Finding Destiny

Finding Destiny

by Barbara Sinor


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Luana, a retired psychotherapist in southern California, discovers a novel about a girl living in England in the 1970s who has been raped. As Luana devours the book, she and the young woman each share their search for the innermost harbor of women’s life choices. Even though they live in separate countries and bridge many decades in time, their individual exploration of metaphysics, spirituality, and women's rights culminates in a mysterious friendship.

"Finding Destiny invites us to find inspiration and to remember the interconnectedness of all things. One question asks the reader, 'When we fall in love, where does the love come from?' This in itself is a great starting point for a reading group; I would love to discuss this question with the author straight away. Finding Destiny addresses the reader’s self-awareness, and Sinor nudges us gently to continue our journey of finding our own personal destiny. Reading the book felt like watching a movie; nail-biting moments, tears, and goosebumps--all the ingredients a good Hollywood movie needs!"

--Barbara Patterson, Soul Matters Radio, Germany

"Finding Destiny is an engaging book, exploring connections of people separated by time and space. As a woman who has experienced unplanned pregnancy, I was especially appreciative of the exploration of this theme."

--Juanita Emery, M.A., Health Practitioner

"Finding Destiny is the story of two women whose challenges and triumphs mirror each other in many ways. It is also about transformation and how to achieve it. Through this fictional story, Sinor offers an introduction to metaphysical principles that become the foundation for both women’s strength and power."

--Reverend Margaret Flick, Unity Minister

"Finding Destiny goes beneath the skin, down to the internal turmoil and sacrifices of two women a half century and oceans apart as they, with their best conscience, make life-changing decisions."

--Mary Catherine O'Heart, RN

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781615992997
Publisher: Loving Healing Press
Publication date: 09/01/2016
Pages: 250
Product dimensions: 5.51(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.53(d)

About the Author

Barbara Sinor, PhD, is a retired psychotherapist living in northern California. "Finding Destiny" is Sinor's long awaited first fiction novel. Her other books are highly endorsed in the non-fiction genres of addiction recovery, childhood abuse/incest, adult children of alcoholics, and other self-help and inspirational topics.
Dr. Sinor encourages your comments and can be contacted through her website: Sinor's other writing appears in the quarterly "Recovering the Self: A Journal of Hope and Healing", as well as other magazines, newsletters, and blogs. She currently facilitates women's groups, designs and makes jewelry, and is working on the sequel to Finding Destiny.

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The young woman touched her belly as an unfamiliar sensation moved like a bubble floating to the top of a flute. She was aware of the intruder that was making its presence known, but would rather discount the movement to a touch of gas finding its way through her digestive tract. After all, she did not ask to become a fetal-carrier like some animal in the woods. She did not ask to be mounted like a breeding mare with her private parts spread for the taking. The woman, barely so at seventeen, was unprepared for the harrowing experience of an unjust, unloving act that left her womb inhabited with a life she could not acknowledge.

Her mind was racing like a bullet train riding the rails to its next destination determined to stop only long enough to allow its occupants a hastened exit. What should she do? Where should she go to hide the cumbersome entanglement? She knew the final deed must be completed with closure, absent of drugs and little aftercare. It must be done quickly, leaving any establishment as if she were never a resident but only leaving a piece of baggage by the door. Her childlike mind was firm; she would travel to a faraway land inhabited only by monks or nuns. She would ask for entrance with tearful begging, unveiling her belly to secure the pact. After the task had been completed, she would smile in gratitude and be on her way.

For several months, a flurry of internal questions unrelentingly haunted her days. Will there be remorse for her actions? Will she weaken her stance and change her plans? Will there be a moment when she might be tempted to touch the cheek of the interloper to submit the truth of her plight? Realizing there was no time for retreat, or to dally with the thoughts jetting through her mind, she chose to continue her subversion and travel the distance alone.

