The definitive handbook on Domination and Submission (D/s) relationships and the BDSM lifestyle. A must-read for anyone considering or curious about non-traditional relationships within a fetish culture context. Funny, insightful, educational, and inspiring. Author Michael Makai goes in-depth on Dominants, submissives, switches, primals, and their relationship dynamics. Learn about BDSM activities, bondage, toys, groups, protocols, and safety. This book even dares to go where others fear to tread: The Gorean subculture, online D/s & BDSM, first meetings, religion vs. kink, and what could go wrong. You'll love Michael Makai's irreverent and humorous treatment of this subject as he gives you the benefit of his 35+ years of experience in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles. (Paperback, 496 pages)
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About the Author
Michael has been a lifestyle Dominant for 37 years, a behind-the-scenes mentor and educator on BDSM and D/s for decades, and has been active in dozens of fetish lifestyle organizations in Europe and the U.S. Michael believes that the key to understanding the lifestyle and the people in it is to be able to recognize the very distinct differences between BDSM, which is something you do, and D/s, which is a relationship dynamic.
Michael is a combat veteran and a retired senior Army noncommissioned officer with over 20 years of active military service. He has worked as a marketing consultant, banker, freelance writer, magazine publisher, and internet broadband service provider. He is an incorrigible word-maker-upperer who enjoys skiing, traveling, playing Scrabble, and raising koi. He currently resides in Wichita Falls, Texas.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Loved it. Very insightful and thought-provoking. I recommend it highly.
Mike Makai’s book Domination-Submission-BDSM relationship handbook is a definite must read. Not only does it give informative information on safety (both from a Doms. View and a Subs View) but it touches on today’s issues of online dating for a D/s and BDSM relationship. I couldn’t put it down until I had read it cover to cover (glad I got the print version so I can use it as a reference.) As a new person in the lifestyle it answered some questions I myself was just too shy to ask. It dealt with everything from safety to kinky toys, Collars to a glossary of the differences between subs, babygirls, bottoms and tops. What BDSM means and some of the protocol for local munches and dungeons. His real life stories helps bring a better understanding on issues that might arise and how to safe guard against that. His stories will make you laugh and (for a few of us subbies) make you cry. His Quips and MY TWO CENTS..will help you understand how a Dom might think as well as give YOU ideas on what kinky plans you yourself can do from the making of some of those awesome kinky toys to furnishings. If you’re in the lifestyle or even if you’re curious this is the book for you, One you’ll find yourself picking up over and over.
Magnificently Written! If you're someone looking to enter the lifestyle, want to learn about it, or even to "brush" up on the relationships between a Dominant and submissive, this is the book to read. I've read several books on the subject, as both a writer of this type of fiction, but also as a newly admitted Dominant. It's a great book and I definitely give it 5 stars. I read it twice and will definitely keep it as a reference. The book is written with the male being Dominant and the female being submissive, but that is not always the case and it recognizes it. It basically uses that relationship as a generic "gender" basis for the book. Loved it and recommend it to anyone interested.
This book answered alot of questions for me about the D/s relationship. I also love the fact that he used words that are common in the LS and went one step farther and explained them too. I started researching this LS because of all the hype over one book and the more I read into it I was pulled in and knew this LS was for me. Thank you Michael for explaining things in your book for this newbie to understand. ;)