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You Can Heal Your Life
By Louise L. Hay
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Chapter One WHAT I BELIEVE
"The gateways to wisdom and knowledge are always open."
Life Is Really Very Simple. What We Give Out, We Get Back
What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.
We create the situations, and then we give our power away by blaming the other person for our frustration. No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for "we" are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.
Which of these statements sounds like you?
"People are out to get me."
"Everyone is always helpful."
Each one of these beliefs will create quite different experiences. What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us.
The Universe Totally Supports Us in Every Thought We Choose to Think and Believe
Put another way, our subconscious mind accepts whatever we choose to believe. They both mean that what I believe about myself and about life becomes true for me. What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you. And we have unlimited choices about what we can think.
When we know this, then it makes sense to choose "Everyone is always helpful," rather than "People are out to get me."
The Universal Power Never Judges or Criticizes Us
It only accepts us at our own value. Then it reflects our beliefs in our lives. If I want to believe that life is lonely and that nobody loves me, then that is what I will find in my world.
However, if I am willing to release that belief and to affirm for myself that "Love is everywhere, and I am loving and lovable," and to hold on to that new affirmation and to repeat it often, then it will become true for me. Now, loving people will come into my life, the people already in my life will become more loving to me, and I will find myself easily expressing love to others.
Most of Us Have Foolish Ideas about Who We Are and Many, Many Rigid Rules about How Life Ought to Be Lived
This is not to condemn us, for each of us is doing the very best we can at this very moment. If we knew better, if we had more understanding and awareness, then we would do it differently. Please don't put yourself down for being where you are. The very fact that you have found this book and have discovered me means that you are ready to make a new, positive change in your life. Acknowledge yourself for this. "Men don't cry!" "Women can't handle money!" What limiting ideas to live with.
When We Are Very Little, We Learn How to Feel about Ourselves and about Life by the Reactions of the Adults Around Us
It is the way we learn what to think about ourselves and about our world. Now, if you lived with people who were very unhappy, frightened, guilty, or angry, then you learned a lot of negative things about yourself and about your world.
"I never do anything right." "It's my fault." "If I get angry, I'm a bad person."
Beliefs like this create a frustrating life.
When We Grow Up, We Have a Tendency to Re-create the Emotional Environment of Our Early Home Life
This is not good or bad, right or wrong; it is just what we know inside as "home." We also tend to recreate in our personal relationships the relationships we had with our mothers or with our fathers, or what they had between them. Think how often you have had a lover or a boss who was "just like" your mother or father.
We also treat ourselves the way our parents treated us. We scold and punish ourselves in the same way. You can almost hear the words when you listen. We also love and encourage ourselves in the same way, if we were loved and encouraged as children.
"You never do anything right." "It's all your fault." How often have you said this to yourself?
"You are wonderful." "I love you." How often do you tell yourself this?
However, I Would Not Blame Our Parents for This
We are all victims of victims, and they could not possibly have taught us anything they did not know. If your mother did not know how to love herself, or your father did not know how to love himself, then it would be impossible for them to teach you to love yourself. They were doing the best they could with what they had been taught as children. If you want to understand your parents more, get them to talk about their own childhood; and if you listen with compassion, you will learn where their fears and rigid patterns come from. Those people who "did all that stuff to you" were just as frightened and scared as you are.
I Believe That We Choose Our Parents
Each one of us decides to incarnate upon this planet at a particular point in time and space. We have chosen to come here to learn a particular lesson that will advance us upon our spiritual, evolutionary pathway. We choose our sex, our color, our country, and then we look around for the particular set of parents who will mirror the pattern we are bringing in to work on in this lifetime. Then, when we grow up, we usually point our lingers accusingly at our parents and whimper, "You did it to me." But really, we chose them because they were perfect for what we wanted to work on overcoming.
We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience. Well, I believe you created those experiences over and over because they mirrored something you believed about yourself, it doesn't really matter how long we have had a problem, or how big it is, or how life-threatening it is.
The Point of Power Is Always in the Present Moment
All the events you have experienced in your lifetime up to this moment have been created by your thoughts and beliefs you have held in the past. They were created by the thoughts and words you used yesterday, last week, last month, last year, 10, 20, 30, 40, or more years ago, depending on how old you are.
However, that is your past. It is over and done with. What is important in this moment is what you are choosing to think and believe and say right now. For these thoughts and words will create your future. Your point of power is in the present moment and is forming the experience of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and so on.
