Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up

Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up

by Koshin Paley Ellison


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An inspiring book that will help readers rediscover their values and discover a way to truly live life to the fullest.

The Dalai Lama on Wholehearted: “Intimacy is based on the willingness to open ourselves to many others, to family, friends, and even strangers, forming genuine and deep bonds based on common humanity. Koshin Paley Ellison’s teachings share the way forward into a path of connection, compassion, and intimacy.”

Each of us has an enormous capacity for love—a deep well of attention and care that we can offer to ourselves and others. With guidance that is both simple and wholly transformative, Koshin Paley Ellison, Zen teacher and psychotherapist, shows us how to uncover it: pay attention, be of service, and be with others.

With this inspiring and down-to-earth book, drawn from the Zen precepts and illustrated with anecdotes from Koshin’s own life and practice, you’ll learn how to
  • explore and investigate with your own core values,
  • identify the mental habits that could be unconsciously hurting yourself and others, and
  • overcome isolation.

Each chapter closes with a contemplation to help integrate the teachings into your life.

This book is about getting back in touch with your values, so you can live energetically, authentically, and lovingly. This an invitation to close the gaps we create between ourselves and others—to wake up to ourselves and the world around us.

It’s time to live wholeheartedly.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781614295259
Publisher: Wisdom Publications MA
Publication date: 06/18/2019
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 257,196
Product dimensions: 4.40(w) x 6.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Koshin Paley Ellison, MFA, LMSW, DMIN, co-founded the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care, the first Buddhist organization to offer fully accredited chaplaincy training in America. The organization delivers contemplative approaches to care through education, direct service, and meditation practice. Koshin teaches in the Integrative Medicine Fellowship program at the University of Arizona Medical School’s Center for Integrative Medicine and is the academic advisor for the Buddhist students in the master in pastoral care and counseling at New York Theological Seminary. He is the co-director of Contemplative Care Services for the Department of Integrative Medicine and the chaplaincy supervisor for the Pain and Palliative Care Department at Mount Sinai Beth Israel Medical Center, where he also serves on the Medical Ethics Committee.

He is the co-editor of Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End-of-Life Care (Wisdom Publications, 2016). He’s also the co-author of “Rituals and Resilience” in Creating Spiritual and Psychological Resilience (Routledge, 2009) and the author of “The Jeweled Net: What Dogen and the Avatamsaka Sutra Can Offer Us as Spiritual Caregivers” in The Arts of Contemplative Care: Pioneering Voices in Buddhist Chaplaincy and Pastoral Work (Wisdom Publications, 2012). He is a senior Zen Buddhist monk, Dharma teacher and student, ACPE supervisor, and Jungian psychotherapist.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Waking Up from Zombieland 1

Part I The Essentials

1 Committing to Living with Intimacy 23

2 Opening Up to Life's Trolls and Bullies 32

3 Living Like Everything Matters 40

Part II Transforming Our Minds

4 Inviting Freshness through Not Knowing 63

5 Relaxing into Suffering 63

6 Living Fearlessly by Doing Good for Others 72

Part III Reorienting Our Lives

7 Shifting from an Attitude of Harm to One of Gratitude 83

8 Being Content with What We Have 91

9 Encountering Ourself and Others with Respect and Dignity 99

10 Getting in Touch with and Speaking the Truth 108

11 Clearing Away the Fog 119

12 Practicing Loving through Direct Communication 127

13 Realizing Equality, Celebrating Diversity 136

14 Reversing Withholding and Offering Generosity Instead 145

15 Allowing Anger to Flow by Not Fearing It 157

16 Living in Accord with Our Own Values 168

Conclusion; Putting It into Action 173

Appendix: Instructions for Zen Meditation 177

Acknowledgments 181

About the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care 183

About the Author 185

About the Editor 187

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