Everybody, Always Study Guide: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People

Everybody, Always Study Guide: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People

by Bob Goff

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Overview

In this five-session video Bible study (DVD/downloads sold separately), bestselling author Bob Goff shares some of the stories from his life that have helped him understand what it truly means to love everybody the way Jesus loved them–without fear, insecurity, or restriction. This begins by loving people right where you are through serving and helping the neighbors God has placed into your world. It means loving people when they mess up and helping them move past the place of shame to acceptance. It continues by being courageous and following where God leads one step at a time–even if you fell you are flying blind. Above all, it means not just agreeing with Jesus but actually stepping out and doing what Jesus said.

Following Christ means more than just putting a toe in the water when it comes to loving others. It means grabbing your knees and doing a cannonball! And, as Jesus revealed, it means loving the difficult ones. Everybody, Always will provide practical steps to help you take that journey.

The Everybody, Always Study Guide includes video discussion questions, Bible exploration, and personal study and reflection materials for in-between sessions.

Sessions include:

  1. Love People Where You Are
  2. Catch People on the Bounce
  3. Don’t Play It Safe
  4. Look at What’s in Your Bucket
  5. Love Even the Difficult People

Designed for use with the Everybody, Always Video Study (9780310095361), sold separately.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780310095330
Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date: 04/17/2018
Pages: 112
Sales rank: 63,269
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Bob Goff is the founder of Love Does, a nonprofit organization that operates schools and pursues justice for children in conflict areas such as Uganda, Somalia, and Iraq. Bob is a lawyer and serves as the honorary consul for the Republic of Uganda to the United States. He is an adjunct professor at Pepperdine Law School and Point Loma Nazarene University and lives in San Diego with Sweet Maria, their kids, and extended family.

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CHAPTER 1

LOVE PEOPLE WHERE YOU ARE

We don't need to cross the ocean to love people extravagantly, we just need to cross the street.

Bob Goff

GETTING STARTED

Have you ever heard of the musical Wicked? It was a big deal when it premiered in 2003, winning all the awards there were to win and making its stars household names. Why was it so popular? Well, aside from amazing songs and great performances, Wicked took the story of the Wizard of Oz and did something unexpected.

In Wicked, the familiar story of Dorothy, the Cowardly Lion, the Scarecrow, and the Tin Man is retold from the perspective of Elphaba, the Wicked Witch of the West. In this telling, we learn about Elphaba's sad backstory, the rivalry with her sister (Glinda the Good Witch), and how she might not be the onedimensional villain we always thought she was. This musical presents us with an Elphaba who is a tragic figure and whom, we discover, is more misunderstood than mean. It also shows us that when you learn someone's story, it can totally change how you see that person.

In our culture these days, it's tempting to sift everybody we meet into two categories: "good guys" and "bad guys." It is as if life is one of those old vaudeville melodramas where we cheer for the hero and hiss at the villain. But that's not real life, is it? Real life is way more interesting than that. Everybody we know is a fully formed, complex, and interesting creation. Nobody in our orbit is all good or all bad. Learning people's stories helps us see this. It breaks down our judgments and preconceived notions. It frees us from viewing others as cardboard cutouts but instead as the actual, real, God-created people they are. And, like Elphaba, learning someone's story might help us see them in a different light.

When you get caught up in a life of following Jesus, the old categories of "good guys" and "bad guys" stop working for you. You realize that not only does everybody have a story, but also that God wants us to love them too: no matter what. Yes, this can be kind of scary, but that's why we learn people's stories. It makes the creepy people God wants us to love a lot less scary and frees us to actually reach out to them right where they are.

All this is what we're talking about this week in our first session of Everybody, Always. We're going to share some stories, learn to reach out to our neighbors, and figure out how to actually love everybody God has already put in our lives ... always.

CHECKING IN

Welcome to the first session of Everybody, Always. If you or any of your fellow group members do not know one another, take a few minutes to introduce yourselves. Then, to get things started, discuss the following questions:

• If you could describe your expectations for this study in one word, what would that word be?

• Why did you pick the word you did?

HEARING THE WORD

Read aloud in the group the following passage from Luke 10:25–37:

25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. "Teacher," he asked, "what must I do to inherit eternal life?"

