You don't need to spend lots of money to improve your life: All you need to do is ask the right questions and do a little work.
Lee-Anne Preddy-Ryman, a Reiki master, shares proven techniques that will help you overcome fears and start chasing dreams.
For instance, Archangel Michael is the angel of protection, courage and strength. Call on him anytime you feel you need him for yourself, family and friends. Say "Archangel Michael please come to ______ (explain the situation) and he will be there."
With dozens of best practices to help you get the most out of yourself and life, this guidebook to achieving your dreams includes space to record reflections about what you've learned as well as guest chapters from individuals the author has helped.
Free yourself from negative thinking, and take positive action by responding to "Why?" with "Why not?"
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Why? Why Not?
Don't Let Fear Stop You from Living Your Dream
By Lee-Anne Preddy-Ryman
Balboa PressCopyright © 2015 Lee-Anne Preddy-Ryman
All rights reserved.
Self-belief is hard for me to write about because most of the time, I don't have any. It's funny how we work. I can write all this down and encourage you and give you advice, but when it comes to me, I baulk. Not as much as before—I am getting a lot better. But why, if I'm putting myself out there and writing this book, would I knowingly put in a chapter on the very thing I struggle with?
Just because I find this topic hard isn't reason enough to leave it out. Self-belief is important, and whilst breaking down the reasons I have trouble with it, I am also strengthening my belief in myself. Putting myself out there and believing that what I have to write about can help people far outweighs the fear of fretting about whether people will judge me. I can't stop people from talking about me or judging me; that is their prerogative. I can, however, choose not to take it on board.
I used to think that people who had a lot of self-belief and confidence were arrogant and rude. Yuck! I do not like people like that; never have and never will. I thought this way because that was who I often dealt with: people who thought themselves better, who belittled other people, and who believed only in themselves. I have since learnt that while this is a type of self-belief, it's not the only type.
With more life experience, I now think of self-belief in terms of people who believe in themselves, who loves themselves, and who have the confidence (not the arrogance) to believe in themselves. Such people are still kind and giving; that doesn't have to change.
Imagine if we could teach our children and grandchildren how to believe in themselves and love themselves. We should let them know they are special, worthy, and loved, and that they can accomplish whatever they want to pursue. We would be helping to create a generation of more confident, relaxed, positive, considerate, and caring people who aren't full of self-doubt ("I'm not good enough."), self-sabotage ("Why try? I'm not going to get it. I'm hopeless."), and anger towards themselves and society. We won't be able to help everyone, but that isn't a reason not to try to help anyone.
How can we do this? By teaching them easy techniques and affirmations. Practise the techniques yourself and show your children how it makes a difference in your life. We can tell people what we like, but as a society, we are very visual and need proof. We need to see the changes and how they affect us in a good way. When we do this, people are often more willing to give it a try. Start with affirmations for the self:
"I am worthy."
"I am loved."
"I am a good person."
"I can be whatever I choose to become."
Instil positivity (not negativity) into their lives. Let them know it is okay to fail, because at least they had the courage to give it a go.
"I can't stop people from talking about me or judging me; that is their prerogative. I can, however, choose not to take it on board." ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________CHAPTER 2
The Oxford Dictionary defines affirmation as "the act or process of affirming something" and affirm as "state emphatically or publicly." According to Louise L. Hay, the queen of self-help, "An affirmation is anything you say or think." In light of these definitions, ask yourself what your thoughts say about you. Are they positive—"I can, I will, I have"—or are they negative—"I can't, I won't, I haven't"?
Sometimes we talk and self-talk automatically, and we don't even realise what we're saying. We have implemented automatic responses to certain situations over a lifetime. Consider these two ways of looking at the problem of bills:
We all have bills to pay; some months, we have more than others. My big month is November. If I have a positive mindset as the month approaches, knowing it is a big bill month, I may have put some extra money aside each month leading up to November. I may change some bills and pay them off over the year. I may pay the bills I can and get an extension for the rest, or budget a little better by cutting back on treats and excess spending for the month. I still have bills that need to be paid, but I don't have the stress and all the negative emotions that go with it.
Oh, it's November again, and this is my big bill month. I may not have enough to cover all the bills. I could put some on the credit cards, but then it will come due in December. What about the kids' Christmas presents? I suppose they will want something expensive. What about the food and drinks for Christmas dinner? I'll get through December, and then all the Christmas expenses will come in January. Then the kids will need supplies and clothes for school, and the school fees will be out in March. By the time I pay off all the bills, it will be April.
