"The Self contains everything: dark and light, woundedness and wholeness. If woundedness cannot be contained within wholeness, then it is not wholeness. If the cry for love cannot be contained within Self, then it is not Self� Self is larger than anything that would restrict or oppose it. It is not at odds with anything internal or external. It is not a bundle of actions or conditions, but an unconditional state of being that exists in all of us. To know the Self is to allow everything, to embrace the totality of who we are, all that we think and feel, all of our fear, all of our love."