Blended and Redeemed: The Go-To Field Guide for the Modern Stepfamily

by Scott Martindale, Vanessa Martindale

Overview

THE DIVORCE RATE FOR BLENDED FAMILIES IS 70%.

BUT WHEN YOU DO IT GOD’S WAY, YOU HAVE A 100% CHANCE OF SUCCESS!

 

Couples in blended—or “step”—families often feel misunderstood, even in the church. They struggle with complicated child behavioral issues, battle-pitched custody fights, and difficulty finding unity in co-parenting. Emotions such as guilt, shame, fear, or isolation threaten to overwhelm them. Now is the time for these families to feel heard, helped, and healed.

 

In Blended and Redeemed, blended family experts, coaches, and therapists Scott and Vanessa Martindale go where few dare to venture—into the minefield of today’s blended families. You will learn how to:

 

·  Defend your new marriage from old wounds and the enemy’s schemes

·  Turn strangers into siblings through intentional and intelligent blending

·  Work and communicate effectively with your ex-spouse as co-parents

·  Navigate the fiery furnace of custody litigation

·  Bring glory to God and inform the church about your messy and beautifully unique blended family

 

Designed for pastors, church leaders, individuals or group studies, Blended and Redeemed will become your new go-to field guide for the modern stepfamily!

 

Companion Study Guide Sold Separately.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781950113798
Publisher:	XO Publishing
Publication date:	09/13/2022
Pages:	304
Sales rank:	635,354
Product dimensions:	6.30(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Scott and his wife, Vanessa, have been married over 8 years and founded Blended Kingdom Families, a ministry that is committed to breaking the generational cycle of divorce, equipping marriages, and educating blended families with resources and practical skills through the truth of God's word. Scott and Vanessa are a blended family with four sons and four golden retrievers and live in Southlake, TX.

Vanessa is a wife and mother as well as a passionate lover of Jesus, His Word, and His people. A registered nurse for more than five years, she has a heart to serve those in their most vulnerable seasons of life. Birthed out of a desire to see God work in marriages and families, Vanessa is pursuing a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at The King’s University. She is called to help people discover their Kingdom purpose and find true freedom through deeper intimacy with Jesus. Vanessa loves being a wife to Scott and a mom to her boys. Watching her boys’ sporting games, decorating for every holiday, and dancing for Jesus are her favorite pastimes!

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xvii

Foreword Jimmy Evans xxi

Chapter 1 Refined in Fire 01

Chapter 2 The Church and Blended Families 23

Chapter 3 Three Priorities for a Healthy Marriage 51

Chapter 4 A Marriage Reflecting God 89

Chapter 5 The False Promise of Inner Vows 115

Chapter 6 Blending Your Bunch 143

Chapter 7 Parenting and Co-Parenting 173

Chapter 8 Facing New Family Challenges Together 201

Chapter 9 Litigation: Your New, Least-Favorite Hobby 229

Chapter 10 Blended Families, God's Redemption 257

About the Authors 277

Editorial Reviews

In Blended and Redeemed, Scott and Vanessa chart a path for remarried couples around the hazards that can often sidetrack blended families. They take the idea of redemption seriously. You’ve likely heard divorced families referred to as “broken homes,” but I love how Scott and Vanessa show how homes built on the foundation of Jesus are never truly “broken.” You may have needed repairs from time to time, but you are not broken. Nor is your spouse. And together, both of you are in the hands of a Master Builder. He’s ready to make repairs and rearrange the broken pieces into something beautiful.”

 

-Jimmy Evans, Founder, XO Marriage

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