Am I Making Myself Clear?: Secrets of the World's Greatest Communicators

Am I Making Myself Clear?: Secrets of the World's Greatest Communicators

by Terry Felber


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Am I Making Myself Clear?: Secrets of the World's Greatest Communicators by Terry Felber

In Am I Making Myself Clear?, business leader and author Terry Felber shares the secrets of the world's greatest communicators, equipping readers to do everything from participating in a meaningful conversation to successfully consummating a business discussion. Through ten essential skills, including such concepts as the Art of Unspoken Language, the Art of Encouragement, and the Art of Problem Solving, he shows readers how to achieve real communication. With its practical and easy-to-follow insights, Am I Making Myself Clear? is an invaluable resource for managers, couples, and parents seeking to improve their personal and professional relationships and chart a course for success.

"Good communication is the foundation of all healthy relationships. Am I Making Myself Clear? examines this subject in a simple and articulate fashion. This in-depth study is important reading for everyone who wants to enrich their family, social, and business interactions." —Ron Puryear, Worldwide Group

"Am I Making Myself Clear? defines in a clear and concise way the elements that are key to successful communication. The illustrations and 'power points' in the text create an easy-to-read classic on this subject." —Bill Britt, Trinity Motivation

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780849991059
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 07/15/2008
Pages: 160
Sales rank: 373,589
Product dimensions: 5.00(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Terry Felber speaks regularly to business groups of 15,000 people. Felber has been on the International Board of Advisors for Amway Corporation.

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Am I Making Myself Clear?

Secrets of the World's Greatest Communicators
By Terry Felber

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2007 Terry Felber
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-7852-6434-7

Chapter One

The Art of Communication

There may be no single thing more important in our efforts to achieve meaningful work and fulfilling relationships than to learn to practice the art of communication. -Max De Pree, Leadership Is an Art

Abraham Lincoln is considered by many to have been the greatest American president. Winston Churchill has been regarded as the most inspiring English statesman in history. Johannes Gutenberg has been named one of the most influential men of the last millennium. And Mother Teresa is recognized the world over as an outstanding humanitarian.

What has made the lives of these individuals so different? What is it about these persons that has set them apart? Certainly it is a combination of many factors, including passion, determination, faith, circumstances, and a positive attitude.

But there is something else-a "something" rare and yet available to everyone on Earth-that turned a gangly lawyer into a world leader, changed a stuttering adolescent into a catalyst for allied peace, enabled a simple newspaperman to transform the way the world thinks, and helped a frail woman give hope to thousands.

That special "something" is the lost art of communication.

This is more than simply talking to another person. The art of communication is the dance that we have with others. It involves our words, our actions, and our intentions. It is a two-way dynamic that relies on our vigilantly watching and reading the other person in order to determine the next step. The individuals listed above all engaged in this dance, and because they did they were able to deliver their incredible gifts to the world.

A new generation of world-changers is alive today. Every one of us, including you and me, has been placed here on Earth with a special set of talents and insights that can benefit people. Don't let yourself be content to rock away your best years with drifting thoughts of what life "could have been." Grab hold of your destiny!

If we could only communicate our ideas well, our world would dramatically improve: Our jobs would become more satisfying, our bank accounts would grow, our marriages would be happier, our families would be healthier, our minds would be sharper, and our overall quality of life would be brighter.

As you read this book, I invite you to enroll in the School of Communication. As you determine not only to study these principles but also to actually apply them, I guarantee that your life will change for the better.

You're a good candidate if:

you're a parent who would value more meaningful conversation with your teenager.

you're a wife who would enjoy more time and attention from your spouse.

you're a salesman who wants to close the next deal.

you're a husband who would like more affection and zest in your marriage.

you're a student who hopes to have your choice of jobs after graduation.

you're an employer who would like to cut turnover.

you want to be the person God made you to be!

This book will teach you the significance of what you say and how you say it. If you embrace and practice the skills taught in this book, your life will be transformed. The possibilities for fulfilling your potential will be limitless. Not only will you have ideas that can change the world, but also you'll have the skills to communicate them.

We've all seen the results of poor or inaccurate communication:

poor instructions-a failed exam

poor posture-a lost job opportunity

poor listening-a rejected sales offer

I love this true story of professional golfer Tommy Bolt who, while playing in Los Angeles, had a caddy with the reputation for constant chatter. Before they teed off, Bolt told him, "Don't say a word. If I ask you something, just answer 'yes' or 'no.'" During the round Bolt found the ball next to a tree. He was going to have to hit the ball under a branch and over a lake to land it onto the green. He got down on his knees and looked through the trees to size up the shot.