These examples may sound a bit extreme, but this happens to people all the time. If I react according to the negative scenario, I will work myself into a state with worry, fear, and anger—all sorts of negative thoughts and emotions that look like they will last six months. Six months of living with all those emotions! Can you imagine what my house would be like to live in?
In the chapter on manifestation, you will learn that what you put out is what you attract. That being the case, I'm not looking forward to the above situation. But there's another way of attracting what you want, and it involves using affirmations. An affirmation I could use with the above money situation is, "I am a magnet for money." I like this one, because I am not putting limits on where the money comes from. I personally use this one.
Let's start looking for the positive in situations instead of the negative. If we incorporate more positivity into our lives each day, we will open ourselves up to receive more positive experiences.
Sometimes we make up things to justify our resistance to change. How many of these negative affirmations have you said to yourself? Can you flip them over to the positive side?
Money is another area in which it's easy to fall into negative thought patterns. Try switching to positive affirmations instead.
The following are positive affirmations to replace the negative ones you may have fallen into in many areas of your life:
I love myself.
I am worthy.
I deserve the best.
I have all the time today to finish all I need to do.
I am in perfect health.
I am healthy, whole, and complete.
My body is strong, flexible, healthy, and fit.
I appreciate and love my body.
I love my body and take good care of it.
Change offers me new opportunities, which I welcome.
Change is good for me; it will help me grow.
Every day, I am blessed with more than I need for family, friends, and self.
I have or I am in a wonderful, loving, lasting relationship.
I am love, and love fills my life.
I love my job.
My income is constantly increasing.
New opportunities are presenting themselves all the time.
I have a successful business with happy clients.
Each day, my business is constantly growing.
I am at peace.
I am safe and protected, wherever I go.
I am successful.
Affirmations can present positive solutions to problems. Many of these I have learned from reading Louise L. Hay's 21 Days to Master Affirmations. The following affirmation from that book is a good all-round one that can be used for any problem. Repeat over and over:
All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe.
Have a look at what situation is troubling you. Then select one affirmation to work with. Write it down on a piece of paper twenty-five times a day. If you cannot write it down, say it out loud. Do this for at least a month.
When you are writing or saying your affirmations, believe what you are writing or saying. Be positive and do it with enthusiasm. Put that emotion into the affirmation.
Affirmations that are used daily change our thinking and become a belief that produces positive results in our lives.
I believe that affirmations are a part of our lives from an early age. It starts with Mum or Dad's encouraging words, "You can do it," and becomes our own thoughts, "I can do this."
It wasn't until I started with Lee-Anne's manifestation course that I began to understand the full significance of what affirmations can achieve.
My brain is like many others, and I feel like it rarely shuts off. I started with a simple affirmation of I am peace. It surprised me how quickly I was able to incorporate this simple sentence into my life. Before too long, the reciting of these words, at any time, would allow me to stop, take a deep breath, and feel that peace—if only in that instant.
I understand the importance of words and how we use them, so the action and power of affirmations rings true for me.
"Let's start looking for the positive in situations instead of the negative." _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________CHAPTER 3
Again turning to the Oxford Dictionary, we find manifestation defined as:
1) an event, action, or object that clearly shows or embodies something abstract or theoretical.
2) an indication of the existence, reality, or presence of something.
Does manifestation work? I believe it does. By using the techniques in this and the three chapters that follow, you will be able to see this for yourself.
Of course, whether manifestation works immediately depends on you. What is your mindset? Have you tried manifestation techniques before? Are you open to changing old opinions and patterns? They say it takes twenty-one days to break or change a habit or pattern. Why not decide whether manifestation works twenty-one days after you've tried the techniques? Don't forget, it has taken a lifetime to form your current opinions and patterns.
Now I would like to ask you a question: Do you believe in the old cliché, "What you put out there is what you get"? If you answered yes, then ask yourself, what are you putting out there? Is it the same as you wish to get?
Manifestation will not compete with your religious, spiritual, or scientific beliefs. If you are religious, you would be praying to your God, asking for help. You know your God doesn't want you to struggle. The same applies if you are spiritual. Whoever you believe in, you know that entity wants the best for you, as does the universe. If your thinking is science-based, you understand that we are all made of energy. What we put out there, we attract. The Law of Attraction is a belief that like attracts like. If we focus on the negative, that is what we will get. The same applies to a focus on the positive. We will attract positive results.
