8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

by Jay Shetty

Overview

Notes From Your Bookseller

This is a guide to love that is refreshingly free of any manipulatory techniques, so if you're looking for pickup lines or ways to change yourself to please others you won't find them here. 8 Rules of Love is a clear, non-judgemental road map for every aspect of romantic love, from the author of the bestselling Think Like a Monk.

The author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk offers a revelatory guide to every stage of romance, drawing on ancient wisdom and new science.

Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now.

Instead of presenting love as an ethereal concept or a collection of cliches, Jay Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love better than ever before. He shares insights on how to win or lose together, how to define love, and why you don’t break in a break-up. Inspired by Vedic wisdom and modern science, he tackles the entire relationship cycle, from first dates to moving in together to breaking up and starting over. And he shows us how to avoid falling for false promises and unfulfilling partners.

By living Jay Shetty’s eight rules, we can all love ourselves, our partner, and the world better than we ever thought possible.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781982183066
Publisher:	Simon & Schuster
Publication date:	01/31/2023
Pages:	320
Sales rank:	553
Product dimensions:	6.10(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

Jay Shetty is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, award-winning storyteller, podcast host, and former monk, dedicated to helping people train their mind for peace and purpose every day. In 2017, Forbes named him to their 30 Under 30 List for his game-changing impact in media. His viral videos have been viewed more than 10 billion times and he is followed by over 50 million people across social media. In 2019, Jay created On Purpose, now the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. He’s been a keynote speaker around the world, invited to Google, Microsoft, Netflix and American Express, among many others. Over two million people have attended his Online School, and his Genius Coaching community provides weekly programming on health and wellness to thousands of members in over 100 countries.

Editorial Reviews

12/12/2022

Former Vedic monk Shetty follows up Think Like a Monk with a refreshing look at love as a daily practice. Drawing on wisdom from ancient Hindu scripture (the Vedas) and his own life, Shetty sets up love as a conscious effort, rather than a gift that arrives fully formed, and explains it using the four stages of life outlined by the Vedas. “Solitude” allows space for reflection that will aid in bringing self-knowledge to a relationship. This enables a more effective “compatibility” stage, in which partners assess whether their romantic expectations align. “Healing” promotes a deeper understanding of forgiveness, while “connection” captures the “highest expression of love”—namely using it to serve others. Shetty’s intuitive rules (“Win or lose together”; “You don’t break in a breakup”) are insightful and easy to parse, and the abundant exercises reinforce key takeaways, such as identifying one’s “biggest growth area.” Shetty combines spiritual wisdom and down-to-earth guidance in a surprisingly seamless way, making for lessons that have real staying power. Those looking to start or strengthen relationships will find this well worth a look. (Jan.)

Publishers Weekly

"[A] refreshing look at love as a daily practice...Shetty combines spiritual wisdom and down-to-earth guidance in a surprisingly seamless way, making for lessons that have real staying power. Those looking to start or strengthen relationships will find this well worth a look." —Publisher's Weekly

“An excellent guide to rising in love to joy and fulfillment.” —Deepak Chopra

“In this insightful, myth-shattering book, Jay Shetty combines ancient wisdom and modern science to show how we can find — in ourselves and others — the love we all deserve.”—Lori Gottlieb

"Jay's ability to write with such truth and wisdom when it comes to love and life is masterful. Somehow a topic that has always felt larger than I could handle now feels within reach. This book left me feeling confident and clear about how to move through Love with grace." —Shawn Mendes

"Jay’s great book provides real and heartfelt solutions to the complex problems that arise around love. I wish I’d been able to read it when I was young and chasing love and I’m grateful I’ve read it now - you will be too." —Russell Brand

"This is not a book of pick up lines or dos and don'ts of dating. 8 Rules of Love is honest and filled with wisdom I've never encountered before. The next time you're tempted to ask your hot mess friend for relationship advice, pick this book up instead." —Lilly Singh

From the Publisher

02/10/2023

Instagram influencer, podcaster, and keynote speaker Shetty (Think Like a Monk) is best known for his health and wellness advice in relationships. In his book, he tells readers about how his three years as a monk, studying the Vedas—ancient Hindu scriptures— helped him understand the stages and processes of intentional love. Shetty draws from the four Vedic ashrams or classrooms: preparing for love; practicing love; protecting love; and perfecting love. He then breaks these down into the eight cumulative rules intended to help people approach love. The author does so in a way that helps readers understand how they need to be loved and how their partner needs to be loved, helping them to unlearn what fairy tales and stereotypes tell us that love should be and how to navigate the imperfections of real love and relationships. VERDICT Shetty's many Instagram fans will be eager to get their hands on this book. Readers who aren't familiar with the author will be drawn in by his experiences and wisdom and his easygoing, relatable approach to love in all of its forms.

Library Journal