When Cancer Strikes a Friend: What to Say, What to Do, and How to Help

When Cancer Strikes a Friend: What to Say, What to Do, and How to Help

by Bonnie E. Draeger


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781620872147
Publisher: Skyhorse
Publication date: 10/01/2012
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 1,306,480
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Bonnie E. Draeger is president and executive director of Friends & Cancer, as well as an ordained deacon in the United Methodist Church. She has written cover articles for Parents’
Press and Christians in Education, and contributed to the textbook Music:
A Way of Life for the Young Child. She currently lives in Cape Cod,
Massachusetts, with her husband.

Table of Contents

Introduction ix

Part 1 Finding Your Ways as a Friend

Chapter 1 Learning to Communicate, Preparing to Help 3

Find Your Way

Learn to Listen

Evaluate the Situation

Ground Rules

Chapter 2 Understanding the Cancer Experience 15

Mapping the Cancer Journey


The New Normal

Challenges on the Journey

Part 2 How to Help: Sharing the Gifts of Friendship

Chapter 3 Normalcy, Presence, Communication, and Delight 35

Gifts of Normalcy

Gifts of Presence

Gifts of Communication

Gifts of Delight

Cancer and Beauty

Sharing the Gifts of Friendship

Special Deliveries

Gifts to Buy and Send

Chapter 4 Everyday, Nitty-Gritty Help 63

Providing Everyday

Nitty-Gritty Help

When Friends Live Alone


Good Friends

Good Food

Part 3 When you Want to Know More: The Gift of Knowledge

Chapter 5 Living with Cancer: Hope and Spiritual Care 85

Cancer as a Chronic Disease

Cancer and the Gift of Hope

Faith, Spirituality, and Cancer

Sharing Gifts of Hope and Spiritual Care

Chapter 6 Special Situations 103

Cancer and the Caregiver

Talking to Children

When the Patient is a Child

Teens and Young Adults

Cancer in Older Adults

Chapter 7 Ask the Experts: Cancer Q&A What Friends Should Know 129

Cancer 101


Cancer Surgery

Reconstructive Surgery


Radiation Therapy


Integrative Medicine

Part 4 When Life Draws to a Close

Chapter 8 Preparing for the End of Life and the Gift of Peace 157

Letting Go, Grieving, and Phases of Dying


the Gift of Peace

Gifts of Peace during the Journey

True Refuge

Chapter 9 The Gift of Remembrance 177


A Daughter's Letter

Advocacy as Honor and Remembrance

A Final Question

Acknowledgments 191

Appendix A Researching Cancer Information, Cancer Treatments, and Cancer Centers 193

Glossary 207

Bibliography 218

About the Author and Additional Contributors 221

Index 231

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