You might notice what thought you are thinking at this moment. Is it negative or positive? Do you want this thought to be creating your future? Just notice and be aware.
The Only Thing We Are Ever Dealing With Is a Thought, and a Thought Can Be Changed
No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts. Even self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. You have a thought that says, "I'm a bad person." This thought produces a feeling, and you buy into the feeling. However, if you don't have the thought, you won't have the feeling. And thoughts can be changed. Change the thought, and the feeling must go.
This is only to show us where we get many of our beliefs. But let's not use this information as an excuse to stay stuck in our pain. The past has no power over us. It doesn't matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment!
Believe It or Not, We Do Choose Our Thoughts
We may habitually think the same thought over and over so that it does not seem we are choosing the thought. But we did make the original choice. We can refuse to think certain thoughts. Look how often you have refused to think a positive thought about yourself. Well, you can also refuse to think a negative thought about yourself.
It seems to me that everyone on this planet whom I know or have worked with is suffering from self-hatred and guilt to one degree or another. The more self-hatred and guilt we have, the less our lives work. The less self-hatred and guilt we have, the better our lives work, on all levels.
The Innermost Belief for Everyone I Have Worked with Is Always, "I'm Not Good Enough!"
We often add to that, "And I don't do enough," or "I don't deserve." Does this sound like you? Often saying or implying or feeling that you "are not good enough"? But for whom? And according to whose standards?
If this belief is very strong in you, then how can you possibly have created a loving, joyous, prosperous, healthy life? Somehow your main subconscious belief would always be contradicting it. Somehow you would never quite get it together, for something would always be going wrong somewhere.
I Find That Resentment, Criticism, Guilt, and Fear Cause More Problems Than Anything Else
These four things cause the major problems in our bodies and in our lives. These feelings come from blaming others and not taking responsibility for our own experiences. You see, if we are all responsible for everything in our lives, then there is no one to blame. Whatever is happening "out there" is only a mirror of our own inner thinking. I am not condoning other people's poor behavior, but it is OUR beliefs that attract people who will treat us that way.
If you find yourself saying, "Everyone always does such and such to me, criticizes me, is never there for me, uses me like a doormat, abuses me," then this is YOUR PATTERN. There is some thought in you that attracts people who exhibit this behavior. When you no longer think that way, they will go elsewhere and do that to somebody else. You will no longer attract them.
Following are some results of patterns that manifest on the physical level: Resentment that is long held can eat away at the body and become the dis-ease we call cancer. Criticism as a permanent habit can often lead to arthritis in the body. Guilt always looks for punishment, and punishment creates pain. (When a client comes to me with a lot of pain, I know they are holding a lot of guilt.) Fear, and the tension it produces, can create things like baldness, ulcers, and even sore feet.
I have found that forgiving and releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer. While this may sound simplistic, I have seen and experienced it working.
We Can Change Our Attitude Toward the Past
The past is over and done. We cannot change that now. Yet we can change our thoughts about the past. How foolish for us to PUNISH OURSELVES in the present moment because someone hurt us in the long ago past.
I often say to people who have deep resentment patterns, "Please begin to dissolve the resentment now, when it is relatively easy. Don't wait until you are under the threat of a surgeon's knife or on your death bed, when you may have to deal with panic, too."
When we are in a state of panic, it is very difficult to focus our minds on the healing work. We have to take time out to dissolve the fears first.
If we choose to believe we are helpless victims and that it's all hopeless, then the Universe will support us in that belief, and we will just go down the drain. It is vital that we release these foolish, outmoded, negative ideas and beliefs that do not support us and nourish us. Even our concept of God needs to be one that is for us, not against us.
To Release the Past, We Must Be Willing to Forgive
We need to choose to release the past and forgive everyone, ourselves included. We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive, but the very fact that we say we are willing to forgive begins the healing process. It is imperative for our own healing that "we" release the past and forgive everyone.
"I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and I set you free."
This affirmation sets us free.
All Dis-ease Comes from a State of Unforgiveness
Whenever we are ill, we need to search our hearts to see who it is we need to forgive.
The Course in Miracles says that "all dis-ease comes from a state of unforgiveness," and that "whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who it is that we need to forgive."
I would add to that concept that the very person you find it hardest to forgive is the one YOU NEED TO LET GO OF THE MOST. Forgiveness means giving up, letting go. It has nothing to do with condoning behavior. It's just letting the whole thing go. We do not have to know HOW to forgive. All we need to do is to be WILLING to forgive. The Universe will take care of the hows.