26 "What is written in the Law?" he replied. "How do you read it?"

27 He answered, "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'"

28 "You have answered correctly," Jesus replied. "Do this and you will live."

29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, "And who is my neighbor?"

30 In reply Jesus said: "A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper. 'Look after him,' he said, 'and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.'

36 "Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?"

37 The expert in the law replied, "The one who had mercy on him." Jesus told him, "Go and do likewise."

At the end of this parable, Jesus asks the teacher of the law which of the three people who passed the half-dead man on the road was a "neighbor" to him (see verse 36). Why does Jesus ask this question? Why do you think the expert in the law answers the way he does?

Have you ever seen someone give away extravagant love to a person who was their enemy? If so, when was it and what did it look like?

WATCHING THE VIDEO

Play the video segment for session one. As you watch, use the following outline to record any thoughts or concepts that stand out to you.

Let the people in your life know that they are not only invited but also welcome.

You do business with buyers, but you do life with neighbors.

Loving your neighbors is woven into your DNA and your faith.

God's message to you is that you don't have to be afraid anymore.

God gives you a peek at what he is doing in the world through the people around you.

Part of finding your joy in life is helping others find their joy.

God wants you to love everyone, but what you need to do is start across the street.

What's a next big step for you? Who are you going to get to know? What is your next courageous move?

DISCUSSING THE TEACHING

Take a few minutes with your group members to discuss what you just watched and explore these concepts in Scripture.

1. In the video, Bob talks about how he was looking for a neighbor rather than just a buyer for his house because you "do life" with a neighbor. What does it mean to "do life" with someone? What's an example of this in your life?

2. Do you feel as if you truly "know" your neighbors or just "know about" them? Explain.

3. When you think about your neighbors, what's the hardest (or scariest) part of considering how to connect with them in new ways?

4. Bob states that we find our joy by "helping other people find theirs." What do you think this means? How have you experienced joy through helping others?

5. Is there a difference between joy and happiness? If so, how would you define it?

6. People don't grow where they're informed — they grow where they're accepted. Where does your small group or church do this well? Where could you all better grow?

DOING THE WORD

For this activity, each participant will need a copy of the grid on the following page and a pen or pencil.

During this week's teaching, Bob suggests that loving your neighbor is something that can start with the people God has put around you in your world. It doesn't require going across the ocean — just across the street.

With this in mind, look at the grid below. This grid represents your neighborhood. The center square with the word "YOU" in it stands for where you live. The empty squares around it represent where your neighbors live.

Take a moment to visualize your neighborhood. Now, see how many of those empty squares you can fill with the actual names of the people who live there. Just do your best. If you live next to the ocean or in the middle of nowhere, just use your office or some other public space where you spend time as your starting place.

It's okay. Just fill in as many names as you can.

Look at your grid once it's filled in. What do you notice? Are there any trends? Who do you know well? Who do you not know at all?

Next, circle the neighbor on your grid whom you know the least and with whom you want to make a better connection this week. It might be someone you know a little, and you can invite that person to coffee to get to know better. Or it could be a person you don't know at all, and your goal for this week is just to learn his or her name. Whatever it is, take a second, say a prayer, and make your plan.

When you're done, share with the group your plan for connecting with a neighbor this week. If anyone in the group is stumped, offer some suggestions. And remember, the goal here is not to convert anyone, or witness, or anything like that. The goal is just to connect ... because that's where it all starts.

CLOSING PRAYER

Close the meeting by praying for the specific person you are going to try to meet this week. Pray especially that God would give you the courage to follow through!

BETWEEN-SESSIONS

PERSONAL STUDY

Reflect on the content that you've covered this week in Everybody, Always by engaging in any or all of the following between-sessions activities. Remember, this part of the study is not about following rules or doing your homework — the activities are simply designed to give you the opportunity to jump into loving God and your neighbor with both feet. Please be sure to read the reflection questions after each activity and make a few notes in your study guide about the experience. There will be a time to share these reflections at the beginning of the next session.

