Table of Contents
Disclaimer ix
Acknowledgments xi
Introduction: Don't Roll Your Eyes: Making In-Laws into Family 1
1 Why We Make In-Laws into Outlaws 19
2 Where Do I Fit In? The In-Law Parents Speak 39
3 How Many People Did I Marry? The Adult Children Speak 55
4 Have I Been Displaced? The Siblings Speak 71
5 Dueling and Other In-Law Games: The Two (or More) Sets of In-Laws 97
6 In Love, but Not in Law: Unrelated "In-Laws" 113
7 Diversity Comes Home: Intermarriage 127
8 Whose Child Is This? Grandparents, Parents, and Grandchildren 145
9 More Money, More Problems, Less Money, Still Problems 169
10 Until Death Do Us Part: Prepare for Illness and Death 187
11 Do Unto Your In-Laws 203
Appendix 1 Films and Videos 211
Appendix 2 Suggested Websites 215
Notes 219
Bibliography 229
Index 237