When Their World Stops: The Essential Guide to Truly Helping Anyone in Grief

by Anne-Marie Lockmyer

Overview

Everything needed to understand and help someone who is grieving. 8-time award-winning book, When Their World Stops, is a practical guidebook packed with all you need to increase your confidence and take the awkwardness out of responding to someone devastated by grief.

Great for churches, hospice, counselors or anyone who wants to understand and support the grieving. Share at funerals or memorial services so friends know how to help. If you are the one grieving, you may see yourself, as you read, and know that what you are feeling is appropriate and normal.

Award-winning author, grief recovery specialist, founder of The Grief and Trauma Healing Network and widow, Anne-Marie Lockmyer, gives you a look inside the heart and mind of a person brokenhearted by the loss of a loved one.

You can feel inadequate and helpless to support someone grieving. You don't like to see them hurting yet don't have a clue what to do - so you do nothing - or the wrong thing.

When Their World Stops

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780996802420
Publisher:	Grief and Trauma Healing Network
Publication date:	03/27/2018
Edition description:	2nd ed.
Pages:	98
Product dimensions:	5.00(w) x 7.00(h) x 0.20(d)

About the Author

Anne-Marie Lockmyer is a multi-award-winning author, speaker, Advanced Grief Recovery and Loss Specialist, Certified Integrative Practitioner and Founder of the Grief and Trauma Healing Network. Her work has appeared in notable media outlets such as Rolling Stone, LA Wave and Billboard. She has been a featured speaker at multiple venues. She specializes in taking others through the journey of recovery - to be free from the pain of grief and loss. As a widow who suffered a devastating loss herself, Anne-Marie is passionate to dispel the myths of grief and bring hope, encouragement, and resources to those suffering from grief and those that care for them and want to help. Her mission is to bring individuals hope in the midst of pain and provide tools that help people experience joy in their lives once again. Anne-Marie lives in Anaheim, California.

Table of Contents

1. The Back Story. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

2. So How Can You Help — Really Help?. . . . . . . . . 7

3. The First Hours and Days After the Loss . . . . . . . . 8

4. What Can You Do, Exactly?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12

5. Conversations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20

7. As Life Goes On. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 246.

8. Please Don’t Forget . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34

10. Sympathy Cards . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . 37

11. Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41

12. A Few Handy Lists to Remind You. . . . . . . . . .. . . 41

13. How to Help Your Grieving Friend. . . . . . . . . . . . . 41

14. The Blanket of Comfort. . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . 48

15. Christmas . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49

16. Healing After Loss: A Proven Method of Grief Recovery . . . . . . 55

17. What is Grief? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56

18. Myths of Grief. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57

19. What is Recovery? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60

20. What Does Recovery Look Like? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61

21. Appendix. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . 63

22. Dealing with Different Types of Losses. . . . . . . . . .. . 63

23. General Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63

24. Loss of a Spouse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67

25. Loss of a Sibling . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .68

26. Miscarriage/Stillbirth. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . 69

27. Loss of a Child (Young or Adult) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70

28. Midlife Loss of Parents . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71

29. Loss by Suicide. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . .. . . . 73

30. Loss by Murder. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75

31. Helping Children with Loss . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77

32. When Their World Stops Cheat Sheet . . . . . . . . . . . . . 78

33. About the Author . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81

Editorial Reviews

"When the author promises to provide readers with exactly what to do to help those who are grief-stricken, she delivers. This book offers helpers simple, practical and very effective strategies for helping those whose lives have been shattered."

Wayne Fortin, Founder . Trauma Intervention Programs Inc

Stephanie Chandler

This incredibly useful book helps you understand what to say (and avoid) when offering condolences

If you’ve ever been caught unaware of what to do or say when a family member, friend, colleague or acquaintance passed away, Anne-Marie Lockmyer’s When Their World Stops is the book for you. Lockmyer gives the reader heartfelt, personal insight into the grief, disbelief and confusion of the sudden death of her husband, and the ups and downs of subsequent months and years – you’ll find out why the second is often more difficult than the first – of mourning and emotional healing. This incredibly useful book helps you understand what to say (and avoid) when offering condolences, how to provide much-needed assistance during the blur of funeral arrangements and early days of grief, and, perhaps most importantly, how to remain a steadfast presence in the bereaved one’s life as they forge a new life without their loved one. You’ll want to keep this valuable book on hand, ready to consult or share as the need unfortunately arises.

Quick, easy read filled with helpful insights and perspectives

This is a quick, easy read filled with helpful insights and perspectives. I appreciate that Anne-Marie recognizes there isn't a one-size-fits-all formula that applies to everyone, but she offers plenty of ideas on how to avoid offending and find out what will help your grieving friend the most.

"I read it in its entirety first thing this morning. It is truly well done! It often takes a pastor a decade to gain the wisdom she has expressed: some of them never “get it” no matter how long they serve. The reality and depth of human suffering aren’t readily learned in textbooks, but rather in working through personal loss and grief. Anne-Marie has done this so well and has kept good notes on the entire experience. "

Dr. Clair MacMillan

National Director

Church of the Nazarene Canada

"This book answers questions people are asking to ease their self-doubt about what to do in a most sensitive area - the death of a loved one. I love the practical help it gives people. The wealth of suggestions and ideas make her book a valuable resource everyone should have on hand."



Bobbi Rill,

Licensed professional counselor, National Trainer for the Grief Recovery institute

"Must have in every home as a guide to healing!"

AMAZON CUSTOMER

Personal and widely applicable

What a personal, yet widely applicable book. You can search for areas you are struggling with or read it front to back. I bought one for myself, and one to give away. We do so many things wrong when we are trying to do the right thing. It is a gift to hear what really helps instead of hurts.

l. Wjharton Amazon

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