Don't Kiss Them Good-bye

Don't Kiss Them Good-bye

by Allison DuBois

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ISBN-13: 9780743286497
Publisher: Touchstone
Publication date: 11/14/2005
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 618,230
File size: 235 KB

About the Author

Allison Dubois's unique story, the inspiration for the hit NBC TV series Medium, started during her senior year at Arizona State University while she was interning at the D.A.'s office. Soon after, researchers at the University of Arizona validated her ability through a series of tests. Allison continues to support research as a medium, as a member of the Veritas Research Program Mediums Committee, and as a member of the Forever Family Foundation's Medium Advisory Board. In her short career, Allison has conducted over 1,200 personal readings. Allison donates her time to missing-persons and criminal cases for agencies across the country.

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For those of you familiar with the hit television series Medium you probably already know that it's based on my real experiences. For those of you unfamiliar with the show, I encourage you to tune in and explore life after death. Don't Kiss Them Good-bye elaborates on my life minus the great television writers. It is my way of sharing with you how I'm affected by being a medium. Perhaps you are intrigued by my being able to see and feel events that not all people can. Perhaps learning about mediums will raise questions for you about your own life. Maybe you're one of many who knows your loved ones are still around and you want to strengthen your connections with them. I invite you to join me on this adventure through my life so that you can better understand how the events in my life have shaped who I am. I will give you a glimpse of what life can be after death. I also will talk to you about how to stay connected to those who matter to you most. May this book inspire you as so many have inspired me.

In this book, I share my own childhood experiences in order to connect and relate to young mediums who have questions and doubts about their gifts. I hope that my experiences can help show how a child with the gift might feel or view things. I also hope it illustrates how we, as people who love the gifted young, can help them to understand and embrace their abilities. Figuring out our gifts in life is part of our journey to becoming enlightened human beings. I want the people reading my book to have real insight into the life of a person with special abilities. I want you to better understand where psychics and mediums come from and what kinds of potential we have. Being able to relate to or think about the unknown is half the battle of expanding your spiritual beliefs. Having the opportunity to experience it personally is the other half.

About Me

I am a medium and profiler. This means I can predict future events, I can get into a person's mind, I can detect health problems in people, and I can communicate with the dead. Yes, I see dead people.

I have often wished that someone would come up with a better word than "psychic" to describe people like me. Between all the con artists out there and the gypsy and witch stereotypes, the word has been forever tainted. Call it what you want; I have what I refer to as the gift.

I was brought into this world in the usual way on January 24, 1972, in Phoenix, Arizona. I'm old enough to have learned my craft and young enough to challenge it. I have one older brother, Michael, who teased me often. My parents divorced when I was a baby, but I grew up knowing they both loved me.

Even when I was little I knew that I wasn't a typical kid. Besides my encounter with my great-grandpa after his funeral (which I discuss in the chapter "A Little Girl Meets the Other Side"), there were many other significant signs of things to come.

I identified with characters who had special gifts. Whether it was Tabitha on Bewitched or Tia in Escape to Witch Mountain, I knew they were different, like me. I was sure they could relate to my feelings of being an oddity, misunderstood by adults. As I was careful about what information I shared with people, I understood why the characters on TV or in the movies hid their abilities.

My identification with these characters went beyond a child's imagination and the desire to be Wonder Woman or Superman. When I was around ten years old, I was told repeatedly (by those I have come to know as my guides) that I was unique. They told me that when I was older I would affect people in a profound way. It was hard then for me to imagine that I could do something that important someday.

I received visits from my guides on and off throughout my childhood and teenage years. I wasn't sure who those voices were, but I knew the source was good and that it was coming from upstairs. I could feel the energy of the visitor and, although I was not frightened, I was more afraid that I would not be able to live up to their expectations of me.

I couldn't help but think Why me? I look average, and my parents are divorced. I found church boring. My mom made me go with her every Sunday and I resented it. I preferred to talk to heaven personally when I was alone. I felt very connected to a higher power and I was sensitive to others' feelings about it. But it seemed that all the adults at church sang about one thing and then practiced another. It didn't make sense to me, but if I mentioned this I was scolded.

