Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy

Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy

by Andrew P. Smiler


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Bronze Medal Winner for Young Adult Nonfiction, 2016 Foreword INDIES Book Awards

Silver award winner in the Eureka! Children's Nonfiction Awards

2017 National Indie Excellence Award Winner for Young Adult Nonfiction

Best Typographic Cover and Best in Show in Washington Book Publisher’s Design and Effectiveness Awards

"There’s a good chance you’ve had the “sex talk” with your parents. Or not. Or learned about human reproduction in health class. Or maybe you’ve heard a lot about dating, sex, and relationships from friends, movies, and surfing online. So you are all set, right? Maybe…. But everything you think you know and everything you really want to know is inside this book."

Written for teen boys, Dating and Sex provides them with the knowledge they need to understand dating, relationships, and sex. It goes beyond basic descriptions of biological processes with a progressive, practical approach that relies on secular ethics and emphasizes sexual health and personal responsibility.

The book addresses common questions like:
  • What’s a hook-up?
  • How do I know if someone likes me?
  • Can I masturbate too much?
  • How do I know if I am ready for sex?
  • How do I know what my sexual orientation is?
  • Why is it important to get and give consent?
  • ​How can I make a relationship last for more than a couple days?
The perfect book for helping teen boys understand both themselves and the complexity of the sexual world around them.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781433820458
Publisher: American Psychological Association
Publication date: 09/05/2016
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 172,743
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)
Age Range: 13 - 18 Years

About the Author

Andrew Smiler, PhD, is a therapist and author residing in Winston-Salem NC. Dr. Smiler holds a PhD in Developmental Psychology from the University of New Hampshire and a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Towson University. Dr. Smiler is the author of “Challenging Casanova: Beyond the stereotype of the promiscuous young male” (Jossey-Bass/Wiley) and co-author, with Chris Kilmartin, of the best-selling Men’s Studies textbook “The Masculine Self” (5th ed.., Sloan publishing). He has authored more than 20 journal articles and book chapters relating to boys, men, sexual development, and identity issues. Dr. Smiler is a regular contributor to the Good Men Project and has also written for The Shriver Report, Role/Reboot, Huffington Post, and Everyday Feminism, among other venues. Dr. Smiler is an associate editor for the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity. He was president of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity in 2011, and currently serves as the chair of their communications and media committee. Visit Dr. Smiler at and follow him on Facebook: @Andrew.IrwinSmiler and Twitter: @AndrewSmiler

Table of Contents

Introduction 3

Frequently Asked Questions 9

Chapter 1 Dating and Hooking Up 15

Chapter 2 Asking Someone Out 35

Chapter 3 Making Love Last: How to Have a Long-Term Relationship 55

Chapter 4 Dating and Being Sexual: Private Relationships and Public Knowledge 77

Chapter 5 Consent: Giving It and Receiving It 93

Chapter 6 Solo Sex: Being Sexual With Yourself 117

Chapter 7 Partnered Sex: Being Sexual With Someone Else 135

Chapter 8 Being Sexual and Being Safe: Protecting Yourself and Your Partner 163

Chapter 9 Realities and Stereotypes: Gender Roles and Sexual Orientation 189

Chapter 10 Looking Good: Body and Appearance 215

Chapter 11 Puberty: Physical and Personal 233

Resources 253

References 261

Index 277

Acknowledgments 285

About the Author 287

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