advice and not being able to execute it. The worksheets solve that problem. In my opinion, the worksheets alone are worth the cost of the book. The rest of the book is also very helpful. What sets it apart from other ADHD books out there is that it’s written by one of us! Not a doctor or specialist. Those books have their place and use, but this book fills a void that has been on bookshelves: Advice from a fellow mom. Reading it feels like sitting down over coffee with a good friend that’s been there and is guiding you through the process. If you’re looking for commiseration and comfort, reach for “Boy Without Instructions”. If you’re looking for action and help from a fellow warrior mom, reach for “What To Expect When You’re Not Expecting ADHD”. Personally, I bounce back and forth depending on the day. You can’t lose either way!
I wish this book had been around 7 years ago!!!! This is a great book and a must have for those new to the ADHD world. Very insightful and lots of great forms and worksheets to help you along your path. Penny is sharing her knowledge with the world & I for one am glad I found her. There is a learning curve in anything that you do, but this book helps you with that learning curve in so many ways. The worksheets & charts are a great idea to keep you & your child on track. The most important thing for a child with ADHD is their self esteem & there is a great idea in the book to help you keep their self esteem high. You will want to keep this book handy at all times!!! Thank you Penny for sharing!!!
Reading What to Expect When You're NOT Expecting ADHD, in my opinion, is like talking to a dear, sweet friend who has her own experiences to share with you about parenting a child with ADHD. Like others have said, there are TONS of books available on the subject. If you go to any bookstore or library, you will find there is no shortage of information and advice. However, books written by doctors, scientists or other specialists have a completely different "feel" or writing style than books written by one parent (who REALLY gets it) speaking to another parent (who is seeking some guidance to make life with ADHD more manageable). Penny Williams is one of us and she brings a completely unique perspective with her candor, humor and graciousness. From my own personal experience, I finally feel confident and knowledgeable about parenting my child who has ADHD (as well as other challenges). If I had access to this book back when my son was newly diagnosed, I can only hope that I would have been wise enough to follow Penny's 9-step plan. It may have saved my family immeasurable amounts of stress and a WHOLE lot of frustration (about 6 years worth of it!) since I was learning what worked and what didn't work the hard way, by trial and error. Even though (I think) I've got a good grip on things now, I still very much enjoyed reading this book. Sometimes even the steps that are common sense to us can be the things that slip through the cracks, so I would encourage new-to-ADHD as well as veteran parents who are raising kids with ADHD to read this. It's very organized and has plenty of helpful, user-friendly worksheets, not to mention the important reminders that some of us need to hear. Over the years, I've learned that you have to be the #1 advocate for your child, especially when it comes to your child's school. In order to be the best advocate, you need to fill up your proverbial toolbox. Two important tools to obtain, in my opinion, would be: -read What to Expect When You're NOT Expecting ADHD and keep it in your "toolbox" so you can refer to it time and again, and - find a support network. Seriously. Whether it's an online community, networking with other parents at your child's school, or whatever it may be, support from people who REALLY understand what you're going through is crucial. Hang in there! It's tough but you can do it! :-)