We understand our own pain so well. How hard it is for most of us to understand that THEY, whoever they are we need most to forgive, were also in pain. We need to understand that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge they had at that time.
When people come to me with a problem, I don't care what it is - poor health, lack of money, unfulfilling relationships, or stifled creativity - there is only one thing I ever work on, and that is LOVING THE SELF.
I find that when we really love and accept and APPROVE OF OURSELVES EXACTLY AS WE ARE, then everything in life works. It's as if little miracles are everywhere. Our health improves, we attract more money, our relationships become much more fulfilling, and we begin to express ourselves in creatively fulfilling ways. All this seems to happen without our even trying.
Loving and approving of yourself, creating a space of safety, trusting and deserving and accepting, will create organization in your mind, create more loving relationships in your life, attract a new job and a new and better place to live, and even enable your body weight to normalize. People who love themselves and their bodies neither abuse themselves nor others.
Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the main keys to positive changes in every area of our lives.
Loving the self, to me, begins with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.
In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. I believe in a power far greater than I am that flows through me every moment of every day. I open myself to the wisdom within, knowing that there is only One Intelligence in this Universe. Out of this One Intelligence comes all the answers, all the solutions, all the hearings, all the new creations. I trust this Power all Intelligence, knowing that whatever I need to know is revealed to me, all that whatever I need comes to me in the right time, space, and sequence. All is well in my world.
Chapter Two WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
"It is safe to look within."
My Body Doesn't Work
It hurts, bleeds, aches, oozes, twists, blows up, limps, burns, ages, can't see, can't hear, is rotting away, and so on. Plus whatever else you may have created. I think I have heard them all.
My Relationships Don't Work
They are smothering, absent, demanding, don't support me, always criticizing me, unloving, never leave me alone, pick on me all the time, don't want to be bothered with me, walk all over me, never listen to me, and so on. Plus whatever else you may have created. Yes, I have heard them all, too.
My Finances Don't Work
They are nonexistent, seldom there, never enough, just out of reach, go out faster than they come in, won't cover the bills, slip through my fingers, and so on. Plus whatever else you may have created. Of course, I have heard them all.
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Table of Contents
|Suggestions to My Readers||7|
|Some Points of My Philosophy||9|
|Chapter 1||What I Believe||13|
|Part II||A Session with Louise|
|Chapter 2||What Is the Problem?||27|
|Chapter 3||Where Does It Come From?||41|
|Chapter 4||Is It True?||51|
|Chapter 5||What Do We Do Now?||59|
|Chapter 6||Resistance to Change||67|
|Chapter 7||How to Change||83|
|Chapter 8||Building the New||97|
|Chapter 9||Daily Work||109|
|Part III||Putting These Ideas to Work|
|Chapter 14||The Body||151|
|Chapter 15||The List||175|
|New Thought Patterns||225|
|Chapter 16||My Story||231|
|Deep at the Center||248|
|Holistic Healing Recommendations||249|
|Louise L. Hay/Lifestyles Titles||262|
|About Louise L. Hay||267|
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This book is all about using your thoughts to fix the problems in your life. What kind of problems? Well, the book looks into healing life areas such as relationships, work, success, prosperity, and your body. But wait a minute, did I say the book is using thoughts to heal your body? What's up with that? Is that even possible?...Well, after reading this book, I think in many cases, yes, it is possible. While I think it is the way to go to treat things such as an acute appendicitis with surgery, fractures with a cast, and pneumonia with antibiotics, there are many conditions where conventional medicine blatently falls short. Of course I'm talking about health problems such as migraines, backaches, or stomach ulcers- you know, those kinds of nagging disorders where we all know that stress/mental processes DO play a role. But while few would argue that psychological factors can cause an ulcer, what about more serious conditions such as, say, arthritis?...Well it may not be too far fetched. Consider this. One study of 1,198 subjects found that only 56% of men with SEVERE knee arthritis had any pain (Lawrence 1966). Another study X-rayed 84 seventy-nine year-olds and 76 eighty-five year-olds and found that only 43% of them with SEVERE knee arthritis had any pain complaints (Bagge 1991). There are plenty more examples in the scientific literature, but obviously there two alone show us that there is NO clear-cut association between severe knee arthritis and pain...ON THE OTHER HAND, when one looks at the relationship between psychological variables and knee arthritis, one does see a clear association. For instance, one study looked at 65 patients (ages 55 to 87) with hip and/or knee arthritis. X-rays, pain, depression levels, anxiety levels, coping styles, and functional impairment were all assessed. The findings? Researchers discovered that the severity of one's arthritis showed little relationship to pain, BUT, psychological variables were strong predictors of who had pain and how impaired they were (Summers 1988)...Along