Winning the Heart of Your Child: 9 Keys to Building a Positive Lifelong Relationship with Your Kids

Winning the Heart of Your Child: 9 Keys to Building a Positive Lifelong Relationship with Your Kids

by Mike Berry


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ISBN-13: 9780801093692
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 02/05/2019
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 87,529
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Mike Berry is the cofounder, along with his wife, Kristin, of the award-winning parenting blog Confessions of an Adoptive Parent and the support and resource site Oasis Community. He is a featured writer and influencer for Disney website, and his work has also been featured on Yahoo Parenting, The Good Men Project, The Huffington Post, RightNow Media, Michael Hyatt's Platform University, and A sought-after speaker, he travels across the U.S. extensively throughout the year to camps, retreats, and conferences. Before becoming a full-time author and speaker, he spent 17 years in family life ministry in churches in Ohio and Indiana. He lives in Indianapolis, Indiana, with his wife and their eight children.

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Winning the Heart of Your Child: 9 Keys to Building a Positive Lifelong Relationship with Your Kids 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 7 reviews.
Anonymous 6 days ago
“People lose their way when they lose their why” - Michael Hyatt Stay focused on today's stage and where your children are right now. P 77 As he outlines the keys. Mike does an excellent job of weaving the changes in our children and how to use our influence with them. He encourages us to embrace the changes and reach out to positive voices of influence around us. As our children move into the teen years, Mike encourages us to be all there with our kids, and listen without judgement. On p 132, Mike makes a profound statement after they had been shaken by decisions their children were making: “Even though they had made some serious mistakes, we did not let those define them.” We all make mistakes. We must allow room for our children to fail. “Remember that your goal is not to make your children march in line, but to help them understand how to live in freedom. This happens through love, not just rules or restrictions.” Mike draws from his experience as a pastier, adoptive parent, and speaker to provide relatable principles to improve your relationship with your children.
Ninjamom2 9 days ago
As parents, we all long for connection with our children. As they grow older, we will feel less our relationship drifting and often can't figure out what to do. Mike Berry's book as been so insightful. It is full of practical information and very easy to read and follow. I've had so many "Ah-ha" moments!
summer_no9 11 days ago
This book was beautiful writing, very inspiring and deep insightful of practical tools that will help to all the parents to achieve the healthiest relationship with your child, especially during their young and eventually when the are adults with this three central parenting principles of understand your influence, shift your perspective on your role as a parent, fight for what matter most with the love of God supporting you. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Baker Books Bloggers for this review”.
K_Fischer 12 days ago
I loved Mike Berry's book Confessions of an Adoptive Parent, so I was excited to read his newest title. In Winning the Heart of Your Child, Berry seeks to offer parents nine keys to building healthy relationships with their kids. He reviews various parenting styles, shares stories from his own family, and gives a lot of hope and encouragement. At the end of each chapter, he provides questions to help readers process the information that was just read. As an adoptive parent, I appreciated that the author came from a foster/adoptive background because he understands some of the unique challenges that can arise. I am thankful that I read this book now, while my children are young (4, 5 & 8). I gained a lot of insight as to what I should be thinking about as they get older (although he makes very clear in the book that it is never too late to start using these principles). While I found some of the information to be common sense, there were many times when I was greatly convicted in how I have chosen to parent my boys. He made me stop and think about my own parenting style, and identify what is working and what is not. I found quite a few practical, helpful suggestions that I have since put into practice, with great success. I would definitely recommend this book to any parent. I received an advance reader copy of this book from the publisher.
JosKeathley 12 days ago
If you’re a parent, this book is a must read. The author takes a pretty wide subject (parenting well) and tunes it in to the most important thing: winning our child’s heart and what that looks like. He gives practical advice and lays out clear guidance on how to connect with our child’s heart rather than having behaviors and drama win. He encourages us to watch the way we respond to our children’s mistakes and make sure criticism and harshness aren’t in it. He reminds us to surround our children with other influencers, knowing the more love and truth we surround them with, the better it can be for their hearts. This is a book I will keep on the shelf to continue referring to. We all long for our child’s heart to stay connected to us into adulthood, where we can enjoy a friendship with them. This book encourages us to keep that in the forefront of our mind and gives great examples and ways to do that. In the unpredictable days of parenting, it is refreshing to have Berry’s voice reminding us the ways we can keep that connection to our child’s heart strong.
Anonymous 13 days ago
As parents we have so much more life experience than our children and shouldn’t someone, namely our kids, benefit from those hard-won life lessons? With babies and smaller children we make most of the decisions. But as they grow, we see them become more independent and make decisions we don’t agree with and sometimes make really bad choices. We can see where they might be headed for mistakes and with the best intentions we sometimes command and argue rather than listen and encourage. Along the way we can lose touch with our precious child’s heart. Mike Berry points out, “Children are already on shaky ground. Their hearts -- even those of teenagers -- are ultra fragile. They are trying to find their way through this overwhelming world, and insecurities fill their minds and hearts. This especially true of children who've come into a family through adoption." pp. 58. What Mike Berry has done in this easy to read, not so run-of-the-mill book is to help parents find a balanced and intentional parenting style by following nine principles or keys. The book is divided into two parts. The first part introduces the reader to the common parenting struggles demonstrated with honest, touching, personal stories. The second part explains nine simple and practical steps to teach the reader how to fight for the heart of their child. Each chapter concludes with exercises and questions that encourage the reader to "Pause and Reflect." I am a foster and adoptive mother and my journey has been challenging. I felt so encouraged by this book and It's not like anything else I have read. But while Mike and his wife Kristin are experts in the foster/adoptive parenting journey this particular book is for every person who loves a child or teenager. Love is an action as much as a feeling and the parent/child relationship deserves to be protected and nurtured because their hearts, their futures, and their beautiful stories are worth it. This book has encouraged me to strive so that within my family “Even when we fight, I fight to win their hearts.” pp. 213. So ask yourself, do you want to WIN the argument or do you want to WIN the heart of a child?
benhli38 13 days ago
What can I say about a man who has written well in talking about parenting? I know that I can say that Mike Berry knows what he's talking about as him and his wife, Kristin, have been parents to eight children through adoption. Through their blog Confessions of an Adoptive Parent he has been able to amass a readership in the tens of thousands in helping other parents. Considering I am in my forties along with my wife of ten years we ought to be parents ourselves, but we're unable to have any children, but then again I feel I digress. With all of that said, I feel I can say that Mike Berry's book Winning the Heart of Your Child has a great tone and feel to it. Within the pages of the book, which I refuse to spoil completely, you can expect to find advice on how to better understand and to effectively win your child's heart. Another part of what I can say he's done well with this book is that he sounds like Alex Kendrick playing a father and fellow law enforcement officer from Courageous: "I don't want to be a good enough father. I want to be the best father I can be to my children!" Finally, the last thing that comes to mind is what the Bible says about being an effective parent. Paul wrote the words, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:1-4, New King James, italics for emphasis). As I come from the upbringing of a father who not only served in the armed forces, but loved his children as best he could I can say that one of the worst things a father can do to their children is to frustrate them with shame, guilt, and hardly next to no love. But that's not the case with my own dad. He did his best to show my sister and myself a great deal of love, but he did what he could to raise his children to be honoring of others in this life. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Baker Books for a fair and honest review of the pages within it.