Do you often find yourself losing your cool and yelling at your kids? It happens to us all, but it doesn't have to. With Yell Less, Love More you'll learn practical, simple solutions to keep you focused on loving more and yelling less, no matter what the circumstance. It is possible to change and enjoy a calmer life because of it! Take the Orange Rhino 30-day challenge to yell less. In this guidebook to happier parenting, author Sheila McCraith shares daily thoughts, tips, and motivational personal stories to help you toss out the screams and welcome in the peace. Whether you have one child or twenty (or one you still yell at who is twenty), strengthen your relationships and maybe even laugh a little moreby taking the challenge today.
The Rhino: A naturally calm animal that charges when provoked.
The Orange Rhino: A person that parents with warmth and determination and who doesn't charge with words when angry, impatient, or simply in a bad mood.
|Publisher:||Fair Winds Press|
|Product dimensions:||6.40(w) x 9.20(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Sheila McCraith, also known as The Orange Rhino® (www.theorangerhino.com), is a mom to four boys, all under the age of 7. In January 2012, after her handyman caught her screaming at her boys, she made a promise that she would go 365 days straight without yelling at her kids. To chronicle her progress, keep herself accountable, and find support, Sheila launched her blog, The Orange Rhino Challenge®, shortly after her promise was made. She successfully met her goal in 2013 and continues to work everyday at yelling less and loving more.
Sheila has been featured in Parents magazine, where she was the 2013 winner of “Blog Most Likely to Help You Achieve a Goal” and her article “10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids” instantly became a viral hit on The Huffington Post. She has also been featured on Babycenter.com, Mothering.com, Everydayfamily.com, Allparenting.com, Families.com, and more.
Table of Contents
The Orange Rhino Story 8
1 Ease Into Change 14
Day 1 Admit the Need to Change: Embracing My "Uh-Oh-I-Need-to-Change" Moment
Day 2 Ask Others for Support: Help, It Does a Body Good
Day 3 Get Your Kids to Help: The Orange Rhino Game
Day 4 Practice Yelling Away from Kids: I Love Yelling into Toilets
Day 5 Surround Yourself with Reminders: Orange is the New Gray
2 Gain Awareness 41
Day 6 Start Tracking Triggers: Love at Second Sight
Day 7 Be Honest with Yourself: "Why, Mommy, Why, Why?"
Day 8 Note Physical Symptoms of a Growing Yell: Mommy Threw a Sippy Cup
Day 9 Label Your Triggers: "No, I Won't Clean My Room!"
3 Practice Trigger Management 63
Day 10 Fix the Fixable Triggers: Clutter Makes Me Want to Scream
Day 11 Manage the Manageable Trigger?: My S.P.D. Makes Me Y.E.L.L.
Day 12 Acknowledge the Unchangeable Triggers: The Twenty-Five-Hour Day
Day 13 Accept the Unchangeable Triggers: I Can't Change My Son
Day 14 Practice Forgiveness: I Dwell, Therefore I Yell
4 Prepare to Charge Forward 91
Day 15 Choose a Personal Goal: If I Can Just Make It to 9:05 a.m.…
Day 16 Create Positive Affirmations: The Vicious-I Mean Victorious-Cycle
Day 17 Take Care of Yourself: Sleep. Eat. Run, Clean … Poop?
5 Start to Yell Less, and Love More 109
Day 18 Becoming an Orange Rhino: My Out-of-Body-Experience
6 Get Calm When Things (The Kids?) Are Getting Crazy 117
Day 19 Let L.O.V.E. Rule: My Thirty-Six-Year-Old Security Blanket
Day 20 Find Perspective: "At Least"-My New Favorite Mantra
Day 21 Laugh When You Just Want to Scream: The Great Toothpick Debacle of 2013
Day 22 Tell Yourself Yelling Doesn't Work: … And I Dropped to My Knees and Cried
Day 23 Talk Out Loud: "Mommy Is Scared."
7 Find Warmth When All You Feel Is Anger 145
Day 24 Reminisce About What Happens When You Don't Yell: "Mommy, Will You Love Me in Heaven?"
Day 25 Remember, Kids Are People Too: If I Were a Kid…
Day 26 Seethe Good in Your Kid: Formally Known as the Tasmanian Devil
Day 27 Go Back to the Basics: Food Fight!
Day 28 Ask Yourself Who Started It: An Ode to "Perfect" Family Portraits
8 Stay Determined When You Just Want to Quit 171
Day 29 Know You Can Do It: How to Hold a Yell
Day 30 Remember What Matters: Tipping the Scale Toward Love
9 Beyond Day 30 184
Every Day Past 30: My Promise to My Boys
10 Summary of Key Points 189
Top 10 Orange Rhino Revelations about Yelling
Top 10 Benefits of Being an Orange Rhino
Top 10 Alternatives to Yelling
Most Frequent Orange Rhino Triggers and Solutions
Frequently Asked Question and Answers
About the Author 208
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
LOVE! This book is so helpful to me and I can't say enough good things about it. It is genuine and realistic. Sheila has a great balance in her writing of stories, humor, advice and helpful tools. She has convinced me that going without yelling is an attainable goal for myself. The format of being set up day by day makes the reading realistic for me with my hectic life as a mother. Reading the book in any way is good BUT I have to say- there is a certain magic to having this book in your hands. It is bright and colorful and even having it around my house is a good reminder to control myself with my tone and how I'm responding to my son. AND it has an orange rhino that you can cut out of the back!
Wow! Thank you Orange Rhino for identifying practical ways for me to stop myself before the yelling begins! Your honesty and support gave me the encouragement I needed to embark on this much-needed change. And setting it up as a 30-day challenge with daily thoughts and personal stories - brilliant! Helped me feel like I too could tackle this big and necessary change.