the same lines, Salaffi examined 61 women (ages 51-79) with knee arthritis. Here again, results showed that how disabled someone was, was more related to psychological variables than how bad their knee looked on an X-ray film. Interestingly, both anxiety and depression WERE important predictors of pain (Salaffi 1991). Anyone conducting a literature review on Medline will find more such examples IF you're looking for them. While I used knee arthritis as an example, there are MANY more studies on other health problems with similar findings...All of this should be causing us to raise an eyebrow. The literature is telling us that it is far from being clear cut that things like bad knee arthritis ALWAYS mean pain. And the research is also giving us clues that the mind definitely plays a role. So the question now becomes, if bad thought patterns can play a role in health problems such as arthritis, why not in other diseases such as cancer, as the book suggests?...You be the judge. I found that the main value in this book was getting me to look at how our thinking does influence the functioning of our bodies- as well as our life in general. Note I'm NOT saying that you can think yourself well all the time either. Remember that while Louise Hay did change her thought patterns and was cured of cancer, she has also written that she used other alternative treatments as well, such as foot reflexology and colon therapy (Chapter 16).
I first found this book when it was first published. I was relatively young back then and was struggling with depression, the loss of a parent, a gloomy career outlook, and an extremely low sense of self worth. This book gave me the sense of peace and hope that I was reaching for. Just this past January (2010), I repurchased this book looking for help with a whole different set of problems for a whole new time in my life (I'm well into my 40s now). I'd remembered it helped before -- but I couldn't remember why or how. Then I read this book again, and now I recall its utter beauty. Louise Hay is one of the wisest women on the planet. This book offers techniques that can truly heal whatever problem you're facing ... but you can't just treat it as a book. You must take the message to heart. When you do, amazing things happen in your life. You'll get a sense of peace ... a sense of hope ... a sense of happiness that's beyond what you think is even possible. This book is FAR better than pscyhotherapy I've ever participated in. It's truly one book that has changed my life.
Awesome Book!Disregard the ignorance of the 'one star' reader!This book is SIMPLE (why does that scare someone???)but you hve to agree to be open to another way of thinking - Information from higher planes consistently tell us that we 'agree' to our lives whether it be to wear glasses so you won't see the world in such a sharp way (I have worn glasses since I was 7 and couldn't agree more), that holding in regrets and hate absolutely can cause cancer and all other diseases, that holding positive thoughts CAN CURE them along with any other thing that isn't balanced in your life. Do yourself a favor, help to heal yourself. No it isn't magic, but it is easy and something every person was born with. If you're life isn't as good as you want it to be, follow the steps in this book and CHANGE it. No one else can!
Louise is the first lady of the healing arts and hers was one of the first book I ever saw on the subject. It totally changed the way I thought about healing and led to my writing my own book, some 12 years later. You Can Heal Your Life is a classic book, one that should be on every shelf. It contains methods of healing, affirmations, and the reasons why many of us become ill. You will learn how illness has an emotional connection and how by altering your life actions, you can also change your illness into a path of wellness. My favorite section is chapter 15, which contains 'the list.' In this newly revised version, the list of ailments and likely emotional connections is separated into colorful columns which make it easier to read. This version is beautifully decorated with pastel flowers, hearts, and other beautiful details. A great book to leave out on a table for others to browse. The 'turtle back' cover, which is strong like plastic, but soft to the touch like a paper cover, will survive years of wear and tear. Of course, the book contains many exercises and processes to help the reader better understand themselves and in the process, heal and revive not just their bodies, but their lives. My sincerest gratitude goes out to Louise and her work which has opened the door for so many of us to follow.
My sister gave me this book in Chinese in 2006. I did not read it until I was diagnosed with melanoma. During and after the medical treatment, it helps me through the critical time. Last month, both my surgical and medical oncologist had announce me I am 100% cured. Thanks to Louis Hay. She helped me transformed from a bitter, battered woman, to a happy, loving person.
If you relate to the saying 'I am my own worst enemy' then this is a good book for you to read. The affirmations that Louise suggests really can help you to change the way you talk to yourself...thereby changing your outlook on life. The idea that you can become responsible for your life and what happens to you is very important. I do believe this can be taken too far in suggesting that you bring EVERYTHING on yourself...that nothing is an accident, but if you read this with an open mind and choose to change how you think...thinking about yourself in a more accepting fashion you can become a more satisfied person and achieve more than you ever expected in your life.
