Finding Your Way with Your Baby: The Emotional Life of Parents and Babies

by Dilys Daws, Alexandra de Rementeria

Overview

Finding Your Way with Your Baby explores the emotional experience of the baby in the first year and that of the mother, father and other significant adults.

This updated edition is informed by latest research in neuroscience, psychoanalysis and infant observation and decades of clinical experience. It also includes important new findings about how the mother’s brain undergoes massive restructuring during the transition to parenthood, a phenomenon that has been named ‘matrescence.’ The authors engage with the difficult emotional experiences that are often glossed over in parenting books – such as bonding, ambivalence about the baby, depression and the emotional turmoil of being a new parent. Acknowledgement and understanding of this darker side of family life offer a sense of relief that can allow parents to harness the power of knowing, owning and sharing feelings to transform situations and break negative cycles and old ways of relating.

With real-life examples, the book remains a helpful resource for parents, as well as professionals interested in ideas from psychoanalytic clinical practice including health visitors, midwives, social workers, general practitioners, paediatricians and childcare workers.

Chapter 9 of this book is freely available as a downloadable Open Access PDF
at http://www.taylorfrancis.com under a Creative Commons [Attribution-Non
/Commercial-No Derivatives (CC-BY-NC-ND)] 4.0 license.”

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780367533694
Publisher:	Taylor & Francis
Publication date:	09/09/2021
Edition description:	2nd ed.
Pages:	268
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Dilys Daws is an Honorary Consultant Child Psychotherapist at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust, London and visiting consultant at the baby clinic at the James Wigg Practice, Kentish Town Health Centre, London. She was the Founding Chair of the Association for Infant Mental Health, UK, and has also served as the Chair of the Association of Child Psychotherapists. She has 50 years of clinical and teaching experience, working mostly with parents and babies, and has lectured on infant mental health widely in the UK and abroad.

Alexandra de Rementeria is Lead Therapist at the Tavistock Outreach in Schools Project and Course Tutor on the Masters in Psychoanalytic Observational Studies at the Tavistock, London. She is also Editor in Chief of the Journal of Child Psychotherapy. She is the author of numerous articles for publications including the Journal of Child Psychotherapy, Journal of Psychodynamic Practice and the Journal of Infant Observation.

Table of Contents

A note from Dilys Daws xiii

A note on the authors xiv

Acknowledgements xvii

Introduction 1

Part I Becoming a parent 7

1 Life will never be the same again 9

2 Bringing your baby home 26

3 Bonding 35

4 Being a good parent 54

5 Figuring out fatherhood 80

6 Baby blues, postnatal depression and anxiety 96

Part II Being with baby 109

7 Conversations with your baby 111

8 Feeding 123

9 Sleeping 140

10 Crying babies 156

11 Weaning and teething 175

12 Learning through play 182

13 Your baby's emerging sense of self 191

Part III The Wider World 207

14 Wider family and other support 209

15 To work or not to work 228

Recommended reading 238

References 241

Index 245