The Tele, firmly mounted on the wall to assure its safety from thieves, blared its alarm, "A Teen Runaway!" Her finger touched a button to silence the obtrusive bloke. She rolled over on her side just far enough to accomplish a position of comfort without the acknowledgement of her belly's obstruction. The bland room had been her refuge for the last few months as she sequestered herself to allow the intruder its gestation. The corner deli provided her needs for nourishment, the Tele her entertainment. She was well aware of the time sequence involved; she had marked an "x" on the calendar tucked in her pocketbook. Her hibernation must end in two weeks; and then, she will hitch to the manor discovered in a mixture of crazy panic and intellectual calm.

The young woman was an avid theorist who wrote in journals to capture her thoughts before they flew from her mind like a drove of honey bees. Glancing at an entry several pages hence, her eyes spied two words: "Why me?" Then she addressed herself aloud, "Why not me?" Rethinking her question written so blatantly it could not be mistaken for another, she began to pen her thoughts:

Why not me? If there is a God, He (or is it She?) could pick any lonely girl to be a toy for an adolescent Neanderthal's pleasure, and then discarded as if used equipment. If there are human trials for all of us to undergo, why not this one for me? If there is a God and humans have been given the capacity to overcome — to heal and regenerate — then why not experience this malady head on? Do I even have a choice to ignore the encroacher within me which sits like an atom bomb that will eventually explode? I think not.

At this moment, as only a humble human surfacing to breathe, I feel as though I have no right to ask questions. I feel as if I have no right to dream, or even to envision a normal life filled with laughter and love ... I feel like a prisoner locked away by my own body.

The girl lowered the cherished journal while considering her thoughts. She adjusted her body again to an upright position on the too-soft mattress. The bed reeked of vinegar stains, a vague attempt to nullify the odor coming from the spots that dotted the coverlet. Folding the bed clothing in-half exposed a grey-tinged sheet abused so often it displayed fraying edges. Reluctant to sleep, she flipped the journal pages again, curious to reread her previous entry:

What a trick! My eyes closed to the probabilities of the night, I made my way to the bash being held to entice the young people of the college. I flagged a motorcar and jumped in not caring if the driver was a lady or gent. It was a gent, rather droll, about forty, who wanted company on his journey to the next casino. His eyes were obsidian black and his hair straight as straw poking unevenly from beneath his trilby. After signaling that my destination was near, he pulled the motorcar to the side, politely smiling a grin of lust.

She closed her journal and tried to remember each step taken while walking to the party that dark October night in 1975. Had she been nervous? Did she have even a hint that her life would be so misdirected in ways too unperceivable to imagine? Not wanting to actually visualize the event for the millionth time, she quickly changed her thinking to impose a random thought to her present expanded awareness: What if I somehow created that night? What if subconsciously, I had a role in my own undoing? She surmised the interesting theory and opened her brown eyes wide to grasp the unconventional concept that suddenly tempted her consciousness. Could I actually entertain this bizarre concept? she silently asked herself. But, if God gives humans freewill, why would we create pain and suffering? Perhaps, He/She isn't on our side after all. Rethinking her position, she said aloud, "Perhaps, He/She is a prankster poking fun at our plights while waiting for us to choose mediocre roles of self-sabotage and destruction, just to laugh at our plays!"

The woman-child closed her eyes to finally allow the dregs of night to bring a morsel of rest to her brain. Alas! Her dreams were of no release as the squatter flayed inside her. The semi-conscious dream state took her to depths of sorrow and a longing for a life she felt was rightfully hers to create. Lately, her dreams contained a theme of infants floating to her side, and images of her parents' faces forced with frowns of disgust. She would often jerk herself awake at the slightest vision of her parents, and lay frozen with fear gnawing at the pit of her stomach. It was then that she would grab her pen and write out the dream to capture its essence. Will you ever forgive me, Mum? she thought, as she lay awake, afraid to enter another damning dream. Will you ever understand why I fled from your hearth without a mention of retreat? Your useless words hang in my mind like used garments left for rags in a damp closet. I am sorry ... I am so very sorry.

