Connie J. Kirkland
"What They Don't Teach Teens will help prevent sexual violence in relationships, friendships, peer groups, and communities."
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What They Don't Teach Teens: Life Safety Skills for Teens and the Adults Who Care for Them
by Jonathan Cristall Esq.
Narrated by Dawson Wood
Jonathan Cristall Esq.Unabridged — 9 hours, 54 minutes
What They Don't Teach Teens: Life Safety Skills for Teens and the Adults Who Care for Them
by Jonathan Cristall Esq.
Narrated by Dawson Wood
Jonathan Cristall Esq.Unabridged — 9 hours, 54 minutes
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The 21st-century guidebook of life safety skills for teens, their parents, and other caregivers, covering physical safety, sexual consent, social media, your rights with the police, situational awareness, dating violence, smartphones, and more. "Easy to read and comprehensive on topics of safety, Cristall's volume is an informative read for teens and their parents, but may also prove to be a helpful text for a high-school level health class." (Library Journal) Young people coming of age today face new risks, expectations, and laws that didn't exist when their parents were young. What They Don't Teach Teens provides teens, tweens, and young adults with up-to-date, realistic strategies to protect themselves against the pitfalls of modern adolescence. Author Jonathan Cristall, once a troubled teen himself and now a veteran prosecutor for the City of Los Angeles and a sexual violence prevention instructor, works extensively with teenagers and their families to teach physical, digital, emotional, and legal safety skills. Drawing on Cristall's hands-on experience, What They Don't Teach Teens gives parents and other caregivers techniques for talking to their children about these urgent issues. What They Don't Teach Teens gives sound advice on police interactions and personal safety (your constitutional rights, what to do/not do when stopped by the police while driving, situational awareness, street robberies, gun violence); sexual violence and misconduct (sexual consent, sexual harassment prevention, dating violence, sextortion); and staying safer online (digital footprint and citizenship, cyberbullying, underage sexting, online porn). A must-read for all families, What They Don't Teach Teens is filled with practical guidance, thoughtful insight, and simple-to-use tips and tactics that will empower young people to make good choices now and into the future.
Editorial Reviews
Kami Kosenko
"Jonathan Cristall's background, experience, and writing style makes him relatable and gives his voice credibility that teens will listen to."
Patti Giggans
"What They Don't Teach Teens is deep, impactful, and clearly conveys information about sexual and interpersonal violence that no young person should be without."
Ali Norman-Franks
"What They Don't Teach Teens is a wonderful way for school administrators and school counselors to start meaningful conversations with students. A book like no other that schools (and parents) have been longing for."
Jedidiah Bracy
"What They Don't Teach Teens provides outstanding guidance on digital decision making and is written in a way to make it accessible to any person, of almost any age, who wisely chooses to pick it up."
Elizabeth Englander
"Jonathan Cristall's book is designed to appeal directly to youth—to help them make healthy and safe choices, even when interacting with the police."
Dr. Cedric L. Alexander
"Jonathan Cristall provides not only great insight for how to best interface with the police, but is candid about racial injustice."
Bianca Fileborn
"What They Don't Teach Teens is an essential tool for young people, parents, and guardians in navigating the rocky terrains of street and digital safety, and sexual violence."
Glen Pounder
"Mr. Cristall's book exposes some of the most common methods perpetrators use to obtain child sexual abuse material by the exploitation of young people. His prevention techniques and tips are savvy, well explained, and will certainly keep tweens, teens, and young adults safer online and off."
Capri Maddox
"What They Don't Teach Teens provides incredible guidance to young people on issues of contemporary importance like policing and sexual violence prevention. Jonathan Cristall does so in a way that's not only comprehensive and realistic, but sensitive to the diverse backgrounds of those who may read it."
Kate Fogarty
"Critical and relatable information for teens and emerging adults navigating a complex world, including sexual violence, how to handle interactions with the police, and how to keep one's cyberpresence safe."
null Kate Fogarty
"Critical and relatable information for teens and emerging adults navigating a complex world, including sexual violence, how to handle interactions with the police, and how to keep one's cyberpresence safe."
null Capri Maddox
"What They Don't Teach Teens provides incredible guidance to young people on issues of contemporary importance like policing and sexual violence prevention. Jonathan Cristall does so in a way that's not only comprehensive and realistic, but sensitive to the diverse backgrounds of those who may read it."
null Elizabeth Englander
"Jonathan Cristall's book is designed to appeal directly to youth—to help them make healthy and safe choices, even when interacting with the police."
null Bianca Fileborn
"What They Don't Teach Teens is an essential tool for young people, parents, and guardians in navigating the rocky terrains of street and digital safety, and sexual violence."
null Kami Kosenko
"Jonathan Cristall's background, experience, and writing style makes him relatable and gives his voice credibility that teens will listen to."
null Dr. Cedric L. Alexander
"Jonathan Cristall provides not only great insight for how to best interface with the police, but is candid about racial injustice."