I filled my room with stuffed animals and dolls, but mine served a defensive purpose. I lined them up on shelves, on the floor, everywhere, positioned to fill space and form a barrier between me and the unknown. Since I could feel many variations of energy around me and sometimes I saw apparitions, my stuffed animals filled the physical void where I knew the energy existed. The toys also helped calm my nerves. I had created in my mind an explanation for the energy I felt. I was no longer looking at empty space and feeling as though an unknown energy occupied it. My toys now filled the space. Children, like adults, learn to deal with complicated circumstances in a way that creates comfort for them.

I spent my youth trying to convince myself that I was normal. I was a competitive roller skater for several years in the early eighties. Journey, REO Speedwagon, and The Go-Go's provided the background music for my childhood. The people at the rink were also quite memorable, with their big perms, leg warmers, and lights on their skate wheels. I sat for hours watching people skate around faster and faster, until they began to blur into circles of light. I watched them intently, as if I were looking for something inside each person to become visible.

I enjoyed the all-or-nothing stakes of winning competitions. Figures, dance, freestyle skating-I did them all. I especially loved those rare occasions when the boys and girls were allowed to compete against one another. I enjoyed beating the boys the most.

Skating also provided an escape from the conflict at home between my mom and stepdad. When I was twelve, my mom and the man that I had called dad for ten years dissolved their marriage. I saw him with his new family a year later. He didn't see me and I never saw him again.

My mom remarried a year or two later, and I didn't fit into the new arrangement. I was on my own just one month before my sixteenth birthday. I lived in an apartment with a high school friend named Domini. I remember kicking back with a beer and thinking how ludicrous it was that I had once told my sixth grade teacher that I aspired to go to Harvard. Ridiculous! I thought. At this rate I wouldn't even be going to a community college!

My teenage years were painful and lonely. People were all around me, but I felt as alone as anyone could be. I also felt as if I sometimes attracted people who had bad energy. I always worry about young people who stand out in crowds because they have an inner light that shines through. I heard this often as a young person and now I understand it. Dark entities are naturally attracted to light and will try to manipulate it. A dark entity can see a light entity from a mile away. Unfortunately, it's typically harder for light entities to spot dark ones, but with experience they can learn to recognize and avoid them.

Have you ever looked at a recent picture of someone close to you and compared it to one from the past? There is a light that flickers in a young person's eyes that is often extinguished as he ages. The trick is to make sure your light remains strong and bright. It's a reflection of your soul. Never let it be extinguished. I have met seventy-year-old men and women who have the essence of people in their early twenties. I am determined to always retain my mischievous inner youth.

The night I met my husband he swears there was a light shining down on me. Joe says he couldn't resist knowing what I was about. I thought he was just an irritating guy with a pickup line. Joe has helped to make me a better person. He has taught me many lessons that I wouldn't have held still long enough to hear from anyone else. The most important thing he taught me is that there are people who are true to their word, people who will always be there. He has taught me to trust.

Another lesson Joe taught me was math and that it wasn't too late to apply it to my dream of going to college. Against all the odds I did graduate from college. I received a B.A. in political science with a minor in history from Arizona State University. Even though I had grown up around all kinds of people who were going nowhere fast, a part of me had always known that somehow, some way, I would earn a college degree. I guess I am just one of those lucky people for whom things always work out. I see myself as being constantly pushed back onto the right path by a force greater than me. I am thankful.

While sitting in class at ASU, feeling sorry for myself, I met a girl in a wheelchair. She was blind and had a Seeing Eye dog, but I never heard her complain, not once! I got over feeling sorry for myself really quickly. Life is a series of learning important lessons. You have to pay attention in class. Thinking of her helps me remember there's always someone who has it harder than I do.

Overall, my twenties were rich and exciting. I made mistakes, met Joe, graduated from college, experienced motherhood, interned at the homicide bureau, produced a safety video, and prepared myself to start over again with a new story. I don't know how I ended up with such a colorful, remarkable life, but I am thankful for all I have done and all that I have.