DO: TELL YOUR STORY

During this week's teaching, Bob talks about the power of story and how one of the things that happens when you are neighbors with someone is that you get to know each other better and swap stories. This week, you are invited to do this very thing. Pick one or two people from your small group, get together with that person during the week, and just swap stories. You can get together for a meal, a coffee, or just touch base in the church parking lot. Wherever you do it, your goal is simple: get to know each other better by sharing a bit of your lives. Here are a few questions that you can ask to get the stories flowing:

Where did you grow up?

How long have you lived where you do now?

Do you have any siblings? What can you tell me about them?

Who were and are the most formative people in your life?

When and how did you get turned on to Jesus and church?

Why did you decide to participate in this small-group study?

If you had a whole day to yourself, how would you spend it?

What is one thing the two of us have in common?

Once you've connected with one of your group members and shared yours stories, jot down the following reflections to share next week:

How was the experience of sharing stories?

Was it easier or harder than you thought? Why?

What is something this experience taught you about yourself?

REFLECT: BE NEEDY

Read the following passage found in Matthew 18:1–5:

1 At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, "Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?" 2 He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. 3 And he said: "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 5 And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.

One of the things Jesus is always driving home with his followers is that God's kingdom doesn't work like the kingdoms of this world. God's kingdom is counterintuitive. It has a different set of values. Jesus keeps telling those of us who will listen that we will discover this kingdom in ways we least expect.

This section in the Gospel of Matthew picks up a conversation that Jesus was having with his disciples about this very thing. They had just asked him about who was greatest in his kingdom. Essentially, they wanted to know who was the best in God's new world. They were asking, "Jesus, how do you get to the top of the ladder and succeed in your kingdom?" They wanted to know who would — as Bob puts it in the video — "get the big chair."

To answer this question, Jesus asked a child to come over to where they were talking. Then he said, "Be like this." Jesus went on to say that unless the disciples changed to become more and more like this child, they wouldn't even figure out how to be part of what God was up to in the world. What was Jesus getting at by saying this to them?

Well, to live in God's world God's way, we have to first let go of all the ways this current world tells us to succeed. The kingdom of God is a place where the "best" are the least and the lowest. It's where the frail and the fragile are powerful. It's a kingdom of downward mobility, and it's a place people often find when they have failed and are in deep need.

This is part of what Jesus was illustrating with the child he called to stand among him and the disciples. Children have needs. They are not self-sufficient. They are dependent and open to help. It is exactly those qualities that assist us in finding our way into God's new world.

Can you see why a culture that values "pulling yourself up by your bootstraps" might struggle to embrace this message? Success in God's kingdom comes when you stop trying to win and embrace all the ways you keep losing.

What else do you think Jesus meant when he talked about becoming like little children?

Jesus says "anyone who welcomes a child welcomes me." What does that mean to you?

Where are you frustrated by your own need right now?

In what ways might this actually be an invitation into the kingdom of God?

READ: LOVE PEOPLE WHERE YOU ARE

Read the prologue and chapters 1 through 3 in Everybody, Always, and then reflect on the following questions:

Who are some people you know who give away love "like they're made of it"? What are some characteristics you admire in these people?

What are some of the barriers you encounter when it comes to loving difficult people? What can you learn from Jesus' example about how to deal with them?

What does "extravagant love" look like in your life in terms of "coloring outside the lines" and "going beyond the norms"?

Why do you think Jesus asks us to start loving others by first loving our neighbors? Who would you define as being your "neighbors"?

What are some ways that you are actively loving your neighbors? How has this involved more than just speaking with them from time to time?

Use the space below to write any other key points or questions you want to bring to the next group meeting. In preparation for your next session, read chapters 4 through 6.

CHAPTER 2

SESSION TWO

CATCH PEOPLE ON THE BOUNCE

What I want to do is see the hope that's inside of people.

Bob Goff

GETTING STARTED

One of the most popular TED talks of all time is called "The Power of Vulnerability." It is a talk by Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor who studies empathy and vulnerability.

Dr. Brown has found that empathy and shame are like the opposite ends of an old radio dial. (Remember those?) She says that the way a person moves the tuner on the dial toward either empathy or shame is, in fact, all about how vulnerable that person is willing to be.

