I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids: What Parents Really Need to Break the Cycle
Parenting is hard, but it doesn't have to be this hard. How can we find inner peace, pass on less of our crap, and raise kids who know their worth?

Modern parents are overwhelmed. We want to raise confident, resilient kids—but we're exhausted, afraid we're messing things up, and yes, we're getting angrier than we'd like to admit. We've read the research, have followed the parenting advice, and still find ourselves yelling, bargaining, or shutting down. We want peace, but we're stuck in power struggles. We want connection, but we're blocked by childhood baggage. We want more support, but we don't know where to turn.

I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids is a compassionate, candid guide for parents who are ready to break the cycle. Journalist, author, and parent Tracy Cutchlow shares her journey from perfectionism and control toward emotional healing and strengths—based parenting. Blending neuroscience, psychology, and personal storytelling, she introduces the transformative Language of Listening® framework—a simple, powerful tool to shift from reaction to connection, from shame to self—compassion.

Through relatable anecdotes, practical strategies, and deep emotional insight, Cutchlow helps us understand our triggers, repair relationships, and raise children who feel seen, heard, and valued. If you've ever whispered, "I can't do this," this book will meet you with empathy, wisdom, and the radical reassurance that you're not alone.

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I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids: What Parents Really Need to Break the Cycle
Parenting is hard, but it doesn't have to be this hard. How can we find inner peace, pass on less of our crap, and raise kids who know their worth?

Modern parents are overwhelmed. We want to raise confident, resilient kids—but we're exhausted, afraid we're messing things up, and yes, we're getting angrier than we'd like to admit. We've read the research, have followed the parenting advice, and still find ourselves yelling, bargaining, or shutting down. We want peace, but we're stuck in power struggles. We want connection, but we're blocked by childhood baggage. We want more support, but we don't know where to turn.

I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids is a compassionate, candid guide for parents who are ready to break the cycle. Journalist, author, and parent Tracy Cutchlow shares her journey from perfectionism and control toward emotional healing and strengths—based parenting. Blending neuroscience, psychology, and personal storytelling, she introduces the transformative Language of Listening® framework—a simple, powerful tool to shift from reaction to connection, from shame to self—compassion.

Through relatable anecdotes, practical strategies, and deep emotional insight, Cutchlow helps us understand our triggers, repair relationships, and raise children who feel seen, heard, and valued. If you've ever whispered, "I can't do this," this book will meet you with empathy, wisdom, and the radical reassurance that you're not alone.

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I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids: What Parents Really Need to Break the Cycle

I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids: What Parents Really Need to Break the Cycle

by Tracy Cutchlow
I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids: What Parents Really Need to Break the Cycle

I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids: What Parents Really Need to Break the Cycle

by Tracy Cutchlow

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Parenting is hard, but it doesn't have to be this hard. How can we find inner peace, pass on less of our crap, and raise kids who know their worth?

Modern parents are overwhelmed. We want to raise confident, resilient kids—but we're exhausted, afraid we're messing things up, and yes, we're getting angrier than we'd like to admit. We've read the research, have followed the parenting advice, and still find ourselves yelling, bargaining, or shutting down. We want peace, but we're stuck in power struggles. We want connection, but we're blocked by childhood baggage. We want more support, but we don't know where to turn.

I Was Never Angry Before I Had Kids is a compassionate, candid guide for parents who are ready to break the cycle. Journalist, author, and parent Tracy Cutchlow shares her journey from perfectionism and control toward emotional healing and strengths—based parenting. Blending neuroscience, psychology, and personal storytelling, she introduces the transformative Language of Listening® framework—a simple, powerful tool to shift from reaction to connection, from shame to self—compassion.

Through relatable anecdotes, practical strategies, and deep emotional insight, Cutchlow helps us understand our triggers, repair relationships, and raise children who feel seen, heard, and valued. If you've ever whispered, "I can't do this," this book will meet you with empathy, wisdom, and the radical reassurance that you're not alone.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9798889837992
Publisher: Augsburg Fortress, Publishers
Publication date: 08/25/2026
Pages: 320
Product dimensions: 5.75(w) x 8.75(h) x (d)

About the Author

Tracy Cutchlow is an award—winning journalist and author of the international bestseller Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science. She is an advocate for connection—based parenting whose writing has appeared in publications from The Huffington Post to The Washington Post. She served on the board of PEPS, Seattle's largest parent—support organization, and is a founding advisory board member of the Children's Screen Time Action Network in Boston. She is an authorized Language of Listening® coach. She lives in Seattle with her husband and their teenage daughter.

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