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You know, the funny thing is that a guy “wants what he wants” too. The difference is that he generally knows what he wants and then goes and gets it. A woman “wants what she wants” but doesn’t always know what that is until she’s shopped all day for it. (Hint to the guys: What she wants is to shop. It’s like fishing. It’s not so much about catching fish as it is about just “fishing.” Hint to the gals: For a guy, shopping all day in the same department of the same store is a mind-altering experience. Think scrambled eggs.]
So, if she doesn’t know what she wants, how in hell is a guy supposed to know what she wants? The answer is he’s not! You’re not supposed to know. This, my friends, is one of the things that drives men mad. But here’s the truth of the matter. If she was like you, you never would have been attracted to her. If what she wanted was predictable, you’d be bored out of your mind. She’s a girl. She’s your counterpart, your equal but opposite.
Sometimes it seems that a woman’s wants are a moving target, at best vague and unclear. But that’s only because they don’t always say what they really mean, nor do they always really want direct answers to the questions they ask.
A quintessential example of this is when she notices her man is troubled; she asks if he would like to talk about it. She does this because that’s what she would want him to do for her. A man will usually say no. What he means by no is “No, I don’t want to talk about it.” If a man notices his wife is troubled, and he’s an insensitive jerk, he will avoid asking her anything because he doesn’t want to open up an emotional can-of-worms (translation: he cares more about his needs than her needs). If he is half a man, he will ask her if anything is bothering her and whether she would like to talk about it. She will probably say no and may even resist any advance he initially makes to talk.
At this point most guys are like Thank God, I really didn’t want to get into anything emotional anyway. She’s the one who doesn’t want to talk, so I’m off the hook. But a woman almost always wants to talk. So what she really means by all this is that she wants to be pursued and coaxed. This shows her that you care, are genuinely interested, and that she’s worth pursuing. Please note that there are infinite permutations of the above dynamic and many exceptions that are covered in other sections of the book. For example, a guy doesn’t always get what he wants because he isn’t comfortable expressing his feelings, needs, or desires.
Table of ContentsChapter 1: The Unveiling of a Woman
Chapter 1.5: The Twelve Insights (OK. It’s really 13)
Chapter 2: An Act of Desperation
Chapter 3: What a Woman Wants--Really!
Chapter 4: Women Are Crazy and Men Are Stupid
Chapter 5: Getting on the Same Page
Chapter 6: The Six Human Needs
Chapter 7: Your Game Face (How to “Bring It” Every Day)
Chapter 8: Back from the Edge
Chapter 9: The Blueprint for a Lifelong Love Affair
Chapter 10: Sex 202 (Why You Need to Be Having Sex)