In Why Forgive? Arnold lets the untidy experiences of ordinary people speak for themselvespeople who have earned the right to talk about forgiving.
Some of these stories deal with violent crime, betrayal, abuse, hate, gang warfare, and genocide. Others address everyday hurts: the wounds caused by backbiting, gossip, conflicts in the home, and tensions in the workplace. The book also tackles what can be the biggest challenge: forgiving ourselves.
These people, who have overcome the cancer of bitterness and hatred, can help you unleash the healing power of forgiveness in your own life.
Why Forgive? these stories and decide for yourself.
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About the Author
People have come to expect sound advice from Johann Christoph Arnold, an award-winning author with over a million copies of his books in print in more than 20 languages.
A noted speaker and writer on marriage, parenting, and end-of-life issues, Arnold is a senior pastor of the Bruderhof, a movement of Christian communities. With his wife, Verena, he has counseled thousands of individuals and families over the last forty years. His books include Why Forgive?, Rich in Years, Seeking Peace, Cries from the Heart, Be Not Afraid, and Why Children Matter.
Arnold's message has been shaped by encounters with great peacemakers such as Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, César Chavez, and John Paul II. Together with paralyzed police officer Steven McDonald, Arnold started the Breaking the Cycle program, working with students at hundreds of public high schools to promote reconciliation through forgiveness. This work has also brought him to conflict zones from Northern Ireland to Rwanda to the Middle East. Closer to home, he serves as chaplain for the local sheriff's department.
Born in Britain in 1940 to German refugees, Arnold spent his boyhood years in South America, where his parents found asylum during the war; he immigrated to the United States in 1955. He and his wife have eight children, 42 grandchildren, and one great-grandchild. They live in upstate New York.
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Read an Excerpt
From the foreword by Steve Chalke:
What do you do when your friend gives you a sawed-off shotgun? For Roger, this was an easy question to answer. He used it. And he says that if he had the chance, he'd use it again. Roger's entire life has become consumed by one unquenchable desire: avenging his daughter's death.
Sarah was out on her bike when she was hit by a drunk driver. She died almost instantly. There was no doubt about who was to blame, and the driver (who didn't have a valid license because of a previous drunk driving conviction) was sent to prison for manslaughter. But that wasn't enough for Roger. He borrowed a gun and - when the driver was released from prison - shot him, fully intending to kill him. So now the tables were turned, and Roger found himself charged with attempted murder and faced with the possibility of a long prison sentence. Astonishingly, he was found not guilty. Despite the fact that he had deliberately tried to take a man's life, the jury found his victim -who had never once shown the slightest remorse - so repulsive that they unanimously acquitted Roger. Even so, he wasn't satisfied: if anything, he was more determined than ever to avenge his daughter's death. I asked him if squeezing a trigger and watching a man collapse in agony made him feel any better. No, he said. Only killing him could make me feel better. I asked his wife, Cathy, how she felt. Her answer was even more chilling. I could never be happy if Roger killed him, she told me, because that would mean that I hadn't killed him. I need to pull that trigger myself. I need to see him dead, and know I'm responsible.
Sitting with them in their house, I was overwhelmed by their anger and pain, and by the horror of their ordeal. There was little doubt in my mind that justice had not been served by the light punishment given their daughter's killer: his self-centered callousness shocked me to the core. Yet I also couldn't help feeling that their continued bitterness over her death was compounding their misery. Having been through one hell, it seemed to me that their inability to forgive and let go was putting them through another. Day after day they were letting new hatred and resentment consume them. Was this really what their daughter would have wanted for them - this living hell that was destroying their lives, but which had no impact on that of her killer?
Table of Contents
1. The Cancer of Bitterness
2. Believe in Miracles
3. Ending the Cycle of Hatred
4. Bless your Persecutors
5. Forgiveness and Justice
6. The Deeds of Mercy
7. When Reconciling Is Impossible
8. Forgiving in Everyday Life
9. Forgiveness and Marriage
10. Forgiving a Parent
11. Blaming God
12. Forgiving Ourselves
13. Accepting Responsibility
14. Not a Step, but a Journey
15. Making Ripples
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This pdf-formatted e-book is a compilation of several dozen true-life experiences of individuals struggling with the difficult task of forgiving and asking for forgiveness. The stories run the gamut from spousal infidelity to murder to business betrayals to parental abuse to genocide.Christians are commanded thus: ¿But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.¿ (Matthew 6:15) This concept is repeated throughout the Bible from Genesis through the Pauline letters. The apologist Matthew Henry, commenting on Matthew 6:15, made this statement: ¿Here is a promise, If you forgive, your heavenly Father will also forgive. We must forgive, as we hope to be forgiven. Those who desire to find mercy with God, must show mercy to their brethren. Christ came into the world as the great Peace-maker, not only to reconcile us to God, but one to another.¿If you need help to overcome something that has consumed or preoccupied you with anger, resentment, emotional pain, need for revenge, and similar feelings, download this e-book for interesting stories of people burdened thus, how they coped, and how they eventually came to resolution through forgiveness.(Maybe you need to forgive yourself...? ¿Why Forgive?¿ addresses this issue also.)
Every one has something to forgive or need to be forgiven for. My granddaughter, Saira and I are proud to be a part of this book, sharing the message of forgiveness with our personal testimony with the ongoing journey of forgiveness. It is the ONLY way to heal!
Even little things -- people getting on my case, or whatever -- used to get me very upset. But this book is a big help; it puts things in perspective. Arnold tells the stories of people who know how to forgive (some even forgave murderers), and also people who don't. The difference is incredible. WHY FORGIVE? shows clearly what can happen, depending on our answer.
This book gives good examples of true forgiveness. I mean the kind of forgiveness that really heals minds and souls. Reading about how others with deep wounds can forgive will help readers to realize that this gift of peace and healing is available to each of us through prayer.