Wounded Warrior, Wounded Wife: Not Just Surviving But Thriving

Wounded Warrior, Wounded Wife: Not Just Surviving But Thriving

by Barbara K. McNally

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Overview

Imagine sending your spouse to war with a heavy heart, then receiving a life-shattering phone call telling you he’s been badly injured. Your beloved returns to your arms, but changed, broken, angry, conflicted, and in need of around-the-clock care. What do you do?


Meet the women who drew upon their inner resilience and prevailed. Their vivid personal accounts provide inspiration to those who face daunting challenges, and offer a path forward. Each one of these brave, strong military spouses shares her personal tale of reuniting, recovering, and rebuilding with her catastrophically wounded warrior.


Wounded Warrior, Wounded Wife offers an intimate look into the chaotic and demanding lives of military spouses as they adjust to living with injured combat veterans. These women are thrust into caretaker roles for service members who return home with amputated limbs, brain injuries, burns, and disabilities, with virtually no support or training. Posttraumatic stress tears their families apart, and they must wrestle with huge, imposing questions: Does he still love me? Must I sacrifice my career forever? How will this affect my kids, my sex life, my happiness?


Wounded Warrior, Wounded Wife reveals the innermost thoughts of women who faced these challenges and prevailed—to not just survive, but thrive.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781633932876
Publisher: Koehler Books
Publication date: 09/15/2016
Pages: 228
Sales rank: 370,257
Product dimensions: 5.98(w) x 9.02(h) x 0.48(d)

About the Author

Barbara McNally is the author of Unbridled: A Memoir, a member of San Diego Writers Ink, and an active blog contributor to the Huffington Post. A licensed physical therapist, she has helped people from all walks of life, including veterans, recover and regain their strength. This work also connected her with the spouses of wounded warriors and hearing their stories inspired her to launch the Barbara McNally Foundation, which is dedicated to offering workshops, seminars and scholarships that enhance the lives of women. The foundation also cosponsors Support, Purpose, and Appreciation (SPA) Days for the spouses of wounded warriors, offering caregivers a much-needed day of relaxation and self-care. Barbara is dedicated to helping women access their personal strengths and potential, and finds her work incredibly energizing and rewarding.

Table of Contents

Foreword xiii



Preface xvi



Introduction 1



1. Why Is My Husband So Angry? Dealing with



Posttraumatic Stress 4



Julie: I Will Quiet the Unheard Screams 9



Jane: I Will Heal Your Shattered Soul 16



2. Traumatic Brain Injury: My Husband’s Mind



and Memory Hijacked 22



Shannon: Nothing Else Matters 26



Katy: Not Okay 33



3. Living with Iron Man: Visible Injuries



Compound the Situation 40



Fiona: Making Life without Limbs Limitless 43



Jacqui: From Torn Limbs to Full Heart 50



Carla: Uninvited, Unwelcome, Unfriended 57



4. A Reason to Live: The Suicide Epidemic 65



Suzie: Unconquered 70



Sheila: Keeping Faith 78



Lexi: Miracle of a Daughter’s Wish 84



5. Sexuality: Battlefields to Bedrooms 91



Kelly: Kissing and Telling 99



Kendal: Taking the Reins 105



6. Stay or Go? 115



Amy: The Guilt of Going 120



Mary: Options 123



7. Not Just Surviving but Thriving:



Posttraumatic Growth 131



Mai: Making Margaritas out of Lemonade 135



Natasha: A Constantly Challenging Endeavor



Fuels Inner Fire 140



Jenny: Silver Linings 146



Grief Growth 154



8. Wounded Warrior Women 159



Tammy: Saving Oneself, Saving Others 163



Olivia: Allowing Tragedy to Shape Success 167



9. The Healing Power of Storytelling:



Reasons to Tell Your Story 172



Tips on Getting Started 176



Epilogue 177



Acknowledgments 181



Appendices



Appendix I: Suggested Questions for



Book Discussions 186



Chapter 1: Why Is My Husband So Angry? 186



Chapter 2: Traumatic Brain Injury 188



Chapter 3: Living with Iron Man 188



Chapter 4: A Reason to Live 189



Chapter 5: Sexuality 190



Chapter 6: Stay or Go? 190



Chapter 7: Not Just Surviving but Thriving 191



Chapter 8: Wounded Warrior Women 192



Appendix II: Resources 193



Veteran and Governmental Service



Organizations 195



Caregiving Resources 197



Nonprofit Service Organizations 199



Therapeutic Services 201



References 203

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