Building Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World that Misunderstands Males

Building Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World that Misunderstands Males

by Jennifer L. W. Fink
Building Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World that Misunderstands Males

Building Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World that Misunderstands Males

by Jennifer L. W. Fink


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Offers parents tips and tools to help boys move beyond persistent gender stereotypes to full humanity.

We want to raise well-rounded human beings—we're just not quite sure how best to do it. Confounded by rapidly changing gender norms, today’s parents are attempting to raise kind, compassionate, emotionally sensitive boys in a society that simultaneously rewards stereotypical masculinity and is increasingly hostile to boys. Surrounded by messages of female empowerment, young boys ask their parents, “Why don’t they ever say that boys can be anything they want to be?” Teaching boys to respect others will help them in the future—but can make life awfully difficult in the here and now. Making the world a safer place for women and girls is not the only reason to rethink our boy raising practices. Current culture harms our boys too—and they need (and deserve) as much support as girls and women.

Building Boys is written by an in-the-trenches #boymom who intimately understands male development and the challenges currently facing boys and their families. Fink offers ten rules that parents can use to guide their parenting choices throughout their sons’ lives—guidelines that are as relevant to parenting toddlers as they are to parenting teenagers. These rules range from emphasizing emotional intelligence to letting your son struggle and ultimately accepting him as he is. Fink explains both the science and research behind each rule as well as stories and anecdotes from families, including her own. Parents are taught how to apply the rule to a variety of common parenting challenges. And because these rules are broad, they are as applicable to boys with ADHD, autism and learning challenges are they are to neurotypical boys.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781538159552
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc.
Publication date: 04/04/2023
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 537,819
Product dimensions: 5.95(w) x 8.53(h) x 0.83(d)

About the Author

Jennifer L.W. Fink has been parenting boys for two decades. An award-winning freelance journalist, she is the author of the book The First-Time Mom’s Guide to Raising Boys: Practical Advice for Your Son’s Formative Years. She’s also the founder and creator of, a website and global community for parents of boys, and co-host of the podcast ON BOYS: Real Talk about Parenting, Teaching, & Reaching Tomorrow’s Men. She lives in Wisconsin with her family.

Table of Contents

Introduction Chapter 1 Learn the Terrain Chapter 2 Emphasize Emotional Intelligence Chapter 3 Discuss and Demonstrate Healthy Relationships Chapter 4 Let Him Struggle Chapter 5 Help Him Find and Develop His Talents Chapter 6 Give Him Time Chapter 7 Challenge Him with Chores and Caregiving Chapter 8 Keep Him Close Chapter 9 Connect Him to the Real World Chapter 10 Accept Him as He Is Appendix Acknowledgments Notes Index About the Author
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