We are now going to look at a visualisation technique. Take a moment to think of what you would like to manifest. A better job? A healthier body? More money? More clients for your business? A new car? When you think about what you want, how do you feel emotionally? Are you happy? Excited? Scared? Is the feeling positive or negative?
As an example, let's start with a visualisation for a better job. Do you have any idea what you would like to do? The first thing we need to establish is the type of job you want. Is there an outline or job description for your ideal job? Is there a particular company you would like to work for? Let's say you would like to work for Microsoft.(I chose Microsoft as the company because everyone has heard of them). I want you to visualise yourself going to Microsoft. You are out in front of the building. You are dressed immaculately. You have your resume. You are feeling excited and confident. You can do this job; this is what you want.
You now visualise meeting with Bill Gates, where you discuss what the job will entail. The interview is going wonderfully. You are relaxed. I now want you to visualise Bill Gates telling you the position is yours. You accept and shake hands, and he welcomes you to Microsoft. You did it! Well done. You have your ideal job.
However, now the hard work begins. You have to believe this is true. We have been told all our lives that if something is easy, there will be a catch, and in all probability it won't work. The only catch is you need to change your thinking from "it won't happen" or "it doesn't work" to "it will happen" and "it does work.
The same practice can be applied to anything you want in your life. You simply need to apply the following principles:
1. Firstly, think of what it is you want to manifest. If there are many things, break it down and focus on one.
2. What is your emotional mindset in regards to receiving what you want? Is it positive or negative? You need to be excited, happy, and positive. You have to be sure this is what you want and that it will be good for you, with no negativity or doubts.
3. Visualise yourself going through the process of achieving what you want. If it is getting the car of your dreams, create as much detail as you can about the car—colour, make, model. See yourself driving the car. You're smiling, you're happy, you love the car. See the car parked in your driveway or garage or outside your house. The more detail you can put into the visualisation, the better the outcome.
4. The thing to remember is, create positive emotions when manifesting. Like attracts like. Visualise what you want as if it is has already happened. For example, with the car, you are not visualising it in the car yard. It's yours, you are driving it, and it is parked at your home.
5. Do not put an exact time frame on it: "I want such and such and I want it to happen on this specific date." By doing that, you are limiting your options.
6. Give thanks to whomever you believe in for what you have received. "Thank you ____________ for ____________."
My experience is one that many middle-age women share, but they don't know what to do to help or change themselves and their thinking.
I am a forty-plus lady who loves horse riding. After having a very safe and knowledgeable twenty-year-old horse, I had to retire him, as he was not able to keep up with the challenges, steep hills, and chasing cattle that I liked to do, so into my life came a new young five-year-old horse.
I rode out on short rides with a lot of anxiety, but I pushed through it. I am, I admit, a nervous rider. If you know anything about horses, a nervous rider makes a young horse nervous. Why, I hear you asking, if I am nervous did I get one so young? Well for anybody who is not nervous, he is calm, so I thought I could grow with him.
One day out riding, we became our own worst enemies. A dead bush around the back of his leg was our undoing. He shied, and I fell off with a very painful landing and multiple bruises. I did get back on, as I wasn't alone, but anytime I thought he might shy at again I would be off and walking.
I loved riding, but all of a sudden I couldn't do it anymore. The more I thought about riding, the more I had anxiety and panic attacks. I couldn't breathe and would feel nauseous. I even gave myself shingles from worrying.
That's where Lee-Anne from Jasmine Sky Wellness Centre entered, because I loved riding and my horse was a good horse. I wanted to get past this fear and do what I loved doing: riding!
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Self-Belief, 1,
Chapter 2 Affirmations, 4,
Chapter 3 Manifestations, 12,
Chapter 4 Manifestation Boxes and Boards, 21,
Chapter 5 New-Moon Wishes, 28,
Chapter 6 Full-Moon Releasing, 32,
Chapter 7 Intuition, 37,
Chapter 8 Grounding, 44,
Chapter 9 Chakras, 49,
Chapter 10 Reiki, 64,
Chapter 11 Crystals, 72,
Chapter 12 Angels, Archangels, and Spirit Guides, 90,
Chapter 13 Clutter, 107,
Chapter 14 Clearing Negativity, 112,
Chapter 15 Basic Feng Shui, 118,
Thank You, 139,