null Patti Giggans
"What They Don't Teach Teens is deep, impactful, and clearly conveys information about sexual and interpersonal violence that no young person should be without."
null Connie J. Kirkland
"What They Don't Teach Teens will help prevent sexual violence in relationships, friendships, peer groups, and communities."
null Glen Pounder
"Mr. Cristall's book exposes some of the most common methods perpetrators use to obtain child sexual abuse material by the exploitation of young people. His prevention techniques and tips are savvy, well explained, and will certainly keep tweens, teens, and young adults safer online and off."
null Ali Norman-Franks
"What They Don't Teach Teens is a wonderful way for school administrators and school counselors to start meaningful conversations with students. A book like no other that schools (and parents) have been longing for."
null Jedidiah Bracy
"What They Don't Teach Teens provides outstanding guidance on digital decision making and is written in a way to make it accessible to any person, of almost any age, who wisely chooses to pick it up."
Systemwide Director of Investigations at the Unive John Torres
"Jonathan's sage advice on avoiding violence is as good as anything I've come across after three decades in law enforcement."
former CIA officer and New York Times best-selling Jason Hanson
"As someone who has five kids and has been teaching safety for a living, I found this to be a great book for any parent and their teenage children. It's a book that will open up a door for discussion with your children about their safety."
Seattle Book Review
"An easy-to-read guide for teens and those who love them ... a great tool to work through alongside a teenager to talk through the information and real-world situations. This is a very valuable guide to tough topics that are relevant in the lives of young people. Highly recommended."
Cara Natterson
"Finally, a sourcebook covering the class that no school offers: what it takes to grow up safely in today's world."
Terry Evans
"What They Don't Teach Teens is just bursting with compelling information about social media and the use of digital technologies that all young people coming of age today must know."
Justin Patchin
"What They Don't Teach Teens: is a timely text that provides both parent and child alike with valuable information to identify and confront some of the most challenging teen issues of the day."
Children's Bookwatch
"Offers advice and admonitions for all kinds of situations, making for practical, valuable reading for navigating life's challenges."
From the Publisher
Gold Winner, IPBA Ben Franklin Awards, Best Parenting & Family Book
Gold Winner, NIEA Awards, Best Parenting & Family Book of 2020
Silver Winner, Foreword INDIES Awards, Family & Relationships
"Jonathan Cristall lays out exactly what teenagers, and their parents, need to know about how young people can protect their personal safety. Drawing on deep professional and personal experience, Cristall offers clear, compelling, and detailed guidance to help young people navigate complex interpersonal and legal situations—and does so while underscoring the importance of using common sense and exercising personal decency. HIGHLY RECOMMEND." —Lisa Damour, PhD, New York Times columnist and best-selling author of Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood
"Easy to read and comprehensive on topics of safety, Cristall's volume is an informative read for teens and their parents, but may also prove to be a helpful text for a high-school level health class." —Library Journal
"An easy-to-read guide for teens and those who love them ... a great tool to work through alongside a teenager to talk through the information and real-world situations. This is a very valuable guide to tough topics that are relevant in the lives of young people. Highly recommended." —Seattle Book Review
"As someone who has five kids and has been teaching safety for a living, I found this to be a great book for any parent and their teenage children. It's a book that will open up a door for discussion with your children about their safety."—Jason Hanson, former CIA officer and New York Times best-selling author of Spy Secrets That Can Save Your Life
"Finally, a sourcebook covering the class that no school offers: what it takes to grow up safely in today's world." —Cara Natterson, MD, New York Times best-selling author of The Care and Keeping of You series
"Jonathan's sage advice on avoiding violence is as good as anything I've come across after three decades in law enforcement." —John Torres, Systemwide Director of Investigations at the University of California Office of the President
"Critical and relatable information for teens and emerging adults navigating a complex world, including sexual violence, how to handle interactions with the police, and how to keep one's cyberpresence safe." —Kate Fogarty, PhD, Associate Professor, Department of Family, Youth, and Community Sciences, University of Florida
"What They Don't Teach Teens is deep, impactful, and clearly conveys information about sexual and interpersonal violence that no young person should be without." —Patti Giggans, Executive Director, Peace Over Violence
"What They Don't Teach Teens is a timely text that provides both parent and child alike with valuable information to identify and confront some of the most challenging teen issues of the day." —Justin Patchin, PhD, Professor of Criminal Justice, University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire and Co-Founder and Co-Director, Cyberbullying Research Center
"What They Don't Teach Teens is just bursting with compelling information about social media and the use of digital technologies that all young people coming of age today must know." —Terry Evans, CEO, Cybersleuth Investigations, Inc. and Fellow with the National Cybersecurity Institute at Excelsior College
"Jonathan Cristall's background, experience, and writing style makes him relatable and gives his voice credibility that teens will listen to." —Kami Kosenko, PhD, Associate Professor, Department of Communication, North Carolina State University
