Table of Contents
Foreword Carmen Farina viii
Acknowledgments xi
Introduction: When Things Don't Feel Quite Right, We Can Do Better xiv
"His Behavior Is No Longer Our Problem" xv
Reflection: What Troubles Me About My Classroom Management? xviii
Chapter 1 Who Am I? Who Are My Students? 1
Teacher and Student Demographics 2
Understanding Our Responses to Race and Gender 3
Color-Blindness 4
White Guilt 5
Lack of Perspective 5
Fear 5
Teacher-Student Relationships 5
Reflection: What Do I Know About My Students? 7
How to Build More Positive Teacher-Student Relationships 9
Learn About Your Students' Lives Outside of School 9
Use What You Learn About Students to Grow a Connection
Show Children That You Will Keep Them Safe 11
Show Students Who Are Having a Hard Time That You Care and Are Available 12
Spend Nontraditional Academic Time or Nonacademic Time with Students 12
Validate Their Feelings 13
Speak with Positivity and Compassion 13
Chapter 2 What do I Want for My students? 15
Reflection: What Behavior Do I Expect from Other Adults? 18
Social-Emotional Competencies 20
How Should Child Development Inform Our Expectations? 22
How to Identify Social-Emotional Learning: Continuum Tool 25
SOAR SEL Continuum 28
Rewards and Consequences Don't Work 34
Chapter 3 How Do I Set boundaries and teach expectations? 38
Any Expected Behavior Must Be Taught 40
How to Teach Expected Behaviors Through Classroom Rules and Procedures 42
Imagine the Procedure: What Should It Look Like, Sound Like? 43
Co-create Rules with Your Students 45
Follow Through: Remind, Reinforce, and Redirect 46
How to Communicate Emotional Objectivity 53
Extending Emotional Objectivity to Teachers 53
Reflection: How Can I Evaluate My Emotional Objectivity? 59
Chapter 4 Why Do Children Misbehave And How Should I Respond? 61
The Cause for Misbehavior Matters 62
When Misbehavior Occurs, Offer a Positive Choice 64
How to Respond to Misbehavior: A Change-Over-Time Approach 64
Reflection: How Can Inquiry Inform My Response to Misbehavior? 68
Formalizing Peer Feedback 70
Suspensions Don't Work-and Aren't Fair 74
Chapter 5 How Can instruction help students practice and reflect on Behavior? 77
Our Academic Lives Promote Specific Behaviors 78
How to Create Instruction That Develops the Learner 80
High Expectations 81
Opportunities for Active Engagement 81
Scaffolded Support 82
Just-Right Challenges 83
Opportunities for Social Interaction 84
Reflection: What Opportunities Does My Instruction Offer Students? 92
Control What You Can 94
Conclusion: Defining Responsibility 95
References 99