"What do you think?" he asked the caddy. "Five-iron?"

"No, Mr. Bolt," the caddy answered.

"What do you mean? Not a five-iron?" Bolt snorted.

The caddy rolled his eyes. "No-o-o, Mr. Bolt."

Bolt hit the ball with the five-iron, anyway, and the ball stopped about two feet from the hole. He turned to his caddy, handed him the club, and said, "What do you think about that? You can talk now."

"Mr. Bolt," the caddy replied, "that wasn't your ball."

That's the way life seems to work sometimes, doesn't it? Breakdowns in communication are all too common. The primary reason families struggle is poor communication. USA Today recently published the eye-opening results of a study on teenagers and stress. When the teens surveyed were asked where they turn for help in times of crisis, their most popular choice was music, second was peers, and third was TV. Amazingly, moms were number thirty-one on the list and dads were number forty-eight. These teenagers obviously experience little ability to connect with their parents in a meaningful way.

According to another survey, married couples have nothing to talk about after only eight years of marriage. Professor Hans Jurgens asked 5,000 German husbands and wives how often they talked to each other. After two years of marriage, most of them managed two or three minutes of chat over breakfast, twenty minutes over the evening meal, and a few minutes more in bed. By the sixth year, this was down to ten minutes a day. A state of "almost total speechlessness" was reached after the eighth year of marriage.

There is the account of a woman who went to a lawyer saying that she wanted to divorce her husband. The lawyer asked, "Do you have any grounds?" The woman said, "Yes, we have nearly three acres." He said, "No, ma'am, you don't understand. I mean do you have a grudge?" She said, "We most certainly do; it's a three-car garage." The lawyer tried again. "Maybe I'm not being specific enough. Does your husband beat you up?" The woman said, "No, I generally get up a half-hour before he does." By now the lawyer was frustrated. He said, "What I need to know, ma'am, is why you want a divorce." "Oh," she said, "that's easy. My husband just doesn't know how to communicate."

Other surveys tell us that over 80 percent of the problems people encounter at work are related to a breakdown in communication. Think of it: If we could just discover the secret to successful communication, we could avoid 80 percent of the challenges that occur in our professional lives.

The twenty-first century is alive with technology. There are more and faster means of communication today than ever before. We can send e-mails across the world in seconds. We can phone our friends from the tops of mountains. We can connect live via video to people thousands of miles away. And yet the chasm between our current situation and our future opportunities seems to grow bigger and bigger. In spite of these incredible tools of communication, we have failed to learn the art of communication.

My hope is that this book will build a bridge between where you are today and where you want to be. As you read this book, you will see POWER POINTS set apart in each chapter. These are specific "nuggets" of information that can be applied to your communication arsenal for immediate results. I encourage you to highlight these points and to practice them in everyday situations.


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Table of Contents

Chapter 1The Art of Communication1
Chapter 2The Art of Unspoken Language9
Chapter 3The Art of Appearance25
Chapter 4The Art of Valuing Others39
Chapter 5The Art of Listening51
Chapter 6The Art of Conversation59
Chapter 7The Art of Authenticity73
Chapter 8The Art of Encouragement89
Chapter 9The Art of Problem Solving101
Chapter 10The Art of NLP113
Chapter 11The Art of Self-Talk123
About the Author141

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Am I Making Myself Clear?: Secrets of the World's Greatest Communicators 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 6 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
What a refreshingly concise book! I love the "Power Points" that I can go back and review when I need a tune up! I highly recommend this book for anyone interested in having the tools for a better marriage as well as greater success in relating with people at work or in business.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Exceptional book on communication.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Easy to read, to the point; a solid lesson and reminder in how (with why) we should be aware of our attitude toward interaction with others. I will read this book again.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Terry was my seatmate from Colorado Springs to Salt Lake City, Utah. When he noticed that I was reading 'How to win Friends..' by Dale Carnegie, he suggested that I might like 'Am I Making Myself Clear?' Only later in the flight did I learn that he was the author. I insisted on paying him for the book and have already given my well read copy to a close friend. I probably will be many more copies. Jack Selway, Pueblo, CO
Guest More than 1 year ago
I thought 'Am I Making Myself Clear' was interesting, easy to read, funny and informative. The lessons taught in this book are extremely important. Anyone who reads this book will greatly enhance their life and their business.