Now that you know my background and what I do, I encourage you to use the rest of my book to think about your own experiences.

Please remember that mediums serve people both living and dead. We bridge the gap. If you have ever questioned whether there is an afterlife, I hope this book will help you to see that indeed there is a whole world on the other side.

Copyright (c) 2004 by Allison DuBois

Table of Contents





1. My Way

2. A Little Girl Meets the Other Side

3. Angel on My Shoulder

4. Missing

5. Kindergarten Mediums

6. Hormones and Teen Psychics

7. Empathy

8. Painful Living, Peaceful Good-byes

9. Little Things

10. Gifted

11. Do You Really Want to Know?

12. If You Never Die

13. Once in a Lifetime

14. Baby Boy

15. Loving a Medium

16. Science and the Other Side

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Don't Kiss Them Good-bye 3.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 45 reviews.
TWILIGHT4EVER66 More than 1 year ago
This book is for everyone, even the skeptic. This book validated my sensitivity to the other side's energy. My children also feel the energy. My grief is more managable from what I have read.
NookIt More than 1 year ago
Though the television series based on the life of Allison DuBois is one of my favorite t.v. shows, I was very disappointed in this book. I found it overly repetitive and lacking in any kind of engaging content. Basically, it was just plain boring. She may well be gifted...but not at writing. Even the editing was weak as "typos" were plentiful, making this book even more of a struggle to finish. I've never been one ditch a book before I've finished it, so I was actually relieved when this one turned out to be less than 200 pages. Save your money and stick to the t.v. show.
LRH More than 1 year ago
This book was ok. I believe there are much better books written by mediums out there. The type was very big and spaced and it seemed to me as though they were trying to drag it out, so they didn't have a 50 page book.
woodsy More than 1 year ago
You can tell by the writing style Ms. DuBois wrote this herself without intervention from a professional writer which makes it all the more real and convincing. I enjoyed reading about her experiences and explanations of why life ends early for some and not for others. And they are out there, no matter what your belief system this is hard to ignore.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Allison Dubois is a refreshingly enjoyable author and this was a great one-night read. She candidly speaks about what the world really needs to know about mediumship and human decency.
Guest More than 1 year ago
It is nice for people like Allison DuBois to give us a peek of what we don't see or feel, but what is real. There is no beginning and there is no end, it all continues. Open your mind with no fear and your heart will also know.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I've read this book and enjoyed it so much. I cna't tell you how much it helped me to read it. I loved the show on TV and thought I would read this book, since it was by person show is based on. I was not disappointed at all. I would read it again and recommend it to anyone. I will make sure to read anything she writes from now on.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I would really like to know what medications the person who wrote the last review was taking when they wrote it. This is an amazing book written by an amazing person who I look up to. I myself being sensitive, and also planing on writing a book, Allison Dubois is, to me, a person to look up to and ask many questions. This book will answer all of them... it answered mine.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The book was a little lightweight. I expected there to be more written about her psychic abilities than there was. She explains how to enhance your gift or your child's gift if you are lucky to have the power. For the most part, the book was about the fact that not all psychics are charlatans. Many psychics are good people wanting to help others and not bilk them out of money. I believe this was the real motive behind the book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read Don't Kiss Them Good-bye for a book report this is a great book book but she talks to much about what to do if you are a medium or if your child is a medium and for people that aren't mediums or don't have children that are Mediums that part can be boring I thought it would talk about her life more So its not good if you you where looking for a biography but otherwise its a great book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
When I found this book, I couldn't put it down. I lost my only brother at the tender age of 26 and this gave me reason to believe that he is alive in spirit. A wonderful read for people who are grieving. I now know for sure that there is life after death....
Guest More than 1 year ago
