Table of Contents
Preface ix
Introduction: Why Is Parenting So Stressful? xi
1 What to Do: How a Healthy Mind S.E.T.® Prevents Toxic Stress 1
2 What Not to Do: How Unhealthy Discipline Creates Toxic Stress 9
3 How to Use This Book 15
4 Encouraging Reminders 19
5 Teaching Tools That Build Emotionally Strong Children 21
6 Behavior Problems and Solutions 25
Acts Shyly 25
Aggressive Behavior/Hurting Others: Hitting, Biting, and Bullying 30
Bad Manners 38
Car Travel Conflicts 43
Climbs 48
Clings to Parents / Separation Anxiety 52
Curses and Swears, Uses "Bad Words" 58
Dawdles 62
Destroys Property 66
Eats Too Much 71
Fights Cleanup Routines: Bathing and Diapering 77
Gets into Everything 82
Interrupts 87
Jealous 91
Lies 96
Name-Calling 102
Not Eating 107
Overly Active 113
Overuses "No" 119
Plane Travel Stress 123
Plays with Food 128
Potty Problems 132
Resists Car Seats and Seat Belts 137
Screen Time I Screen Addiction 142
Sibling Rivalry and Fighting with Siblings 150
Special Diets 157
Steals and Takes Things 161
Talks Back 165
Temper Tantrums 170
Tests Limits 175
Wanders Away in Public 181
Want My Own Way 186
Want to Do It Myself 190
Whines, Nags, and Complains 195
Won't Adjust to Change 200
Won't Be Quiet When Asked or Needs To 205
Won't Clean Up Room, Toys, Clothes, Cooking, or Art-Making Messes 209
Won't Do Homework, Chores, and Other Big Tasks 215
Won't Do What You Ask / Won't Listen / Ignores You / Doesn't Follow Directions 220
Won't Go to Bed or Take Naps 227
Won't Share 233
Won't Stay in Bed at Night or at Naptime 238
Acknowledgments 245
About the Authors 247
Index 249