| Acknowledgments | ix |
| Introduction | 1 |
| Why I Wrote This Book | |
| 1 | Sabotage Versus Success | 5 |
| What Is Self-Sabotage? | |
| Who Self-Sabotages and Why? | |
| What Is Success? | |
| Who Do You Think You Are? | |
| Designing Your Own Belief Tree | |
| Changing Your Actions, Not Your True Self | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Belief Tree | |
| 2 | Self-Defeating Attitudes | 17 |
| Uniqueness--"I'm different. No one else is like me." | |
| Perfectionism--Things have to be perfect | |
| Fear--"I'm afraid to live, I'm afraid to die, I'm afraid of everything in between." | |
| Focusing on Negatives--"What if things don't work out?" | |
| Unworthiness--"I'm not good enough, I'm not important." | |
| Impatience--"I want it all, and I want it now." | |
| Need for Validation--"I want everyone to like me." | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Summary of Self-Defeating Attitudes | |
| Your Top Ten Self-Defeating Attitudes, Beliefs, and Feelings | |
| 3 | Self-Defeating Behaviors: The Result of Self-Defeating Attitudes | 37 |
| Procrastination | |
| Avoidance | |
| Compulsions | |
| Self-Defeating Habits | |
| Irresponsibility | |
| Codependent Behavior | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Your Top Ten Self-Defeating Behaviors | |
| 4 | Awareness Is the First Step toward Change | 51 |
| Heightening Your Awareness to Ensure Greater Success | |
| Antecedents | |
| Breaking the Old Routine | |
| Breaking the Cycle | |
| Stages of Awareness | |
| The Importance of Self-Care | |
| Deep Breathing | |
| Exercise | |
| Meditation | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Awareness Worksheet | |
| Structured Journaling | |
| Sentence Completion | |
| 5 | What You Say Is What You Get | 65 |
| How Self-Talk Affects Behavior | |
| Beliefs Create Reality | |
| Change Your Perception | |
| Affirmations: A Tool to Change Beliefs | |
| Affirmations for Self-Improvement | |
| Overcoming Sabotage and Resistance | |
| Improving Self-Esteem | |
| Body Image and Weight Loss | |
| Relationships | |
| Sexuality | |
| Health and Fitness | |
| Peace and Happiness | |
| Prosperity | |
| General/Motivational | |
| Spiritual | |
| Assertiveness/Boundaries | |
| Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings | |
| Career | |
| Goals | |
| Stress | |
| Fear | |
| Impatience/Unrealistic Expectations/Perfectionism | |
| Taking Risks | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| 6 | Words at Work | 83 |
| Writing Effective Affirmations | |
| Keeping Things Realistic | |
| Affirmations and Avoidance | |
| The Power of Repetition | |
| It's Like Learning a New Language | |
| Written Affirmations | |
| Audio Affirmations | |
| Using Affirmations as a Learning Tool | |
| Focus on the Facts | |
| Written Dialogue: Changing Your Perspective | |
| Say Good-bye to Self-Sabotage | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Writing an Effective Affirmation | |
| Affirmation Tracking Worksheet | |
| Root Down Worksheet | |
| 7 | See It, Believe It, Make It Real | 105 |
| Creative Daydreaming | |
| Mentoring: If They Can Do It, So Can You | |
| Brainstorming to Expand Your Consciousness | |
| Visualizing Your Ideal Future | |
| Make Your Own Advertisement | |
| Beneficial Billboard | |
| The Self-Fulfilling Scrapbook | |
| The Creating History Journal | |
| Acting As If Your Goals Are True | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Seeing Success | |
| Opening Your Mind | |
| 8 | Success Breeds Success | 119 |
| Knowing What You Want Is the First Step in Getting It | |
| If You Could Do Anything You Wanted, What Would It Be? | |
| Success Breeds Success | |
| Setting Small, Manageable Goals | |
| Where Are You, and Where Do You Want to Go? | |
| Mapping Your Goals | |
| Flowcharts | |
| Enlisting the Aid of Others | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Where You Are, and Where You Want to Be | |
| Goal Setting Worksheet | |
| 9 | Acknowledging Your Strengths and Successes | 135 |
| Tracking Techniques | |
| Rewarding Your Success | |
| Being Yourself Makes It Easier to Succeed | |
| Who Am I? | |
| What Do I Want? | |
| The True Self and Self-Esteem | |
| Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places | |
| Being True to Yourself Isn't Selfish | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Success Rewards | |
| Success Journal | |
| Know Yourself, Love Yourself | |
| Create the Life You Want | |
| 10 | Stop Settling and Start Living | 155 |
| Only the Person Who Risks Is Free | |
| The Safe Way: Avoiding Risks | |
| Things That Keep Us Stuck | |
| The Fun Way: Taking Risks | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Breaking Free | |
| 11 | Quitting Is the Only Way to Fail | 163 |
| Setbacks Are Part of Change | |
| Winners Never Quit, Quitters Never Win | |
| Resting Isn't the Same as Quitting | |
| Letting Go of Quick-Fix Mentality | |
| Affirmations for Persistence | |
| Rehearsing and Practicing for Your Dream Life | |
| Commit to a Contract | |
| Keys to a Persistent Attitude | |
| Task List and Action Plan | |
| Preparing for Success | |
| Commitment Review | |
| Your Persistance Plan of Action | |
| Persistence Inventory | |
| Self-Contract | |
| What Is Life Trying to Teach You? | |
| References | 183 |
