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Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

by Julie Lythcott-Haims
Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

by Julie Lythcott-Haims


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New York Times bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims is back with a groundbreakingly frank guide to being a grown-up

What does it mean to be an adult? In the twentieth century, psychologists came up with five markers of adulthood: finish your education, get a job, leave home, marry, and have children. Since then, every generation has been held to those same markers. Yet so much has changed about the world and living in it since that sequence was formulated. All of those markers are choices, and they’re all valid, but any one person’s choices along those lines do not make them more or less an adult.

A former Stanford dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising and author of the perennial bestseller How to Raise an Adult and of the lauded memoir Real American, Julie Lythcott-Haims has encountered hundreds of twentysomethings (and thirtysomethings, too), who, faced with those markers, feel they’re just playing the part of “adult,” while struggling with anxiety, stress, and general unease. In Your Turn, Julie offers compassion, personal experience, and practical strategies for living a more authentic adulthood, as well as inspiration through interviews with dozens of voices from the rich diversity of the human population who have successfully launched their adult lives.

Being an adult, it turns out, is not about any particular checklist; it is, instead, a process, one you can get progressively better at over time—becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and gaining the knowhow to keep going. Once you begin to practice it, being an adult becomes the most complicated yet also the most abundantly rewarding and natural thing. And Julie Lythcott-Haims is here to help readers take their turn.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781250137777
Publisher: Holt, Henry & Company, Inc.
Publication date: 04/06/2021
Pages: 496
Sales rank: 144,784
Product dimensions: 9.30(w) x 6.40(h) x 1.70(d)

About the Author

Julie Lythcott-Haims is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult and Real American. She holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard Law School, and an MFA from California College of the Arts. She resides in the Bay Area with her partner, their two itinerant young adults, and her mother.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

1 Adulting (What Exactly Is It?) 5

2 Tag, You're It (The Terror and Joy of Fending for Yourself) 12

3 You're Not Perfect (You're Here to Learn and Grow) 35

4 Be Good (Unlock a Major Achievement) 69

5 Stop Pleasing Others (They Have No Idea Who You Are) 105

6 Get Out of Neutral (The Tragedy of Unused Potions) 135

7 Start Talking to Strangers (Humans Are Key to Your Survival) 187

8 Money Matters (How to Make It, Keep It, and Make It Work for You) 243

9 Take Good Care (of Yourself) 277

10 How to Cope (When the Shit Hits the Fan) 326

11 Make Things Better (From Your Town to the World Beyond, Why You Should Try) 376

12 Unleash Your Superpowers (Mindfulness, Kindness, and Gratitude) 421

13 Above All Else, Keep Going 456

Appendix: Resources 465

Commitment to Inclusion 468

Acknowledgments 470

Index 473

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