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Part One: Time to Get Better
Phase 1: Instant Analysis1. Why do I always stare at myself in the mirror?
2. Why do I feel the need to arrive early?
3. Why do I fantasize about saving people and coming to the rescue?
4. Why do I fantasize about having special powers like ESP or telepathy?
5. Why do I need to have the radio or TV on when I'm alone?
6. Why do some people annoy me so easily?
7. Why am I so absent minded?
8. Why am I so easily discouraged?
9. Why do I take so long to make simple decisions?
10. Why am I so reluctant to plan for the future?
11. Why do I put off things that would only take a few minutes to do?
12. Why do I have such difficulty disciplining myself?
13. Why do I feel I'd be happier and more productive with more structure in my life?
14. Why do I keep people waiting?
15. Why do I feel alone even when I'm around people?
16. Why do I rarely get a full tank of gas and then let it run on fumes before refilling?
17. Why do I misplace my keys, papers, and just about everything else?
18. Why am I so clumsy?
19. Why do I think about committing suicide even though I have no intention of doing it?
20. Why do I complicate the simplest things?
21. Why do I believe in fate and destiny?
22. Why am I so easily distracted?
23. Why do I think about acting totally inappropriately in public?
24. Why do I enjoy being angry?
25. Why do I do the stupidest things?
26. Why do I feel unloved?
27. Why would I rather help others than myself?
28. Why do I do favors for people I don't even like?
29. Why am I such a conformist?
30. Why am I so hard on myself?
31. Why does my behavior change depending on the behavior of others?
32. Why am I so competitive?
33. Why do I feel the need to control others?
34. Why do I secretly hope others will fail?
35. Why do I obsess over the littlest, stupidest things?
36. Why do I feel something bad will happen to me if something good happens?
37. Why do I look at my watch to see if I'm hungry or tired?
38. Why do I get a nagging feeling that I'm forgetting something?
39. Why do I live in constant fear of my loved ones being injured or killed?
40. Why am I so high-strung?
41. Why do I have trouble asking people for help?
42. Why do I act cruelly to people I care about?
43. Why do I attract the wrong type of person and stay in unhealthy relationships?
44. Why do I enjoy gossiping so much?
45. Why do I enjoy hearing the secrets and confessions of others?
46. Why am I plagued by self-doubt?
47. Why do I need to be reassured that I'm loved and cared about?
48. Why do compliments and praise make me uncomfortable?
49. Why do I feel guilty for things beyond my control?
50. Why do I apologize even when it's not my fault?
51. Why am I so superstitious?
52. Why am I so concerned about the opinions of other people?
53. Why don't I assert myself when I really need to?
54. Why do I feel as if nothing will ever make me happy?
55. Why is there so much disappointment in my life?
56. Why am I so quick to judge other people?
57. Why is it that the better things are going the worse I feel?
58. Why don't I do the things I know will make me happy?
59. Why do I feel that if I get anything of value, it will be taken away from me?
60. Why do I worry about things that will never happen or that I have no control over?
61. Why do I do something halfway when I know I'll just have to do it over again?
62. Why am I so afraid of authority?
63. Why do I feel emotionally drained even when there's nothing really going on?
64. Why do I jump to conclusions and read into things?
65. Why am I preoccupied with death?
66. Why do I have thoughts of finding myself in situations where I'm confused?
67. Why do I avoid responsibility?
68. Why am I so emotionally fragile?
69. Why am I such a loner?
70. Why do I wish I were sick or injured?
71. Why do I feel as if I've got the absolute worst luck?
72. Why do I feel like I'm "fooling" the world?
73. Why do I talk to myself?
74. Why do I spend a lot of time fantasizing and daydreaming?
75. Why do I routinely rationalize things in my life?
76. Why is it so hard for me to stop destructive habits?
77. Why do I undermine my own efforts?
78. Why do I feel unimportant/
79. Why do I dwell on negative thoughts?
80. Why do I eat when I'm not hungry?
81. Why don't I do more when I'm capable of so much?
82. Why am I obsessed with my appearance?
83. Why am I so reluctant to face reality?
84. Why can I take on the world some days, and other days I can barely get out of bed?
85. Why do I feel the need to compare myself with others?
86. Why do I do such terrible things even though I'm a good person?
87. Why am I so paranoid?
88. Why do I feel nobody