"What They Don't Teach Teens will help prevent sexual violence in relationships, friendships, peer groups, and communities." —Connie J. Kirkland, MA, NCC, CTTS, Director of Sexual Assault Services, Northern Virginia Community College
"What They Don't Teach Teens is an essential tool for young people, parents, and guardians in navigating the rocky terrains of street and digital safety, and sexual violence." —Bianca Fileborn, PhD, Lecturer in Criminology, University of Melbourne
"What They Don't Teach Teens is a wonderful way for school administrators and school counselors to start meaningful conversations with students. A book like no other that schools (and parents) have been longing for." —Ali Norman-Franks, Intervention Counselor, Beverly Hills High School
"Jonathan Cristall provides not only great insight for how to best interface with the police, but is candid about racial injustice." —Dr. Cedric L. Alexander, Past National President of the National Organization of Black Law Enforcement Executives, CNN Law Enforcement Analyst
"Jonathan Cristall's book is designed to appeal directly to youth—to help them make healthy and safe choices, even when interacting with the police." —Elizabeth Englander, PhD, Executive Director and founder of the Massachusetts Aggression Reduction Center at Bridgewater State University
"What They Don't Teach Teens provides incredible guidance to young people on issues of contemporary importance like policing and sexual violence prevention. Jonathan Cristall does so in a way that's not only comprehensive and realistic, but sensitive to the diverse backgrounds of those who may read it." —Capri Maddox, Esq., Executive Director, Los Angeles Department of Civil and Human Rights
"Mr. Cristall's book exposes some of the most common methods perpetrators use to obtain child sexual abuse material by the exploitation of young people. His prevention techniques and tips are savvy, well explained, and will certainly keep tweens, teens, and young adults safer online and off." —Glen Pounder, Chief Operating Officer, Child Rescue Coalition, Inc.
"What They Don't Teach Teens provides outstanding guidance on digital decision making and is written in a way to make it accessible to any person, of almost any age, who wisely chooses to pick it up." —Jedidiah Bracy, Editorial Director, International Association of Privacy Professionals (IAPP)
"Offers advice and admonitions for all kinds of situations, making for practical, valuable reading for navigating life's challenges." —Children's Bookwatch
Library Journal
05/01/2020
A veteran prosecutor and youth safety counselor, Cristall is uniquely qualified to write a book about keeping teens out of trouble. Cristall starts with the assertion that teens need to find safe people to help them no matter what situation they face, and gives advice to parents on how they can fulfill this role in their adolescent's life. The crucial legal topics are personal safety, dealing with police, sexual assault and consent, harassment, sextortion, teen dating violence, digital footprint and citizenship, data privacy, cyberbullying, and smartphone cameras. The end of each chapter contains a space for students to journal takeaways, bullet-list summaries, and take a "What Would You Do If It Happened to You?" quiz. VERDICT Easy to read and comprehensive on topics of safety, Cristall's volume is an informative read for teens and their parents, but may also prove to be a helpful text for a high-school level health class
Product Details
| BN ID: | 2940178906804 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Linden Publishing |
| Publication date: | 04/13/2021 |
| Edition description: | Unabridged |
Read an Excerpt
Can I End a Police Interaction? (Detentions versus Consensual Encounters)
Imagine you are on foot or in a vehicle and the police stop to question you. After a while, you haven’t been arrested and want the interaction to end. Should you just walk or drive away if you haven’t committed a crime? Of course not. Can the police keep you indefinitely without an arrest? No. So how are you supposed to know if you can leave? You ask.
As background, the police are allowed to detain you for investigation—which may or may not lead to your arrest—when they have reasonable suspicion that you may be engaged in criminal activity (and since I get this question all the time, if you’re being pulled over for a traffic stop, yes, you are being detained). While being detained, you are not free to leave for as long as is reasonably necessary for the police to conduct their investigation.
Other times, the police suspect that you might have done something wrong, but they don’t have the requisite “reasonable suspicion” needed to lawfully detain you for an investigation. So, in this situation, they chat you up to find out more. This interaction is known as a “consensual encounter.” In these encounters, the police will try to get you talking to determine whether you’ve committed a crime. Consensual encounters can evolve into a detention or an arrest based on things the person says or does.
Consensual encounters (which are voluntary) and detentions (which are not) often feel identical because you don’t know what the officer knows. The only way to find out whether it’s a consensual encounter and you are free to leave is to ask: “Am I free to go, officer, or am I being detained?”
If you’re being detained, you cannot leave. Most often, the officer will tell you why you’re being detained. If the officer doesn’t, you can ask for the reason. The bottom line: unless you are being detained or arrested, you have a right to terminate an encounter with the police.
Although the officer cannot lawfully prevent you from leaving during a consensual encounter, it is unlikely that you’ll be released without some sort of push-back. The officer may say, “I’m just trying to talk with you” or “What’s the problem? Have you done something that I should know about?” At that point, repeat the question, respectfully and patiently: “Am I free to go, officer, or am I being detained?”
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