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Wishing your life were different doesn't make it so. If you want to live a life that you truly love, it takes deliberate and soul-searching work to figure out what you really want, why you don't already have it and what you're honestly willing to do to get it. Like a best friend dispensing more than a little tough love, Renaye wraps a sturdy arm around your shoulders, forces you to look in the mirror and says, "You can do this." And with a simple, practical step-by-step process, she shows you how. Discover what's been holding you back, and how to turn those limitations into life-transforming choices. Her guided coaching session shows you how to define your dream life and map out how to get it. The book also includes • detailed examples and instructions on how to create your own personal vision script and vision board • with anecdotes and concise, practical exercises • bonus chapter: What to do when you don't know what to do Whether it's a relationship, career, health or other challenge, you'll find the tools to stop tolerating what you need to change and start living a life you truly love.
I used to be the undisputed Queen of Denial. I was good, excellent even. When my husband and I divorced, most people were absolutely shocked. Not one person ever said, "Oh, we knew something was wrong." Nope. No one had any idea that all was not well in Happy Valley. We had "looked” like the perfect couple, living the perfect family life. I'd made sure of that. No matter what the real situation was, I put a chirpy spin on it. I had to. I had to slap on my own emotional duct tape and make myself believe the story so I could tell it convincingly to everyone else.
That creative storytelling skill served me well in the fiction-writing department, but not so well in the real world. Unlike in a novel, you can't control everything, and sooner or later, the truth will catch up with you. There will come a time when you can no longer deny reality and there will be a reckoning. There certainly was for me.
Preface ix
Introduction 1
1 What Are You "Willing to Do? 5
2 The Why 11
3 Just Love Yourself? 19
4 Carrots and Sticks 25
5 What's Behind the Mask? 33
6 Rip Off the Bandage 49
7 Follow the Yellow Brick Road 55
8 The Princess and the Rebel 65
9 Where's the Remote? 75
10 You Become Who Your Friends Are 83
11 The Family That Plays Together… 93
12 Judge, Jury and Jolly Jokers 103
13 13 Sanity-Saving Strategies 111
14 If It's Broken, Fix It 125
15 It's Okay, I Forgive You 135
16 Talk Isn't Cheap 145
17 Healthy Choices 157
18 If Only… 179
19 Money, Work and Lovin' It 189
20 15 Tough-Love Reminders 203
21 So, What Do You Want? 213
22 The Vision Board 227
23 The Vision Script 233
24 33 Tips for the Dips 247
Conclusion 267
Additional Resources 271
Anonymous
Posted December 12, 2012
Read this book. If you haven't, you should. If you are thinking about it, stop. Read it. It has what you need-Tools to grow, reminders to kick you in the bum when you need it and affirming things remember how fabulous you are!! REad IT, The end. Dr. Kendra
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Posted December 12, 2012
I know Paula Renaye from some previous dialogue, which in theory biases my comments. I suppose that would be true if it weren't for the fact that Paula does us a great service in Living the Life You Love...she challenges us... to face what’s been holding us back. That's a gift because most works in this genre propose overly simplistic solutions. That's unfortunate since significant human development always begins with facing hard truths. And Paula calls us to that place...with kindness and compassion...but unflinchingly.
Then she provides practical self-discovery tools to move forward. If you’re willing to do the work, this book lays out a path for tackling those intractable challenges that you might otherwise fail to overcome.
In the end, she tells us the truth based on her own experience. I can think of nothing more praiseworthy than that.
—Ron Chapman MSW, Facilitator, Coach and Speaker, Author of A Killer's Grace and Seeing True: Ninety Contemplations in Ninety Days
joreadsforfun
Posted October 18, 2012
I knew I needed to make changes, which is why I got this book. I am about halfway through and it has been an eye opener. I see myself in a lot of the stories, and I did not realize that I had beliefs that I had beliefs that were keeping me doing things even though I was not happy with how things always turned out. It sounds so obvious, but it was not at all and this book has helped me see what I have been doing to myself. What I really like is that after I have an ah-ha moment, I get real things to do about it like the self respect question, which is basically that if you had self esteem and self respect would you do that? I bought the book because it said it had guided coaching and workbook sections and I thought the structure would help me have something to follow and it does but it is much more than that. If you want to get to the bottom of why you are not happy and change it so you are then this is the book for you.
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Wishing your life were different doesn't make it so. If you want to live a life that you truly love, it takes deliberate and soul-searching work to figure out what you really want, why you don't already have it and what you're honestly willing to do to get it. Like a best friend dispensing more than a little tough love, Renaye wraps a sturdy arm around your shoulders, forces you to look in the mirror and says, "You can do this." And with a simple, practical step-by-step process, she shows you how. Discover what's...