When a Toy Dog Became a Wolf and the Moon Broke Curfew: A Memoir

When a Toy Dog Became a Wolf and the Moon Broke Curfew: A Memoir

by Hendrika de Vries


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Born in the Netherlands at a time when girls are to be housewives and mothers and nothing else, Hendrika de Vries is a “daddy’s girl” until her father is deported from Nazi-occupied Amsterdam to a POW camp in Germany and her mother joins the Resistance. In the aftermath of her father’s departure, Hendrika watches as freedoms formerly taken for granted are eroded with escalating brutality by men with swastika armbands who aim to exterminate those they deem “inferior” and those who do not obey.

As time goes on, Hendrika absorbs her mother’s strength and faith, and learns about moral choice and forced silence. She sees her hidden Jewish “stepsister” betrayed, and her mother interrogated at gunpoint. She and her mother suffer near starvation, and they narrowly escape death on the day of liberation. But they survive it all—and through these harrowing experiences, Hendrika discovers the woman she wants to become.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781631526589
Publisher: She Writes Press
Publication date: 08/27/2019
Pages: 234
Sales rank: 454,611
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Hendrika de Vries was born and raised in Amsterdam, The Netherlands. She became a swimming champion, young wife, and mother in Adelaide, South Australia. She eventually got her BA and earned a Phi Beta Kappa in Denver, Colorado. A later move to Washington, DC precipitated a search for meaning and a spiritual quest that led to her immersion in the Depth Psychology of Carl Jung, an MTS in theology at Virginia Theological Seminary, a journey to Greece in search of the mythical Goddess, and a move to Santa Barbara, California, for an MA in counseling psychology. A Jungian-oriented marriage and family therapist for over thirty years, she has used dreams and intuitive imagination to facilitate recovery and healing of trauma, address life transitions and relational issues, and empower women. The mother of three grown children and four millennial grandchildren, de Vries now lives with her husband in Santa Barbara, where she writes and swims.

Table of Contents

Author's Note ix

1 "Remember the Warmth and the Light…" 1

2 Back to the Beginning 4

3 A Crack in the Protective Shell 10

4 Facts, Magic, and Imagination 17

5 The Kindness of Strangers 25

6 Sounds of Defiance 32

7 A "Normal" Existence 38

8 Mothers and Daughters 44

9 My Secret Stepsister 51

10 Friend or Enemy? 57

11 The Betrayal 63

12 The Morning After 70

13 Risk-Taking Mothers 75

14 The "Miracle" Moon 81

15 The Hunger Winter 87

16 City of Death 96

17 The Inner World 102

18 Liberation 110

19 The Lucky Ones 117

20 Grief and Celebration 123

21 The Women-Unfinished Stories 127

22 "Something to Care For…" 133

23 Babies Everywhere! 140

24 Postwar Shadows 146

25 A Family in Transition 152

26 The Death of a Mother 159

27 "The End of an Era…" 164

28 Veterans of War 171

29 The Promise of a Mythical Land 176

30 Tsunami 184

31 Saying Goodbyes 189

32 A Sovereign Woman 194

33 Leaving Amsterdam 201

Acknowledgments 204

About the Author 211

Discussion Questions 213

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