Marking out on her calendar the last few days of the three month siege, she felt a surge of emotion well up from deep inside and lost control of the tears she had shut away so tightly. There were no tears after her attacker finished his deed. There were no tears as she made her way home dabbing with a cocktail napkin the blood running down her leg. She allowed no tears to smudge her makeup two months later when the urine test edged its way into visibility, divulging the trespasser's presence. Tears are for children, her thoughts proclaimed. I am no longer a child. I must remove my burden alone, without the knowledge of another whose eyes would trade the secret to anyone searching. No, no tears. Tears are meant for tots who fall from swings, wet their knickers and scratch their knees, not for young women who know a bit of life and its pitfalls. She wiped her eyes with the back of one hand, attesting that her current circumstance was only a reflection of the casualties she had endured.

She had always envisioned her parents as uptight Brits with the emotion of turtles wavering on a piece of wood deciding whether to continue the climb or relent and back away from the challenge. They were nice enough, even caring at times; but, her childhood was fraught with "what-will-the-family-or-others-think" kind of dilemmas. Over and over during her younger years, she heard the never ending questions, "Will the nanny think we are too lenient?" "Will Mum approve of your dress?" "Does your father know you are reading that book?" "What will your teachers think of us if you are late for class?" Most of her young years trod by without an awareness of her parents' mutterings. Then, one day she suddenly felt free from their words that hovered in her brain like vultures eyeing their prey. At that exact moment, her life became her own.

The woman-child had no trouble hiding her current encumbered condition from her parents. After she dealt them her silent solitary hand, their interest in her dashed out the window with the frilly curtains sailing in the breeze. Her anonymity was also not difficult during this necessary respite. It was a bit like playing "Hide the Mouse," carefully omitting a name to her persona. When she needed to sign the hotel register, she used a mysterious name to invoke a curious look from the bint behind the counter. It worked perfectly. As she took the room key, she laughed out loud as she recalled the time she had faked her identification to get into a pub with the name, Candy Duncan. The bouncer knew the candy brand and offered a donkey-laugh while pretending to eat her arm! No, there was no problem in keeping herself unnoticed and unfound.

On the final day, she stepped from the grimy shower bath only to catch her reflection in the thin rusty mirror behind the door. She stared at the girl's face looking back at her. A common face with wide brown eyebrows that matched shoulder length hair, full natural lips sheltering imperfect ivory teeth, and high cheek bones smoothed by creamy skin inherited from her mum. Her eyes were normally brown, but turned hazel when the sun was high and shone directly upon her face. She reluctantly glanced downward and gazed un-approvingly at the limp frame standing before her. Trying to avoid viewing the large bump spreading across her middle, she turned sideways only to feel her eyes riveted to the grotesque swelling. She could not look away; her eyes were glued to the mirror in a transfixed glaze. How did this happen? It felt like an atrocity, a moment in time turned inward on itself producing a calamity of injustice. Grabbing the one scrawny towel provided the room, she covered herself only to have it gape wide to once again display the telltale deformity. Disgusting, she thought. Quickly, she began throwing on the loose-fitting clothing she had found in the rubbish bin a few months prior.

Checking out of the hotel, the girl inquired about the nearest bus station to the maid who was thoroughly surveying the room to make sure nothing had been removed. She walked to the station, which helped stretch her calves that had been latently waiting for release. She paced herself, knowing there may be another short hike to her final destination. Boarding the shuttle, she sat alone, taking two seats to discourage another from placing their body next to hers. The young woman closed her eyes to hopefully relieve their aching, and released a slight sigh of relief.

One rap, then two upon the entry door brought a doughty woman with a sluggish smirk who spoke with an unfamiliar accent, "Who's there then?"

"My name is Destiny. I have come to bear my child and leave as I came," the girl announced dramatically, pulling back her wrap to reveal her condition just as she had envisioned the scene.

"Come in young lady. You be far along then?" the matron asked as she viewed the girl from all sides.

"Yes, ma'am. The event is forthcoming. I wish to stay only as long as necessary to rid myself of this ... this freeloader," she replied with directness of tongue even she surmised, after-the-fact, to be too stern.

"Oh, ye wants nothing to do with the wee one then?" the matron inquired.

