When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community: Words to Say and Things to Do

When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community: Words to Say and Things to Do

by Rachael Wonderlin


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When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community: Words to Say and Things to Do by Rachael Wonderlin

Life changes dramatically for the entire family when the decision is made to move a person who has dementia from home to community care. Rachael Wonderlin, a gerontologist, dementia care expert, and popular dementia care blogger, helps caregivers cope with the difficult behaviors, emotions, and anxieties that both they and their loved one may experience.

Writing from her own practice and drawing on the latest research in gerontology and dementia, Wonderlin explains the different kinds of dementia, details the wide range of care communities available for people who have dementia, and speaks empathetically to the worry and guilt many families feel. "Do not let anyone make you feel like you have taken the 'easy way out' by choosing a dementia care community," she writes. "You are still going to deal with a lot of challenging behaviors, concerns, and questions regarding your loved one's care."

When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community is an accessible guide offering answers to such questions as:

How do I choose a place for my loved one to live?
What can I find out by visiting a candidate memory-care community twice?
What do I do if my loved one asks about going home?
How can I improve the quality of my visits?
What is the best way to handle conflict between residents, or between the resident and staff?
How can I cope with my loved one's sundowning?
What do I do if my loved one starts a romantic relationship with another resident?

An indispensable book for family members and friends of people with dementia, When Someone You Know is Living in a Dementia Care Community touches the heart while explaining how to make a difficult situation better.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781421420653
Publisher: Johns Hopkins University Press
Publication date: 08/26/2016
Series: A 36-Hour Day Book
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 249,584
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.30(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Rachael Wonderlin holds an MS in gerontology from the University of North Carolina–Greensboro. She has served as memory care director in several long-term care communities around the country and is the author of the blog Dementia By Day.

Table of Contents

Basics of Dementia Care, and Life in a Dementia Care Community
1. What Is Long-Term Care?
2. What Is Dementia?
3. What Type of Dementia Is It, and Why Does It Matter?
4. When It's Time for a Dementia Care Community—and When It's Not
5. Caring for People Is an Imperfect Science
6. Communicating with Someone Who Has Dementia
7. Embrace Their Reality
8. Why It Doesn't Work to Reorient People Who Have Dementia
9. Why Quizzing Isn't Effective
10. Car Keys, Cell Phones, and Wallets
Living in a Dementia Care Community
11. The Importance of Meaningful Activities
12. Baby Dolls, Artificial Pets, and the Importance of Environment
13. A Note about Visiting
14. Personal Preferences
15. The Cost of Good Hygiene
16. Move-In Day
17. Saying Goodbye for the Day
Relationships and Dementia
18. The Importance of Friendship for People Who Have Dementia
19. Sex and Partnership in a Dementia Community
20. Trouble with Other Residents
21. Agitation in the Evening
22. Day Trips and Outings
23. She Doesn't Recognize Me
Challenges and Changes in Advanced Dementia Care
24. The Right Approach When It Comes to Aggression
25. Hallucinations and Delusional Thinking
26. Aphasia, Second Languages, and Word Salads
27. Dietary Changes
28. Caregiver Stress and Cultivating Patience
29. Preserving Hope

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When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community: Words to Say and Things to Do 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
brenda418 More than 1 year ago
Here is a very practical, readable guide for caregivers of those with dementia. It is not a medical journal, but offers explanations of the different types of dementia in easy to understand terms. It describes daily life in a dementia care community, and the concept of embracing the reality of the patient. Of particular interest are the scores of examples of situations the author has encountered as a long term care professional. The challenges of dementia to the patient and caregiver are not sugar-coated, and various coping mechanisms are offered. It discusses the guilt a person might feel for entrusting the loved one to someone else’s care. This book is highly recommended as an insightful, compassionate handbook for anyone who is contemplating long term care for a loved one with dementia.