Compassionate Child-Rearing: An In-Depth Approach to Optimal Parenting

Compassionate Child-Rearing: An In-Depth Approach to Optimal Parenting


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In this work, Dr. Firestone develops the theory and underlying dynamics involved in disturbed family relationships and the "poisonous pedagogy" that characterizes generally accepted patterns of child-rearing. The author expands on the descriptions of the traditional abuses of children previously offered by Alice Miller, R.D. Laing, James Garbarino, and others. He describes a process through which parents can uncover and work through ambivalent feelings toward their children, to gain a more compassionate view of themselves and of their children.

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ISBN-13: 9780967668420
Publisher: Glendon Association
Publication date: 12/28/1990
Pages: 392
Product dimensions: 6.05(w) x 9.05(h) x 0.95(d)

Table of Contents

Part IGeneral Theory
Chapter 1Overview3
Chapter 2The Fantasy Bond in Couple and Family Relationships19
Chapter 3The Core Conflict in Parents: Hunger versus Love41
Chapter 4Parental Defenses and How They Are Transmitted61
Chapter 5The Concept of the "Voice" and the Cycle of Child Abuse81
Chapter 6Typical Abuses in Childhood and Their Effects on the Adult Personality101
Chapter 7Idealization of Parents at the Child's Expense123
Chapter 8The Mother-Daughter Bond143
Part IIChild-Rearing Techniques
Chapter 9General Philosophy of Child-Rearing169
Chapter 10Discipline and Socialization185
Chapter 11A New Model for Family Interactions203
Chapter 12Fostering Positive Parental Attitudes toward Sex221
Chapter 13Establishing a Pragmatic Approach to the Sexual Development of Children239
Part IIITherapeutic Interventions
Chapter 14Historical Development of Our Approach to Child-Rearing257
Chapter 15Therapeutic Approach to Parenting Groups: Preventive Psychotherapy275
Chapter 16The Value of Selective Separation as a Psychotherapeutic Intervention293
Chapter 17A Summary Plea: Preserving the Humanness of the Child317
Appendix ADocumentary Videotapes on Interpersonal Relationships and Psychotherapy331
Appendix BContinuum of Negative Thought Patterns333

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