"No, nothing," she answered flatly.

"Aye, deary, we'll take good care ye sure enough," the woman said, leading the newcomer down a long hallway within the antiquated manor.

Destiny surveyed the room with white painted walls and white curtains draped over one small window. Pulling the curtains to one side, she viewed a waist high deteriorating garden wall made of grey stone. The bed was narrow, but adequate for one. She placed her satchel on the oak chair crouched in a corner looking afraid to speak its name. There was no clothes wardrobe.

"Surely this will suffice for the few days that remain," Destiny softly voiced her approval.

"Come now, supper's on the table for the get'n," the lady ordered.

"Yes, thank you. I am hungry," Destiny spoke, trying to sound proper.

The dining room was large, seating at least a dozen women, obviously all weighed with child. Some of the residents glanced up as Destiny entered and took her seat; others not bothering to invite a connection, kept their faces close to a plate filled with chips and fish. Destiny smiled to those who caught her glance, and then proceeded to eat in silence as the other diners were portraying so admirably. The evening ended quickly, and after everyone finished their meal, they vanished into individual rooms to wait for signs of their impending event.

The following morning in the shared lavatory glistening in white shadows falling on a perfect oval sink, Destiny approached a shower bath to find a frail girl exiting. She noticed the petite girl was burdened with an oversized midriff that tilted her body forward, mimicking the famous Italian tower. When their eyes met, a moment of kindness shone as if each knew the plight of the other. They shared a silent smile and nudged bellies to complete their opposite destinations. Destiny hoped the girl would be available when she finished her shower, eager to make a connection with someone who might tell her a bit about the manor that would be her temporary residence. However, when she returned from her bath, the skinny girl had left. Destiny dressed and arrived at the forenoon meal just in time to eat a banger and scone. She spied the skinny girl at the far end of the table, and regained eye contact as they both drank their sweet juice that was provided in abundance.

Leaving the dining room, the two girls walked silently to the sitting area intent on a verbal exchange.

"What's your name?" Destiny asked the skinny girl with the big belly.

"I am Tina. Did you just arrive?" Tina inquired.

"Yes, last evening. I am Destiny. I know this isn't the place to make real friends, since we will be leaving soon; but, I would like to know more about this place. Have you been here long?" Destiny tried to sound friendly, but at the same time distant enough not to warrant a close friendship.

"Yes. Actually, I have been here for several months because I had nowhere else to go. The attendants seem nice enough, although they don't talk much to any of us," Tina said in her soft-toned voice that danced in the air.

"I felt they were rather cold, but then so am I at this point." Destiny smiled, then continued, "You look too young to be ... with child."

"I am a full fourteen, but this was not my decision or desire," Tina said, pointing to her belly that sat on its own pillow as if detached from its owner.

"Well, I will not pry. I do not wish to tell others my life story either. But, we could tell each other of news and information we might hear. Would you be willing?" asked Destiny.

"Oh, yes, I am happy to tell you anything you wish, Destiny. I do know that the East Hall is where the birthing takes place. I have witnessed several women wheeled down that hallway, but have not ventured to talk to any of them when they returned to their room," Tina shared her information freely.

"That's good to know, Tina. May I ask ... are you afraid?" Destiny inquired without hesitation.

"Oh, yes!" Tina exclaimed, then lowered her voice and covered her mouth with her hand. "I am really scared, but the attendants keep reassuring me. They claim it will be over in a few hours. Then afterward, I will be free to leave with my baby within a few days."

"Oh, Tina, you are keeping it?" Destiny said with an air of surprise that rudely displayed her opinion.

"Oh, yes, of course. I could not give up a child to another when I have grown to love it dearly for so many months," Tina replied, stroking her belly with one hand and then the other.

"Oh, I am sorry, Tina, if I sounded so surprised. It's just that I cannot think of this ... this leech inside me, as a baby. It was spawn from an involuntary event that certainly has ruined my life. You must have experienced a different conception, one in which you both were in love I imagine," Destiny stated, trailing her assumption with a caring gesture by placing a hand upon Tina's belly.


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