A Parkland Shooting Grief Recovery Journey
“… powerful and heartening lessons on how we can help one another move forward and build a safer, more just world.” ―Gabby Giffords
“Fred Guttenberg is a hero." ―Lawrence O'Donnell
#1 New Release in Grief & Loss
Life changed forever on Valentine's Day 2018 for Fred Guttenberg and his family. What should have been a day of love turned into a nightmare. Seventeen people died at Florida’s Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. Fourteen-year-old Jaime Guttenberg was the second to last victim.
From grieving to activism. That Jaime and so many of her fellow students were struck down in cold blood galvanized many to action, including Jaime’s father Fred now an activist dedicated to passing common sense gun safety legislation. But this book is not about gun safety or Parkland.
Fred was already struggling with deep personal loss. Four months earlier his brother Michael died of 9/11 induced pancreatic cancer. He had been exposed to too much dust and chemicals at Ground Zero. Michael battled heroically for nearly five years and then died at age fifty.
Find the Helpers has a special meaning to the Guttenberg’s. It was a beloved family wisdom learned from watching Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood. In the midst of tragedy, "always look for the helpers. There will always be helpers. Because if you look for the helpers, you’ll know there’s hope." ―Fred Rogers, 1999
Healing from grief. Discover the story of Fred Guttenberg’s journey since Jaime’s death and how he has been able to get through the worst of times thanks to the kindness and compassion of others. Good things happen to good people at the hands of other good people─and the world is filled with them. They include everyone from amazing gun violence survivors Fred has met to former VP Joe Biden, who spent time talking to him about finding mission and purpose in learning to grieve.
Enjoyed Eyes to the Wind, Haben, or The Beauty in Breaking? Then you'll love Find the Helpers!
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About the Author
Bradley Whitford is an American film and television actor. He has played White House Deputy Chief of Staff Josh Lyman on the NBC television drama The West Wing, Danny Tripp on Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip, Dan Stark in the Fox police buddy-comedy The Good Guys, Timothy Carter, a character who was believed to be Red John in the CBS series The Mentalist, and antagonist Eric Gordon in the film Billy Madison. Whitford was nominated for three consecutive Emmy Awards from 2001 to 2003 for Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Drama Series for his role on The West Wing, winning the award in 2001. This role has also garnered him three consecutive Golden Globe Award nominations for Best Performance by an Actor in a Supporting Role. He received a second Emmy Award in 2015 for his role in Transparent. In addition to acting, Whiford is also a political writer and activist. He lives and works in Los Angeles.
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From the Foreword
I started clocking Jaime’s father, Fred Guttenberg, in interviews and events following the shooting. At first, I could feel him gasping through his grief as if he might drown in despair. But I could feel his outrage grow after Donald Trump lied to his face about standing up to the NRA. And I could feel his resolve stiffen as the enormity and the moral bankruptcy of what he was up against revealed itself.
Soon he seemed to adopt the mantra of the great John Lewis, that when we are confronted with injustice, we must be willing to get into trouble, good trouble, necessary trouble. There he was at the Kavanaugh hearing, shunned as he tried to shake the nominee’s hand. I cheered when his inability to contain his outrage in the face of Trump’s lies got him kicked out of the State of the Union.
Fred Guttenberg is one of those rarest of human being who, as they endure the unimaginable, have the strength to see beyond their own suffering. They hear a call to action to do whatever they can to alleviate that suffering in others and in doing so, to hold this country up to its spectacular, unfulfilled promise. They understand that politics is the way we create our moral vision. They know that despair is a luxury the future cannot afford. And that action is the antidote to despair.
What People are Saying About This
"We each have something to learn from Fred Guttenberg. Amid heartbreaking loss, Fred has found reason to press forward. In Find the Helpers, Fred shares of finding support and comfort from those he knew and those he had not yet met, a journey that would lead him to friendships with the Vice President and with the Speaker of the House. And he shares of his enduring commitment to ending gun violence through dogged and tireless advocacy. Fred once shared with me that he wished he had started the work to end gun violence before it was too late for him and his family. His lesson is now ours. His words now our calling." Former Congressman David Jolly
“If you’re looking to discover the best of us during the worst of times, read Fred Guttenberg’s Find the Helpers. Fred shares his journey of unimaginable grief at losing his brother to a 9/11-related illness and his daughter at Parkland. Yet, from Fred’s loss, we read about his strength to not only find the helpers around him, but to become one to others.”Congressman Eric Swalwell
“Few people better exemplify the power of turning tragedy into action than Fred Guttenberg. His grace, resilience, and courage in the face of unspeakable heartbreak serve as inspiration to us all. In the fight to end gun violence in America, Fred has not only been there for me, but has also found ways to engage new voices and build new bridges while honoring the memory of his daughter. This book offers powerful and heartening lessons on how we can help one another move forward and build a safer, more just world.”Gabby Giffords
“Fred Guttenberg’s life with his family before Valentine's Day 2018 sounds almost magical. He had two wonderful children, a loving wife, a successful track record as a businessman, and he lived in Parkland, Florida, a community considered one of the safest in the nation. That all changed on Feb. 14, 2018, when his daughter Jaime was killed in her classroom along with sixteen other students and teachers. Like so many others who are survivors of gun violence, there was Fred's life before losing Jaime and Fred's life afterward. This book talks about his life afterward, but in doing so it affirms something much bigger. This book is so important because it lifts up the essential role of ‘helpers’friends, neighbors, fellow advocates, elected officials, and even strangerswithout whom real change, and the energy necessary to be a change agent, would be impossible. In the disconnected, now socially isolated world in which we live, Fred reaffirms the central importance of real human connection, often at the most random moments, that can make the difference between marching on or giving up. As I write this, our nation is experiencing an awakening of consciousness to profoundly disturbing issues. I hope all who want to make a change in this world for the better read this amazing book and understand how ‘helpers’ made a difference in Fred's life and how every one of us has a role in creating the change we want to see in the world. Simply being a ‘helper’ can be the secret ingredient, the catalyst, for the real and sustaining changes needed to make our world a better and safer place for everyone.”Kris Brown, President of Brady
“Hopefully, this book will move you, upset you, enrage you, and, ultimately, inspire you to be the best ‘Helper’ you can be. Because life is so much better for those who are helped AND for those who do the helping. Fred suffered the ultimate loss and chose to turn it into the ultimate mission: to protect our children from gun violence. As a career homicide prosecutor, I had the unimaginable privilege of working with hundreds of ‘homicide families.’ No family should ever have to bear that horrific label. Yet once a family suffers the loss of a loved one to violent crime, some feel that the label ‘homicide family’ will forever define them. Fred is living proof that we need not be defined by our darkest day. In his painful yet ultimately uplifting memoir, Fred Guttenberg is a living tribute to the triumph of purpose over tragedy. And he has helped us all.”
Glenn Kirschner, Legal Analyst and Former US Army prosecutor