You're Perfect and Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth about Spoiling Your Kids

You're Perfect and Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth about Spoiling Your Kids

by Loni Coombs


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Think you’re doing your kids a favor telling them what perfect angels they are?  Think again.
Former Criminal Prosecutor, mother and stepmother Loni Coombs has witnessed too many times the shockingly negative effects of what most parents feel to be the very best parenting techniques. They think, “I’ll give my children what I never had, I’ll pave their way to success, I’ll take care of their problems,” and then they’re blindsided by their children’s utter helplessness when it comes to thriving in the real world, their inability to get and keep a job, even their unexpected run-ins with the law. What went wrong? This book solves the mystery. 
""The ugly truth parents need to face is that telling your children that they are perfect and shielding them from the consequences of their actions while insisting that every child gets a first-place trophy is not good parenting,"" says Coombs. You’re Perfect… is the urgent wake-up call that the parents of the “Me Generation” so desperately need, and the easy-to-implement information within its pages could change the course of millions of young lives for the better. 
You’re Perfect… is your crash course in real-world parenting and will teach you:
•  The dangers you may be exposing your child to
•  How to transform your child's self-entitlement into self-control
•  How to get your children to treat you with respect
•  The warning signs indicating your child is at risk for delinquency
•  How to tackle drug and alcohol problems
•  When to invade your child's privacy
Whether you’re holding a newborn in your arms or you’ve got an 18-year-old spiraling out of control, this is the guide every parent should have to be prepared for the unexpected and to protect their children from society’s dangerous pitfalls.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780985462741
Publisher: Bird Street Books
Publication date: 04/01/2013
Pages: 224
Product dimensions: 6.20(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.00(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

Loni Coombs has a unique and valuable perspective on parenting in today’s world. As a former prosecutor for the Los Angeles District Attorney’s Office, she saw family after family face the brutal reality that their child wasn’t as “perfect” as they so wanted to believe. She worked with parents of young people put into prison for everything from drug possession and theft to murder, and in so doing, developed a sincere passion for helping families avoid these tragic times. But what truly makes her message powerful is her ability, as a mother and stepmother herself, to convey heartfelt support and empathy for all parents.

Table of Contents

Part I: What is Happening to My Kid?
Chapter 1 – Your Child is at Risk and you Don’t Even Know It
Chapter 2 – You’re At Risk Too
Part II: The Principles – Building a New Life From the Inside
Chapter 3  - Starting at the Core
Chapter 4 – From Self-entitlement to Self-control
Chapter 5 – the Golden Rule of Respect
Chapter 6 – Listening to Your Children
Chapter 7 – Talking to Your Children
Chapter 8 – Better Kids Through Better Families
Part III: The Danger Zones – How to Protect Your Child from the Outside
Chapter 9 – Dealing with Drugs and Alcohol
Chapter 10 – The Perils of Technology
Chapter 11 – What to Do About Sex
Chapter 12 – When to Invade Your Child’s Privacy
Chapter 13 – If Your Child Gets Arrested…
Chapter 14 – Getting Expert Help
Chapter 15 – Could Your Child Be a Psychopath?
Part IV: What Do I Do When…?
Chapter 16 – Common Questions Parents Ask
Part V: Letting Go
Chapter 17 – The Launching Phase

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A balance of accountability, love, commitment and common sense. You're Perfect is a no-nonsense guide filled with essential information and practical tips all parents need to keep their children out of trouble and on the right track. A must have! —Lisa Boesky, Ph.D.,

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You're Perfect... and Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth about Spoiling Your Kids 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Should be required reading for all parents and parents to-be! 
SallyPinkReviews More than 1 year ago
Coombs offers an enlightened and common sense perspective to modern day parenting with "You're Perfect…and Other Lies Parents Tell."  It isn't easy parenting children in this modern day Internet savvy world. As a former DA for LA City, Coombs saw many troubled teenagers cross her path in the justice system. After identifying parenting "types," and "pitfalls," Coombs offers common sense advice for modern day parenting. A majority of today's parents are instilling a sense of entitlement along with a lack of empathy for others by making their children believe "it's all about them." This mentality will only cripple a child as they grow up. After identifying the problems, Coombs offers solutions. Her writing style is easy to read and understand. Her voice is honest and sincere, and it makes the book shine despite its controversial topic. It's not easy to hear we're not perfect, but it really is necessary for our children to understand so they grow into their potential as young adults. Coombs message is relevant for today's modern audience. With her unique perspective, Coombs will challenge you as a parent to take a long, hard look at your style and she'll help you with good solid advice. A must read, especially if you have children who challenge you and your authority. I highly recommend this book. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book really has great insight into what mistakes not to make with your kids, and what to do if you have already made them. Truly a book every parent should read, especially in our world today where everyone is a "winner" and the truth can never be told when mediocrity actually exists.