I think this book is an excellent piece for self growth that I have got it for my 2 dear friends whom I am sure will appreciate it. As I am going through a difficult time from a broken marriage it has made me a stronger person with positive thoughts and energy. I found answers and I have eliminated the bitterness I was carrying within me and forgiven the people who had caused me pain.
Everyone in the Universe should read this. I keep it handy for just picking up & reading a page or two. I read this at a time when I was very sad. My long term relationship had ended. Reading You Can Heal Your Life was the very beginning of my seeing things differently. You can too!
If you are a believer in God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Ghost/Spirit this book may make you feel uncomfortable. Louise L. Hay offers advice that you may have read or heard else where, some of it explains the importance of forgiving others as well as yourself to allow dis-ease to leave your body; the importance of controlling your thought life, and "unlearning" some childhood information that could be keeping you from being physically, mentally, and emotionally well. Some of the positive affirmations should assist the reader to begin to "heal" from past dis-ease and work toward a more positive future with less dis-ease. Be careful, as the reader, you may need to be cautious about what you are reading and the changes you make based on the advice given in this book.
So very interesting. Easy reading. Simple methodical rules. You can heal your life at least enough to think about doing so if you read this book.
This book will change your life. Even if you think there's not much to heal in Your life, there is always something you can work on to make you feel better and make the most of this life.
This book helped me to make positive changes in my life. I would recommend it to others.
This is the best book I have ever read.Everything she writes about hits home.There is something there for everyone of different ages. I highly recommend this book.
Wow! This book is just nothing short of amazing. For the longest time I didn't read it because of the title. It is amazing. No matter what is wrong in your life, with this book you can heal it. This book taught me how to love my self exactly as I'am. Thank you Louise for helping me to show myself as I'am. Reading this was definatly a big turning point in my life.
Best self-help book I've read in a long time! Atta girl Louise!
Amazing book by Louise Hay which provides powerful techniques for releasing anger and fear and moving on in life. Brilliant.
Louis Hay's work is so powerful because she shares from direct knowledge and not just intellectual posturing.
No matter your relgion or spiritual affiliation, everyone can benefit from reading this book. I refer back to it frequently and find if I am having a bad day it helps me focus on the positive and what's important.
Never have been interested in metaphysical healing up to this point, but a friend suggested it because I was having health problemhs I couldn't resolve with the help of my physician. I felt a lot of what was in this book about the power of your mind really make sense. I plan to read it again.
The thoughts this author has about diseases being connected to mind-sets and personality traits is followed by her specific affirmations to overcome those thoughts and hopefully the body will then heal itself.
Louise Hay is obviously a designated teacher on this planet. She reads the audiobook version with a calm and knowing voice, one of the best author-readers I've heard. Not every writer is also a good reader of their own material.This has become a classic book based on the author's metaphysical work as a therapist. She came into her own in the early 1980's with the HayRide workshops for people diagnosed with HIV-AIDS. Her foundation and start-up publishing company, HayHouse, began from this era.I also recommend watching the 2-DVD version of this book, You Can Heal Your Life The Movie, with accompanying interviews of several authors we are already familiar with: Wayne W. Dyer, Gregg Braden, Cheryl Richardson, Esther Hicks, Jerry Hicks, Doreen Virtue, Ph.D., Candace B. Pert, Ph.D., Mona Lisa Schulz, M.D., Ph.D., Christiane Northrup, M.D., Gay Hendricks, Leon Nacson. Music by Jim Brickman.Her work centers around affirmations, or making positive statements concerning the way you want your life to be. For people unfamiliar with this concept it may seem to be a stretch at first because there is a certain amount of letting go of old ways of thinking that must be done. It is difficult at first to even believe that creating what you want could be as easy as changing your thoughts. But I've seen it happen in my own life, and I've read many books around this area over a period of years, and it really does come down to your thoughts, attitudes, and general feelings controlling what your life becomes. As the scientists on the DVD attest to, these ideas are scientifically valid and becoming more widespread and accepted by people in all walks of life.
So loved this book. It's truly a must read for everybody.
I read your review and felt like i wrote it! I can't believe that the stories are the same. Anyway, I'm purchasing this book again because as you stated it helped me before as a young woman and I, too, am well into my 40's and know I will benefit greatly from it.