I loved the book because I have actually experienced a few of the same things that Allison discusses in the book. It proved to me that I wasn't just 'dreaming'. I think it's a great book for anyone who is 'on the fence' when it comes to the question Is there life after death? Easy & interesting reading.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I found this book to be absolutly inspiring and relaxing. I origionally picked it out because of my interest in the show Medium. I couldnt put it down from the minute i picked it up which is quite unusual for me.I had a cousin who died at a young age of 17 whom which i was very close with when i was very young, and have always had many questions about death and life after death ever since. But after reading this book by Dubois, it has given me not only answer many questions that i have had for a very long time, but also reassures me that there is a life after death and that your lost loved ones are watching over you.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have carried the weight of the unexpected death of my mother for 15 years always thinking that if I had paid more attention to the signs she was giving me I could have saved her. In Allison's first chapter she made me see what I have always believed, except in the case of my Mother, that when it is your turn to go, you go. I now know that even if I had pushed her to see a doctor, she would have gone anyway. It was her turn. About two weeks before she passed on she told me that if she could get in touch with me after she died it would be through a number that was important in both our lives. I am pleased to tell you that she is in touch with me at least once a week and more often when each one of my Grandchildren were born. I think she is happy.
Niecierpek on LibraryThing 20 days ago
I found it interesting and sincere, even though I may not totally agree with the interpretation.
MerryMary on LibraryThing 20 days ago
Allison DuBois is the medium that is the inspiration for the tv show called - coincidently - Medium. In this book she discusses the realities of her daily life, and the words of guidance she uses with young people (including her own daughter) who show signs of being gifted. Interesting, and enlightening.
Bookish59 on LibraryThing 20 days ago
Allison describes her life, and fascinating psychic gift. One reason she wrote Don't Kiss Them Goodbye was that she didn't get the emotional support she needed when she discovered her abilities, and wanted to help young psychics and their families understand and accept their unusual skills. Being tested and validated at the Human Energy Systems Lab (Arizona) helped her fine-tune her abilities, giving her additional confidence to continue helping law enforcement agencies. Allison also hopes the book will help people accept real psychics and recognize cons. Unfortunately most of Don't Kiss Them Goodbye is disjointed and choppy, and not well-edited. The last few chapters are more focused. This a fast read about an intriguing life - don't let poor editing stop you from reading this.
bookwormteri on LibraryThing 20 days ago
Ugh...I would be really interested in reading more about this woman's experiences, but this book is not that. This book is how to encourage and trust the medium that you know or may be raising. An interesting topic, but this book felt really defensive.
shellyamendola on LibraryThing 20 days ago
This psychic leaves a little to be desire. Ienjoyed reading how you can help children butI found the writing to be very dry.
melissadyches on LibraryThing 20 days ago
This book left me a little disappointed. After watching the t.v. show based on Allison DuBois' life and work ("Medium"), I was greatly intrigued to read about more of her psychic enounters. Yet, this book only talks about how to find your inner psychic and the difficulties she faced with accepting her new found ability. Though, there were a few stories that left me with goosebumps. Overall the writing was average. I hope that Mrs. DuBois will come out with another book highlighting more of her experiences.
LadyBlossom on LibraryThing 20 days ago
For a book that is found in the body, mind and spirit section of your local bookshop this is one of the most critical and judgemental books I have ever read. The author is filled with so much self importance that at times it was a struggle to continue reading. For someone who is 'physic' she lacks comapssion for her fellow travellers, she condemns and criticises those who do not follow her rules. Don't read unless you want a 'guru' to worship.
estellen on LibraryThing 20 days ago
Boring and unbelievable read. I've seen her in person found her to be quite authentic, but the book convinced me otherwise.
Khall85 More than 1 year ago
I found it moving and informative. The writing was personalized and it was an easy read. At times I found myself reading the book in Patricia Arquette's voice. If you have seen the tv show Medium, you'll know what I'm talking about. It's very easy to get lost in this book. As the headline states; I recommend this book for an afternoon or rainy weather read
seldombites More than 1 year ago
This book is both very sad and very inspirational. The author, Allison DuBois, is the woman whose life formed the inspiration for the TV show <i>Medium</i> . This book explains how she came to realize her talent and how she came to use it for good. It contains several actual cases and readings she has worked on and is finished by a chapter about what it is like to live with a medium, written by her husband Joe. This is an excellent book that is an easy read, and it will have you run the full gamut of your emotions before you are through. Well worth picking up.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very good book. Loved it from the first word to the last.