In this age of global warming and warfare, aren't manners frivolous? Do manners really matter? Yes! Lucinda Holdforth passionately exclaims. Holdforth wonderfully manages to show that manners are not about saying please and thank you, or about teaching your children to address people by Mr. or Mrs. Citing everyone from Erasmus, Tocqueville, T.S. Elliot to George Orwell and Proust and Borat, Holdforth shows how manners- which many of us might think are inconsequential-are actually the cornerstone to civilization.
|Publisher:||Penguin Publishing Group|
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|Age Range:||18 Years|
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"Lucinda Holdforth (what a perfect name!) is the Marcus Aurelius of manners. She's a genius at how to live. Why Manners Matter is a wonderful, enticing, brash, deep, witty book. Read it. It will make you the nicest person of your generation." -E.Jean Carroll, Elle columnist
"Don't miss this small but compelling book." -P. M. Forni, author of The Civility Solution
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This is a surprisingly delightful essay on manners. Not the keep your elbows off the table, don¿t chew with your mouth full manners (although in the end, that¿s what it would trickle down to) but the importance of civil, mannerly behavior on society as a whole. Lucinda Holdforth includes a lot of interesting historical notes and has a lovely conversational style. I didn¿t expect to read this cover to cover but I did. And I can¿t help but think that, more and more, we could use a little more of the social niceties to keep us civil.
For those looking for a guide that will explain which fork to use at a formal dinner, go to Amy Vanderbilt. If, however, anyone wants an excellent examination of why our collective behavior has deteriorated in recent decades, this is a must read. It can be devoured with ease in a single sitting as I discovered on a recent flight from VA to Chicago. Holdforth's insights are brilliant, clear, humorous, and straight from the hip accurate. She wins points by providing evidence of her own lapses in courtesy and investigates what has contributed to them. This book makes readers think, and with luck, they will have a better understanding of how technology and modern conveniences have contributed to the decline in acceptable behavior. A great gift or personal purchase for anyone who concentrates more on iPods, laptops, HD tv, Blackberries, or DVDs than on actual people with whom they must live and communicate.