For instance, if you turn vulnerability all the way up, you will tune in the "empathy station." On this station, through your sharing of experience, you will find connection with another person. However, if you turn vulnerability all the way down, you will end up tuned in to the "shame station," which just shuts everything down.

Possessing the kind of vulnerability that makes empathy happen is difficult, because you have to open yourself up to other peoples' experiences. You have to be willing to see the world through their eyes and imagine what it's like to stand in their shoes. This costs you something.

However, shame is what happens in the absence of vulnerability. Shame occurs when, because you've been hurt by others in the past, you armor-up, vowing, "That's never going to happen to me again!" As a result, shame produces fear, suspicion, and isolation. So, empathy connects you with other people, while shame drives you further apart.

This week, you will be invited to consider these categories of empathy and shame when it comes to loving the people in your orbit that you might find a "little creepy." Instead of judging them, you will be asked to consider where they've come from and what they've been through.

Doing this will keep love flowing, and it will put you in the position where you are open to "catching people on the bounce."

CHECKING IN

To get things started for this second session, discuss the following questions:

• What was your first job?

• Do you have good memories or bad memories of the experience? Explain.

Last week, you were invited to act in the in-between sessions personal study.

(Continues…)



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Table of Contents

Introduction, 7,
How to Use This Guide, 11,
SESSION 1: Love People Where You Are, 13,
SESSION 2: Catch People on the Bounce, 31,
SESSION 3: Don't Play It Safe, 49,
SESSION 4: Look at What's in Your Bucket, 67,
SESSION 5: Love Even the Difficult People, 85,
Leader's Guide, 101,

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Nanna51 More than 1 year ago
I had never read a Bob Goff book before, but this one impressed me so much that I ordered his first one. In a series of humorous anecdotes, the author give practical advice, exhorting the reader to choose to make a difference and to show love to others even when those others are unlovable. His wit is unparalleled, and his advice is sage and timely. We all have the ability to influence others by just showing them the same love that Jesus would do if he were walking on the earth. The author’s premise is simple...Jesus is walking thoughout the earth, in each of us, so He expects us to represent Him accurately to whomever we come into contact with. This is an excellent book to use individually, as a way to grow spiritually. But it would also be excellent to use in a group study, to discuss the ways that we can love “Everybody Always.” I absolutely loved this book! Disclaimer Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”
Shineon24 More than 1 year ago
Let me first say I am reviewing the first five chapters of this book that I received from the publisher... And I am so glad I received these chapters!!! Mr. Goff not only practices what he preaches, but he does so with such joy and enthusiasm that you simply cannot resist going along for his ride! To carry a"bouquet of balloons" into wartorn countries in the form of schools and safe houses funded from the profits of his first book "Love Does"... who in their right mind would not want to read his second...errr... third (you'll need to read the prologue to understand!) book! Mr. Goff ...Bob... is one of those "kind, lovely, humble people" who just happens to have written a book about those "mean, ugly, pride-filled people"-who it turns out to be people we just simply don't understand and have not taken the time to get to know- and how to love them just like Jesus. He takes us from the "Creepy People" to Carol-(heads up... you'll want to grab tissues for this chapter or two); from lawyers leading parades to homeless guys sitting in "borrowed" yellow pickup trucks; from big black limos to building castles with a little pixie dust. The point is, as Bob explains with humor and reality, is no matter who you are, where you find yourself, what you do or where you are going, you can choose intentionally to love Everybody Always. These first five chapters challenge us to ditch our castles with moats, drawbridges and heavily defended walls that keep people out. He encourages us instead to build a Kingdom- where no one is excluded, loving like Jesus is the only rule, and where everybody is your neighbor and you know everyone's name. In Bob's words, "to just love the people in front of you" is all that is required. Everybody Always -one person at a time.
ecclecticnurse More than 1 year ago
This book is Bob Goff GOLD. It is a treasure trove overflowing with little nuggets of truth and love. In his usual quirky and hilarious fashion, Bob draws you in, sets you a seat at his table, and changes your heart for good. He shows you how to love like Jesus in the mundane and everyday. Just reading these first 5 chapters inspired my heart to be a better person. By the end of this book you will feel as though you too are loved and chosen and a friend of Bob's. I am reviewing the first five chapters of the book that I received from the publisher.