"Family doctor and parenting expert Gilboa reassures readers that everyone struggles with parenting, and provides a primer for managing and coaching well-adjusted and well-behaved children, from preschool to middle school...Good behavior isn’t just expected from children; Gilboa addresses plenty of changes parents should make, including patient task delegation, and the importance of getting out of the way. Throughout, she employs topic-relevant “Ask Dr. G” call-outs to illustrate points and adds bold sub-heads that make for quick reading and concrete messaging." – Publisher’s Weekly
“On target and accessible... Aiming to 'change the conversations we are having about parenting,' Gilboa suggests that we as a culture need to get off the 'happiness hook.' Within that framework, the author covers such everyday issues as good manners, money and allowances, technology, playdates and sleepovers, and much more. Many chapters end with specific advice for targeted age groups, broken down into information for the parents of toddlers; preschoolers; and children aged five to seven, eight to ten, and 11 to 12 years old.” - Library Journal
“Dr. G's superb book is brimming with insights and practical, actionable, doable steps that parents can take to raise responsible, resilient children prepared to thrive in our unpredictable world. Her lighthearted delivery coupled with the gravity of her message make this a page turner. Imagine a real-deal parenting book that is fun to read... you've found it.” —Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS ED, author of Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Raising Kids with Roots and Wings
“Dr. G. doles out straightforward parenting advice for kids of all ages with her down-to-earth sense of humor and non-judgmental tone. This book is a breakthrough for any parent needing a little extra support along this crazy ride, making even the most insecure parent feel well taken care of rather than wracked with guilt. Thank you, Dr. G, for giving me the only book on parenting that I don't want to chuck out the window!” —Jill Smokler, New York Times bestselling author of Confessions of a Scary Mommy and founder of ScaryMommy.com
“This may well be the first parenting book ever that tells you what to do if the advice doesn't work! Truly comprehensive, humorous, and full of practical wisdom, Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate! will help put the day-to-day challenges of parenting into perspective, whether you've got toddlers or teens...If you want to get off the ‘happiness hook’ of trying to make your child a satisfied customer at every turn, and instead raise respectful, responsible, resilient human beings, then Dr. G’s tips and strategies are your parenting to-do list. As someone who has been a parent I hate from time to time, I highly recommend this book to parents-to-be, parents in crisis, and parents who just want to feel like they can make a difference in their children's lives.” —Deesha Philyaw, co-author of Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce
“In her new book, Dr. G. successfully, succinctly, and with a touch of humor answers the question on every parents' mind: ‘How can I give my kids what they need, while they whine for what they want?’ Her book is full of advice and practical how-to-tips...and I believe with it in hand, parents have a shot at achieving this goal.” —Estelle Erasmus, President, Board of Directors, Mothers & More, Huffington Post contributor, and contributor to What Do Mothers Need? Motherhood Activists and Scholars Speak out on Maternal Empowerment for the 21st Century
“As a travel nanny I work with all kinds of families and deal with all kinds of behavior. Parents want practical ideas to ‘get the job done,’ not a lot of philosophy. Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate delivers down-to-earth advice, examples, and clear guidelines. Dr. G makes it easy to identify your goals and how to accomplish them. And, I love that she breaks her advice down into age appropriate categories. You’ll use this book for years to come.” —Donna Robinson, The Traveling Nanny, 2008 Nanny of the Year
“An in-the-trenches primer of real live opportunities and situations told with humor and compassion by a woman who herself is raising 4 boys. From teaching table manners to the proper address of adults, chores to money management, and how to address boredom, aggression and those ‘life is not fair’ moments, Dr. G provides a wealth of practical observation, advice, and how-to suggestions. If the future you see for your children includes a successful launch as a young adult, and you are not sure how to get from here to there, pick up this book today. You won’t regret it.” —Kathy Webb, In-Home Childcare Expert and co-Founder, HomeWork Solutions, Inc.
08/01/2014
Family physician, mother of four, and media regular "Dr. G" gives parents realistic tips for reigning in misbehavior and running a household based on her three Rs: respect, responsibility, and resilience. Aiming to "change the conversations we are having about parenting," Gilboa suggests that we as a culture need to get off the "happiness hook." She further argues, "By giving our kids the ability to show respect for themselves and others, the responsibility inherent in a strong work ethic and the resilience to overcome hardship, we hand them the facility to find and make their own happiness for life." Within that framework, the author covers such everyday issues as good manners, money and allowances, technology, playdates and sleepovers, and much more. Many chapters end with specific advice for targeted age groups, broken down into information for the parents of toddlers; preschoolers; and children aged five to seven, eight to ten, and 11 to 12 years old. VERDICT Dr. G has a media presence that may generate patron requests, and while her advice here is nothing new, it is on target and accessible. Recommended for libraries needing an update to the discipline literature or else a solid purchase for patron demand.